How do you stay upbeat and chirpy?

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It's going to be a moan...
Could you please tell me how do you stay chirpy (for lack of better word) when life throws **** at you?
Don't get me wrong, I know that many people have it worse and I'm quite fortunate in my life... I'm just frustrated and need to moan atm.
My lorry died, means no transport, means no shows/clinics/parties.... I need to sell some horses - they're just not selling... Need to show them out more, but until I sell some, I can't afford a lorry... and I won't sell them until I show them out more...
I'm run of my feet, tired, sleepy and grumpy! All seems to be just one long hard slog...
Horses don't get enough work, I haven't ridden a decent track for nearly 2 years and for one reason or another it is always put on back burner.
So, how do you pick yourself up and carry on with a smile?
Answers on a postcard please:)
 
I don't have good days all the time due to previous serious **** that still has an effect on me and my family. However my horses always make me smile and mostly there's one of them doing something to make me laugh. Apparently there has been recent research to prove that laughter really is the best medicine.

http://icanhascheezburger.com/ This often helps as well, especially if you are a cat lover.
 
Sadly, you're living your life not everyone else whos got it worse than u!
So, much as you know u ain;t got the worst ****, it doesn;t always help!:rolleyes:
Go put a quid on the lottery, u may win it! Grab a bottle of wine, box of choccies and enjoy!:)
Just remember, life isn't a rehersal as far as any of us knows, and its too short- try and not dwell, but think positve and enjoy!
 
martlin said:
So, how do you pick yourself up and carry on with a smile?
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Give yourself a break doing something completely different. I'm one for struggling on through the rubbish times, but in January I had a long weekend with an ex-uni friend, stayed in a travelodge in the middle of a city and just had a fun time. Stayed out late, danced til I had blisters on my blisters, went out for (cheap ;)) meals, window shopping - everything that I don't do at home.

Came back feeling totally refreshed and ready to take on the world. Before that I hadn't been on holiday for about 8 years as there is always something else to spend money on, but it wasn't expensive and I didn't have to leave the horses for long :) Worked a treat.

FWIW I'm in a similar position - can't afford transport now and so can't get the horse out to parties - but the 3 day break in my saving plan was so worth it. Chin up.;)
 
Thanks guys, I didn't actually expect to get any replies:)
It'll get better, I'm sure, soon... I just need one fricking break, just one thing I touch to go right FGS!
Sometimes it's just calamity after calamity and I would like to curl up in bed for whole day, only I can't, because there are several mouths to feed and stables to muck out, and horses to exercise, and then some more to feed and it just bl@@dy goes on and on and on.
BUT! I have just made a Greek salad and am going to consume it with a large glass of red:D
 
What milliepops said ^^^^^

Book yourself that time off, somewhere nice to go (maybe not the travelodge?), something to look forward too! I'm thinking July-August time :) Somehow it will all survive without you for a few days I'm sure!
 
KitKat_89 said:
What milliepops said ^^^^^

Book yourself that time off, somewhere nice to go (maybe not the travelodge?), something to look forward too! I'm thinking July-August time :) Somehow it will all survive without you for a few days I'm sure!
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HAH, yes... holidays:) I think I should book it for just when my mother is planning to descend on me and leave you to it!:D
ETS: I'm sure you're going to get on like a house on fire!!!
 
HAHA! Go on then..... but no houses on fire!

Im sure your mother is lovely! But I dont think my Polish is quite fluent enough for any kind of nice chats :D
 
KitKat_89 said:
HAHA! Go on then..... but no houses on fire!

Im sure your mother is lovely! But I dont think my Polish is quite fluent enough for any kind of nice chats :D
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Don't worry, mother speaks very good English:) there is no getting away from chats whatsoever...
MrsM, I was thinking of you, you'll understand, it hasn't been desperately easy for you recently and yet you manage to come here and be 'chirpy', I'm jealous.
 
Ok a short but serious answer is pick one thing that is causing you a problem and try and deal with it and find a solution eg no transport - maybe look and find if you can rent a trailer - organise some classes etc so you have a busy/.constructive week/month (whatever) and hire the transport and go do stuff.:)

You and the horses get out, do some shows, get some experience, you get to jump etc, show off neds for sale and maybe generate some interest.:D

No matter how poo you think your life is there are millions of people who would give their right arm for a tiny bit of what we all have and take for granted everyday.:D

*slinky retreats to polish halo and hide from flying objects from Martlin for being smug*;):D:D
 
Slinky! you were supposed to help me wallow in my misery! as to the transport, I can't tow a trailer, so it has to be a lorry (and 3.5t one at that), I suppose I could rent one, but the youngsters need to practice loading and it feels me with dread that they are going to wreck a rental and I will be in trouble:(

Pedantic - brilliant, as usual:)
 
martlin said:
It's going to be a moan...
Could you please tell me how do you stay chirpy (for lack of better word) when life throws **** at you?
Don't get me wrong, I know that many people have it worse and I'm quite fortunate in my life... I'm just frustrated and need to moan atm.
My lorry died, means no transport, means no shows/clinics/parties.... I need to sell some horses - they're just not selling... Need to show them out more, but until I sell some, I can't afford a lorry... and I won't sell them until I show them out more...
I'm run of my feet, tired, sleepy and grumpy! All seems to be just one long hard slog...
Horses don't get enough work, I haven't ridden a decent track for nearly 2 years and for one reason or another it is always put on back burner.
So, how do you pick yourself up and carry on with a smile?
Answers on a postcard please:)
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Tell you what, I'll come over for a few days and when I've gone, you'll be soooo relieved, the world and life will seem wonderful!
 
Thanks MrsM! Hugh the Huge Trailer sounds good, will you be my chauffeur as well? Cos I can't tow a trailer (well, not legally anyway).
Have you seen a property that grabs your fancy around here then?
 
Hugh the Huge is towed ably by the Dirty Disco - I'll happily drive anyone anywhere for the mere whiff of a chocolate bar :D

Well, the house is almost done - just the floors left to repolish after this weekend :). Then we hunt! Given our budget, our ability to live in any part of the country, our need for a hugely lovely big school (simply because I want one lol), that whilst I don't know exactly where you are, there is a chance you're somewhere that we might be able to get what we're looking for :D
 
LOL! I'll be on the lookout for a nice property around me then:D That would be ace:) I think I could try to bully my neighbours into selling up... hmm, maybe not;)
I'm between Sleaford and Boston, in the middle of nowhere but with decent road links;)
 
Actually (despite my expectations) this whole thread has made me feel rather upbeat and chirpy! So, although my original answer was going to be 'wine and a holiday', I'm gonna say this thread!
 
Go on then, MrsM! Give me your requirements and I'm off to find you a house:D
A place 500 yards from me has just sold after being on the market for over a year, nothing wrong with it, just how it goes, but anyway, shame you didn't buy it, cos the new people are rather weird
 
Honestly, after the last 18 months, I am just so very glad to be alive and that my beloved horses are too. My dream horse is no longer rideable, and 18 months ago, that seemed the worst possible thing in the world, but now, well I am just so relieved that she is still here for me to cuddle, and I am alive and without brain damage.

I have lost my beloved old dog in the last year, but I can still smile when I think of her as I know she had a fantastic life. My health is not great, but after my injury I am so damn lucky to be alive, I just can't take that for granted. And, as I have learned all too well in this period, when everything feels s**t, it may get worse than you ever imagined, but even then it will get better than you ever dared hope it would:)

Keep your chin up :) Let's face it, when your life revolves around horses, then you never know what is round the corner; good or bad. xx
 
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