How strange. Should i be worried?

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Yesterday there was a fete in the village. Our field was used as the car park, so the field was separated, horses at the back of the field and the cars in the front. The fete started at 12.30, but i didnt go. i got to the field at about 4pm and the fete was ending and cars were leaving. I parked by the shelter half way down the field by the electric fence and got Lady in to feed her. I noticed 2 cars parked near the fence and the people were stood talking. I was just about to let Lady back into the field when i heard "Oi blud, Oi blud! how old is that horse?" i turned round and saw a coloured man shouting over to my OH and he was asking loads of details about the horses. He was asking questions like how old the horses were, how much we paid for them, how much they were worth, who they belonged to etc. I went over and asked what was going on, and he asked me the same questions. He kept asking how much i paid for them and when i asked why he said "just wondering, innit." (imagine a 'proper gangtsa like' guy) I just replied with 'Well....she was £500.....i dunno about the others theyre not mine" and he made a comment "must cost you alot of money innit...." i just said "...right, ok...." and walked off, let Lady out, got my bag and got his car details. I pretended to leave but hid behind the weeping willow tree and watched him. He was sat in his car looking at the horses for at least 20mins before he drove off. He was also with a woman.
I told the other horse owners, the farmer and a woman living in a house opposite the field, gave her my name and number and asked her to let me know if she sees him again (i gave her his car details and what he looked like) The other horse owners asked the farmer if he could park his car over the drive overnight but i dont think he did. Anyway, nothing happened last night, but im still worried. Our gate doesnt have a lock on it atm because there is a public footpath through the field, but we have got a new gate and currently waiting for it to be fitted, along with possibly a kissing gate for the public, so we can padlock the larger gate. Should i be worried?
 
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I wouldn't worry too much, he was probably just interested, maybe the woman he was with was his wife/girlfriend and he was thinking about buying her a horse or something. I think if he was planning anything nefarious, he wouldn't have made his interest so obvious - surely thieves are smarter/more sneaky than that? Sounds like you've done all you can to make sure everything's safe anyway, so no point in worrying really. :)
 
Maybe he wants to buy his lady friend a pony?

I'd worry too though as I'm a worrier but I think you did the right thing warning everyone and keeping a watch.
 
horsegirl said:
Coloured?


:):)
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To be polite as I have been informed, the preferential term is "mixed race". I was told by a friend who has "mixed race" children and does not like them to be called coloured. She has no problem in telling me I look germanic though ( no offense to Germans and actually, one set of Grand parents were German) but still!
 
Just because someone speaks differently, or is of a different ethnicity that doesn't mean they're going to murder you in your bed and steal your horses. It sounds like he was really friendly - bet he was talking to his girlfriend in the car about how strange that lady was and that now she's pretending to hide behind a tree and spy on him.
 
I find mixed race worse personally!! As would my coloured Nan!! i think its horses for courses there - so long as you don't mean any harm most of my coloured family don't mind how they are referred to :) a very grounded bunch!!

As for the question in hand, try not to worry yourself overly - some people are just interested with no evil motives :)
 
if he was a real horse theif he wouldnt need to ask those questions to you as he would be up on horse prices and worth and could tell from a glance if the horse was worth stealing or not. Also a real horse theif wouldntshow their face and make comments for you to remember them or get suspicious by what they say. It wouldnt do to forewarn you!
However there is absolutely no harm in being extra carefull just in case and what you have done so far is spot on.
Generally if anyone asks me what my horses are worth etc i usually say how they are worth next to nothing in this financial market and how you cant sell horses these days for love nor money. Usually quashes any thoughts ofunderhand dealings!!
 
Of course you should be worried, because all black people that ask questions MUST have criminal intent, because a black person could never actually be interested in horses, could they...
*rolls eyes*

I also wouldn't have a kissing gate in a horse field. A style is easier, cheaper and safer IMO.
 
millreef said:
Yes but why mention his colour anyway? It's nothing to do with anything really.
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just about to say this.. reminds me of my mum :rolleyes:

My Ethnic brothers just prefer black, but often used to try to get me to say the N word. If i were to descibe them as anything (my mates that is) it would be dicks :D
 
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ThePinkPony said:
just about to say this.. reminds me of my mum :rolleyes:
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The funniest/worse I have ever seen was on another horse forum, someone posted asking if they should consider a house for sale, the neighbours were ‘Asian’ and they were worried about ‘a large family always coming and going’ and ‘the smell of curry’...

I kid you not!
 
Regardless of the issue or race/colour how rude of the man to ask you about the monetary value of your horses :eek: I always find that a very strange thing for anyone to ask. It's like those people who always want to know how much people paid for their car etc.
 
oh come on chaps I think you are being a tad harsh and judgemental yourselves here. The OP has apologised and only mentioned colour imo to give us a picture of a cult speaking type. She likely found him intimidating - don't we all find people who are from a completely different social circle intimidating at times?? To be asked a lot of detailed questions about your horse from a complete stranger is odd enough. To be asked them by someone who didn't look like a 'horsey type' is even more odd.
He was likely trying to impress his girl. Give some helpful comments don't gang up on the OP.
 
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Dizzle said:
The funniest/worse I have ever seen was on another horse forum, someone posted asking if they should consider a house for sale, the neighbours were ‘Asian’ and they were worried about ‘a large family always coming and going’ and ‘the smell of curry’...

I kid you not!
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As someone who until recently lived in a flat above an asian family I'm sick to the back teeth of the smell of curry! :D (they were a bit wierd tho and were evicted for it)

I'd be worried if I was the OP mainly coz I worry about stuff like that :o Can you get a horsewatch sign to put on your gate from your local horsewatch team and alert them? It's worth doing even if you aren't worried tbh :)
 
Living and growing up in South London, I've found that sometimes what the person says and how they say it often isn't heard the way they mean it, it's just their manner and the way they speak, which can often come out the wrong way if you're not used to it. No offence intended, just saying sometimes it can take some getting used to :) Maybe he was just wondering because he and/or his lady friend are thinking of purchasing/getting into the horse world. You've done all you can by telling people and I would be a bit concerned if I were in your shoes but I wouldn't worry too much, just keep a close eye out and be careful! Ideally have someone close by who can keep an eye out but I wouldn't get in too much of a state xx
 
YasandCrystal said:
oh come on chaps I think you are being a tad harsh and judgemental yourselves here. The OP has apologised and only mentioned colour imo to give us a picture of a cult speaking type. She likely found him intimidating - don't we all find people who are from a completely different social circle intimidating at times?? To be asked a lot of detailed questions about your horse from a complete stranger is odd enough. To be asked them by someone who din't look like a 'horsey type' is even more odd.
He was likely trying to impress his girl. Give some helpful comments don't gang up on the OP.
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just what i was trying to work out how to say!
If the OP had written 'ginger man' or 'Polish man' or 'chinese man' or 'tall man' would anyone be criticising? it was written as a description of the man, not intended to be derogatory. There are plenty of far worse words she could have picked if she was wanting to be racist!
 
Dizzle said:
The funniest/worse I have ever seen was on another horse forum, someone posted asking if they should consider a house for sale, the neighbours were ‘Asian’ and they were worried about ‘a large family always coming and going’ and ‘the smell of curry’...

I kid you not!
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No i believe you. We had a black family move down the end of our road and there was uproar, first non white family in the village. Lil bro made freinds instantly and i caught mum bitching with her friend who said..

''you wait, gangs, drugs, it wont be safe....'

didnt like it too much when i said ''oh god, your son aint moving back to the village is he?' :D bigoted knobheads letting skin colour affect the way they see people, i got a tan today, doent mean ill be nipping over to jersey shore at the weekend :rolleyes:
 
Funnily enough I have just had to stay a black man (and I asked him what the PC way of referring to him was and he said it was black!) Anyway he has never been near a horse before and asked to see the horses in the field. He asked very similar questions because he really didn't know what to ask.
He was so proud to have some pictures taken of him with the horses around him and the fact that he had actually patted and made a fuss of several.

I wouldn't worry to much.
 
I think the op wishes she hadnt started this thread, stop nit picking and start giving her advice :mad: I personally dont think you have any thing to worry about.
 
you did the right thing and for peace of mind I would let your local police know. Probably just interested in how much horses cost etc but if you pass the details on they will check for you to see if they have had any incidences or is known to police.

My children are not white(I am) and I get fed up with political correctness. If he was coloured brown pink yellow visibly ethnic or invisibly ethnic. How are you supposed to describe someone Dulux colour chart next(its getting that way now).

In fact as my kids grew up you really would not think they belonged to me especially when they had a paddy(oops) and started calling mummy mummy! I often felt like I was abducting my own kids! They are big and brown and I take the pee out of their nice big brown eyelashes and use to call them chocolate boys(there was a song in the pop chart about chocolate boys). So dont worry you were being descriptive and not racist. Cant believe anyone picked up on it.......They are reaching adult hood and I will be glad when I dont have to fill out another school form asking religion colour language bla blah.

I think you can tell it hacks me off. You were not offensive so dont worry or feel at all bad no way!
 
Well, I know the OP has apologised and no we shouldn't nit pick but it is a little unsavoury when someone posts about a black man showing interest in her horse and thinks he wants to nick it.

Aren't black people allowed horses?
 
I got stopped yesterday by a husband and wife couple who were absoltuly pie eyed at 4.00 in the afternoon. Wife was drinking from a tinny and husband was swigging the remains of a bottle of whisky they both looked like they had stepped out of the cast of Shameless.

Both simply wanted to admire friends very impressive overheight dales pony (15.2 and big with it! and the husband said his wife used to have horses and he was very proud of himself when I allowed him to stroke ponys neck. He said he had never dared touch a horse before and was really pleased to be allowed to.

I suspect that the chap that the original poster meet was simply exhibiting curosity about a hobby and an animal he hadnt had much contact with. I am always happy to talk about my pony (or friends) with people when riding out as i think we have a bad enough image of being eltist as it is but obviously I always procceed with caution and carry a schooling whip just in case...
 
tallyho! said:
Well, I know the OP has apologised and no we shouldn't nit pick but it is a little unsavoury when someone posts about a black man showing interest in her horse and thinks he wants to nick it.

Aren't black people allowed horses?
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Yes this was my point, it wasn't the way she described his colour it's the fact that he MUST be wanting to nick it if he's black!
 
Dizzle said:
Yes this was my point, it wasn't the way she described his colour it's the fact that he MUST be wanting to nick it if he's black!
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That is your interpretation of her comment, I would think it was more that he was asking about the value, how much each horse had cost, etc along with his manner of speech, that made her worry about the security of her horse/
 
Dizzle said:
Yes this was my point, it wasn't the way she described his colour it's the fact that he MUST be wanting to nick it if he's black!
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Oh back off Dizzle - FFS OP said nothing nor implied nothing of the sort!

Now if she had said that a couple of lads with strong northern irish accents were paying a lot of interest in your ponies I would be advising her to camp in the field!!

Black guy - no - probably had had a successful flutter on the gee gees recently and fancied himself as a trainer. lol.
 
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