pippixox
Well-Known Member
So I am not planning on children for a few more years, but we are getting married this year and hopefully buying a house next year, so I can't help but think about the future......
I honestly just don't know how we will ever afford children.
I have 2 horses, kept as cheap as possible on rented land and barn, but they still cost thousands a year of course! My OH runs his own tree surgery business & I work 2 jobs, as a support assistant at a SEN school & play leader at a special needs charity. I work 50 hours a week, but only earn a low hourly wage. Currently we split everything down the middle, except I pay 100% for my horses, & he spends plenty on bikes!
basically, I would earn less or almost equal to how much nursery charges, so it would not make financial sense to work. Although I love my jobs. But my OH has said he wont pay for the horses, as they are my hobby & also he would be paying for all our living costs if we had a child, so really would not have the money after that.
There must be other people in my boat? what do you do?
My only thought is that I can work evenings, so I look after child in the day while OH works and then he looks after child in the evenings while I work. But I know he would like some evenings after work to cycle and then we would hardly see each other as we would only really have weekends.
It is really playing on my mind. I know I want children but could not part with my horses
thanks for reading my long post!
I honestly just don't know how we will ever afford children.
I have 2 horses, kept as cheap as possible on rented land and barn, but they still cost thousands a year of course! My OH runs his own tree surgery business & I work 2 jobs, as a support assistant at a SEN school & play leader at a special needs charity. I work 50 hours a week, but only earn a low hourly wage. Currently we split everything down the middle, except I pay 100% for my horses, & he spends plenty on bikes!
basically, I would earn less or almost equal to how much nursery charges, so it would not make financial sense to work. Although I love my jobs. But my OH has said he wont pay for the horses, as they are my hobby & also he would be paying for all our living costs if we had a child, so really would not have the money after that.
There must be other people in my boat? what do you do?
My only thought is that I can work evenings, so I look after child in the day while OH works and then he looks after child in the evenings while I work. But I know he would like some evenings after work to cycle and then we would hardly see each other as we would only really have weekends.
It is really playing on my mind. I know I want children but could not part with my horses
thanks for reading my long post!