catembi
Well-Known Member
I've been doing a lot of lying awake pondering lately. It's been all change for me over the past few years - new husband, new house, new horse, new job...t to think about. There are a LOT of issues - my last house's land was flat & sandy; this house is clay & sloping, I don't have a school here (yet), I only have a temp stable block while I'm getting planning, my new horse has kicked me in the face & has been diagnosed with shivers...
Anyway, Summer the new horse has been lame (sent over from Ireland with a big crack in her front foot, etc etc) but is now sound and barefoot, so I took her out for a hack yesterday, accompanied by the fencer (polo player & works with horses) on foot. She felt to me like a pressure cooker all the way round. Jogging. neighing, snatching at the reins, generally being v impatient. I was so relieved to get home alive. But then he said, 'she's being a stroppy madam. I'd take her around again for that.' So I said, 'okay then, YOU take her'. So we swapped & he took her. She was broadly the same, except he wasn't bothered by it, left her mouth alone (I was trying to do that, but she felt as if she was going to **** off with me), & the verdict from him is that he likes her & would hack her all day, & just to bend her right if she's having a strop.
So this morning's ponderings were: should I just give up & get a rocking horse? It also occurred to me that in riding, AND EVERYTHING ELSE IN MY LIFE, I try to work around things rather than insisting. E.g. with picking feet up, standing at the mounting block etc. So with feet, I feed to distract & then try to be as quick as possible before the fidgeting starts. Mounting, I would try to get on quickly to avoid making her stand. Stroppiness out hacking - I try to sit there v quietly & hope it blows over. I never actually INSIST that anyone does anything...and wouldn't actually know HOW to. And this translates to work, i.e. my job, that pays for all this 'fun'. If I say we ought to do something, then I get overridden, I just give in. I've found that if I insist, the other person (like the horse...) just gets stroppier, so I will give in anyway, so I might as well give in to start with.
I bought an ID as I wanted jumping performance without too much attitude, but she is very strong & opinionated with no ground manners. She has had a lot of change - over from Ireland, 6 weeks at a busy comp centre, then here, introduced to Shetland friend, new New Forest pony, moved from field to field as the fencing gets underway, new stable block, various ver investigations so she's entitled to feel unsettled. But...it's supposed to be fun, and everything feels like such an uphill struggle. And it's just me here on my own. O/h is non horsey and doesn't like them.
Aaarrrrggghhh, how to be less wet? Or should I just give up on my aspirations and get something that barely has a pulse for a once a week hack? Sorry, pointless post, but better out than in & all that...
Anyway, Summer the new horse has been lame (sent over from Ireland with a big crack in her front foot, etc etc) but is now sound and barefoot, so I took her out for a hack yesterday, accompanied by the fencer (polo player & works with horses) on foot. She felt to me like a pressure cooker all the way round. Jogging. neighing, snatching at the reins, generally being v impatient. I was so relieved to get home alive. But then he said, 'she's being a stroppy madam. I'd take her around again for that.' So I said, 'okay then, YOU take her'. So we swapped & he took her. She was broadly the same, except he wasn't bothered by it, left her mouth alone (I was trying to do that, but she felt as if she was going to **** off with me), & the verdict from him is that he likes her & would hack her all day, & just to bend her right if she's having a strop.
So this morning's ponderings were: should I just give up & get a rocking horse? It also occurred to me that in riding, AND EVERYTHING ELSE IN MY LIFE, I try to work around things rather than insisting. E.g. with picking feet up, standing at the mounting block etc. So with feet, I feed to distract & then try to be as quick as possible before the fidgeting starts. Mounting, I would try to get on quickly to avoid making her stand. Stroppiness out hacking - I try to sit there v quietly & hope it blows over. I never actually INSIST that anyone does anything...and wouldn't actually know HOW to. And this translates to work, i.e. my job, that pays for all this 'fun'. If I say we ought to do something, then I get overridden, I just give in. I've found that if I insist, the other person (like the horse...) just gets stroppier, so I will give in anyway, so I might as well give in to start with.
I bought an ID as I wanted jumping performance without too much attitude, but she is very strong & opinionated with no ground manners. She has had a lot of change - over from Ireland, 6 weeks at a busy comp centre, then here, introduced to Shetland friend, new New Forest pony, moved from field to field as the fencing gets underway, new stable block, various ver investigations so she's entitled to feel unsettled. But...it's supposed to be fun, and everything feels like such an uphill struggle. And it's just me here on my own. O/h is non horsey and doesn't like them.
Aaarrrrggghhh, how to be less wet? Or should I just give up on my aspirations and get something that barely has a pulse for a once a week hack? Sorry, pointless post, but better out than in & all that...