FestiveSpirit
Well-Known Member
Great thread K - just a couple of things to add
there are plenty to great riders who can't teach, and some great trainers who can't ride - really the topic of another thread - but Dot Willis comes to mind.... she could definitely train!!
As an instructor, one of the things I love about teaching is finding the right words ..... I know what I want to produce in the horse and rider, but not every rider understands the same words and phrases. I can say the same thing 20 different ways so that 20 different riders can communicate it to the horse. The psychology of training is fascinating
ETA I train one of my best friends - she would be my friend if I didn't teach her, and I would teach her even if we weren't good friends. We are good at making a clear demarcation between the two - at least I think so - she may be along later to deny the whole thing lol!!
I think to teach friends though, there has to be mutual respect and a degree of professionalism.....
I deny the whole thing of course
To me it is difficult to quantify a "good" instructor as an individual's requirements will vary so much? Using myself as an example, I had flatwork lessons from my YO (who trains with Isobel Wessels) and they just did not work at all. I cannot tell you why, but whatever she said just didnt sink in and we never got decent results. Then I went to ride at Spacefaer's yard one day, and she was casually making comments to me as I rode and we chatted - and it worked
Spacefaer uses the same words as my YO, the same phrases, looks for the same outcome, and trains with the same person now but her teaching methods made it all come together in my head in a way it never did with my YOs lessons
So of course I would completely disagree that you cannot be taught by friends