ester
Not slacking multitasking
We had a regular running joke both ways of 'did you win?!' it was quite exciting/unusual if either Dad or us could say yes!
Horse husbands
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We had a regular running joke both ways of 'did you win?!' it was quite exciting/unusual if either Dad or us could say yes!
milliepops
Wears headscarf aggressively
that's brilliant
I put my foot in it when I got picked for team wales at the dressage this year, I said words to the effect of "one of us has to step up" as he usually shoots on the welsh team but didn't try out for it this year. Bit of a raw nerve there apparently, even though he chose not to do it!
ester
Not slacking multitasking
haha oops!
zaminda
Well-Known Member
I'm another who would say the problem isn't the horse especially if you have always shared and loaned. For me it sounds like a control thing if I'm honest how is he about you doing any non horsey things without him?
I'm incredibly lucky as my OH is beyond supportive. He happily comes and hangs around all day driving around the countryside throwing water at us as endurance is pretty much a team sport!, He also takes really good pictures can put on rugs help with stuff and doesn't ride which is a win win for me as my ex rode and it caused serious rows! I would love to get him on one occasionally but he isn't a small guy and none of mine are really suitable!
I'm incredibly lucky as my OH is beyond supportive. He happily comes and hangs around all day driving around the countryside throwing water at us as endurance is pretty much a team sport!, He also takes really good pictures can put on rugs help with stuff and doesn't ride which is a win win for me as my ex rode and it caused serious rows! I would love to get him on one occasionally but he isn't a small guy and none of mine are really suitable!
Ben2684
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Having read all these makes me realise how lucky I am too. Always a good thing every now and again to stop and appreciate your own situation!
OH is totally non horsey and never will be. There have been times (new saddle/vets bills/yard move) where he just isn’t got it and we’ve had to have talks but generally he wants to see me happy and puts up with a lot. Luckiest thing for me is that he likes me out of the house for hours on end so he can clean! But it’s down to compromise, in return I do all the cooking and walk the dogs as my 9-5 job is easier to do this around. He does get shirty if we don’t have a day or so a month when I do minimal amount at the yard and we plan something together, which I’m happy to do. He doesn’t ‘get’ horses at all but does like the sociable element so will come with me to a clinic or a fun ride and bring a picnic and chat/eat/drink with me and my friends.
Financially if you are wholly responsible for your horses then I can’t see a problem, is he jealous of the time you spend with them? We are saving for a house presently so I do have to justify every outlay however small but that’s for the benefit of both of us. It’s all about compromise
OH is totally non horsey and never will be. There have been times (new saddle/vets bills/yard move) where he just isn’t got it and we’ve had to have talks but generally he wants to see me happy and puts up with a lot. Luckiest thing for me is that he likes me out of the house for hours on end so he can clean! But it’s down to compromise, in return I do all the cooking and walk the dogs as my 9-5 job is easier to do this around. He does get shirty if we don’t have a day or so a month when I do minimal amount at the yard and we plan something together, which I’m happy to do. He doesn’t ‘get’ horses at all but does like the sociable element so will come with me to a clinic or a fun ride and bring a picnic and chat/eat/drink with me and my friends.
Financially if you are wholly responsible for your horses then I can’t see a problem, is he jealous of the time you spend with them? We are saving for a house presently so I do have to justify every outlay however small but that’s for the benefit of both of us. It’s all about compromise
Dave's Mam
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Yep, this is our house. I usually get away with one weekend day at home per month, doing housey stuff & being social. He knows this isn't possible in winter, as pony in & mucking out & turning out / in needs done.