I am So Cross!!! - UPDATE

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Well, I have arranged to go and see my boy this weekend, and I had decided to ask for him back, face to face, as many people on here suggested. I calmed down a bit, and started making some arrangements for him to come home - already have a sharer lined up for him, who will do a few days riding etc with him, great.

Right, this is where it might get complicated so bear with me... The lady that has him texted me (she still doesn't have my mobile number, just my landline, so she doesn't realise she is texting me) and said she would give up her other horse if it meant getting the one I am trying to loan out. I replied telling her that I already had people coming to see him, and that she wont be able to have him. Last night and this morning she has been calling. leaving messages and texting me, practically begging to come and see Ollie. I text her and said that I would not let him go on loan to someone who already had loan horses, and she replied "but I can't send this other one back as the owner really abused him and when he turned up he was skin and bones".

I am now furious (all over again). How DARE she!! None of my horses have ever been 'skin and bone' (apart from a rescue case who arrived like that) and the horse in question was probably the most pampered of all! I am now even angrier, and think I might just call her up this evening when she finishes work and tell her to cancel all her plans as we are going to get him straight away!!
 
Get him back asap and tell her to F off.

What are you trying to loan out. A good friend has had a terrible run of bad luck and is looking for a genuine JRN eventer for her very tall daughter.

Excellent home and nice rider.
 
She is going to have serious egg on her face when she finds out it was you she was texting!! I would crawl into a small hole somewhere & hide forever! Seriously though get your neddie back as soon as then give her what for.
 
Get your neddy back tonight!! If it was me I would have gone supernova by now! I can't believe what a manipulative, lying b*tch this woman is!!
 
remember revenge is a dish best eaten cold!!!

So take a deep breath step back look at it all get all the texts saved and go to the yard with a box and and when she asks why you have a box tell her about the texts and everything and load him up and go home and do it all calmly

Good luck get your boy back!!! let us know how you get on this weekend
 
I would definitely do that! What a complete cow!

I would tell her exactly why you are taking him too!
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remember revenge is a dish best eaten cold!!!

So take a deep breath step back look at it all get all the texts saved and go to the yard with a box and and when she asks why you have a box tell her about the texts and everything and load him up and go home and do it all calmly

Good luck get your boy back!!! let us know how you get on this weekend

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I couldn't agree more with the above messages from angua2 and effervescent. Just go along with your box and collect him, if and when you are asked you can produce the evidence. Don't get stewed up about it, just make sure you have all your plans in place. Good luck.
 
Ohh effervesent - I thought you mean't a box to stand on to read the texts out to the whole yard and really embarrass this person... sounds like a good idea.
 
Hi Thistle - I am trying to loan out a 16hh 9yo (his birthday yesterday) Irish Sport Horse. Very well bred, sire-line is King of Diamonds and dam line is Clover Hill. He passed a full five stage vetting with x-rays when we got him, and I don't really want to loan him out, but with my mare and foal doing so well at county level showing, I want to concentrate on them 100%.
 
I wouldn't even give her the benefit of a call to warn her you are collecting him tonight. I would go straight over there for when she arrives back, park and then ring her mobile number without her seeing you (does that makes any sense?) then when she answers it you can ask her how soon 'her' loan horse can go back or something, while she is 'being creative with the truth' then you can walk around the corner still talking to her on the phone! Would almost pay to watch her go spuce!
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What a horrid person she is; how many other people has she affected like this?

Don't get mad, get even and get your horse back!
 
Pat that is a piece of evil genius (have you been taking lessons from Shils?).


Can I have a ticket to come and watch please?
 
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I wouldn't even give her the benefit of a call to warn her you are collecting him tonight. I would go straight over there for when she arrives back, park and then ring her mobile number without her seeing you (does that makes any sense?) then when she answers it you can ask her how soon 'her' loan horse can go back or something, while she is 'being creative with the truth' then you can walk around the corner still talking to her on the phone! Would almost pay to watch her go spuce!
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BRILLIANT!!!
 
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Pat that is a piece of evil genius (have you been taking lessons from Shils?).


Can I have a ticket to come and watch please?

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ROFL! Just cunning! I had to deal with a big liar last year and they hated it when they were be found out and challenged. I think it was the finding out they had been found out that upset them more than anything; even then they'd try to deny things when it was proven. Never mind not having an apology, it was worth it to see them squirm and their faces were pictures! Very satisfying I do have to say
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Gosh this women just gets worse! is she a compulsive liar? I know exactly what I'd do, I'd ring her back and say she can come and have a look at your new loan horse, when she clicks on on its you (from your address details) and a) doesn't turn up because she realises its you, you can then ring her and see what she's got to say for herself time wasting or b) if she actually has the back bone to own up on the phone when she hears you tell her where you live, and see what she has to say for herself! .....and if she has the cheek to turn up, well you best ask her why she hasn't brought your other horse back on the journey because she's had a wasted journey!!!!!!!!!!

Oh the other hand you could be completely civilised, not play along anymore and just say look I know who you are, you obviously don't know its me, you've deeply upset and insulted me and I'm coming to collect my horse so you best have him ready for when I turn up because I've got nothing more to say to you.

I know what I'd do.
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In the meantime, take it easy and hope you both get them in nice new homes.:)
 
I really think you need to just go to the yard with a box and take your boy. If this turns nasty there's no telling what my happen, you need him home ASAP.
 
I would be a bit wary of playing tricks on this person, tempting though it may be!

She will already feel humiliated when you reveal that it's you she's been texting - best not to rub it in or make too much of a dramatic scene out of it. Not that she doesn't deserve this - she does, but when people lose face in a big way like this, they can become very angry and aggressive, even violent.

For your own safety, don't 'rub her face in it' too much. If she loses too much face, especially if it's in front of other people, she could feel that she has nothing to lose and do something really nasty.

(I'm not just talking off the top of my head here - I spent many years as a consultant on the prevention and management of aggression/violence!)
 
I agree with Tobago - She is gonna be backed into a corner, and very embarrased about the whole situation. I would suggest going in nice and calmly and quietly, explain the situation calmly and say that in light of these circumstances you are taking the horse home with you and you wish her luck in finding another one - make sure you take some people with her and leave as calmly as you arrived. Don't give her the satisfaction of getting pissed off with her in public!

If anyone from her yard asks, just mention that you also own the horse that she has been looking to replace that one with and it was clear from her contact that she didn't realise who you where - that should get them thinking!!
 
or i would say nothing just go and collect your horse, then as the alternative person invite her to come and see the other horse, that way you have your horsey back and can wipe the smile off her face
 
I think Kenzo has the right idea. Say the other loaners have fallen through and she can come and see him now. Let the penny drop lol
 
Fmm - Nope, because on one of the texts she actually descibed him down to the last detail, including his injury that he picked up a few years ago.

I am going to see him today, and whilst I love the ideas nof catching her out, what is really important to me is to get my lad home - I am not really interested in making her look foolish, as what long term goal would I achieve? My OH (who I rely on to drive the lorry) doesn't want me to get him back and so is being a pain about when we can go and get him. He thinks I am overreacting and I should leave things as they are (he has no compassion for my boy, as he knows I would never sell him and so therefore can't see the point in spending money on an animal that will never make money - typical farmer!)

Keep fingers crossed for me that I have the guts to tell this woman that I am having my boy back - everytime I had tried in the past, she has talked me out of it. i am obviously just too much of a pushover
 
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