I am So Cross!!!

I have the most fantastic horse (of course I am biased) that I retired from top competition just over a year ago. I loaned him to a local rider, whom has her own yard and cracking facilities. Her circumstances were that she had to have her old horse PTS and could not afford to buy another, hence loaning.

She downgraded him to do lower lever affiliated dressage, but "got bored" with it, and said she wanted to take him showjumping. I had already told her that he does not enjoy showjumping anymore. I then found out that she hasn't ridden my boy for the last four months, because she has bought two 'wrecks' to bring on and sell (she described them as wrecks by the way). She has now (apparently) sold them, and was competing my boy again (although as farm as I am aware he is still stood in a field doing nothing!).

Anyway, I have another horse that I am putting out on loan, as I do not have the time for him at the moment, and I advertised him with my new mobile number. Who should ring and leave a message, but the lady who is already loaning my other horse! She didn't realise it was me, and left a message saying "I have a loan horse at the moment, that the owner has dumped on me, but if I get another one I will send him straight back".

I am so angry!! She begged me to have the horse in question, I had someone else lined up, but she talked me round. Then, when I said I wanted to have him back a few months ago, she burst into tears telling me she was so attached and didn't want him to go, so I gave in and let her keep him. Now I find out she is calling round looking for other horses, and accusing me of 'dumping' my boy on her!

I will be on the phone first thing this afternoon when she finished work giving her the months notice to go and pick up my boy! I am so cross! I don't think she wants to give him up either, I think she just wants to be greedy and have lots of horses that she doesn't have to pay for!
 
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What a cow, if I were you I wouldn't give her more than a week notice unless you have a contract that says otherwise!
 
Oh my god she sounds like a nightmare, and to ring and leave a message saying that.... she will be embarassed!! Sounds like you're doing the right thing
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How rude !!!
I would be fuming !
Think your definately doing the right thing having him back he sounds a gem
Woman sounds a bit of an ar*se .
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I'd be on the phone and arranging to collect the horse as soon as you can - I certainly wouldn't give her a month's notice. Best to get him away from her asap.
 
How awful, I'd go and collect the horse you have with her if you are able and then she will have nothing to ride.
 
TBH if it was me I would be so fuming I would go and pick him up tonight!!! Screw any blooming contract, if she is willing to 'send him straight back' should she get a new horse then why cant you go and get him straight back?!
 
I would be inclined not to give notice and just go and collect your boy. As she's claiming you've 'dumped' him with her and that she would be sending him back if she got another horse, then you can tell her you're doing her a favour!! (I hope you've kept the message she left.)

I'm sure you'll find another loan home for him - he sounds great. Shame I can't have another horse, he sounds ideal for me!
 
I just wish I had asked for him back when I found out she had bought the other two, but I kept thinking "no, she is a genuine, nice person, I am sure they are only passing through".

I am really cross with myself as well to be honest. I am fuming - I just want to call her now, but I know she wont answer her phone until after work.
 
As the others have said go to pick him up ASAP even without any warning to her then when she gets on her high horse and moans, you can play that message very loudly for others to hear! I'd love to see her face then, she sounds a right moody mare and I would be fuming!
 
Don't call her while you're mad, you may say something you regret!!!

Keep very calm and civil when you deal with her. I wouldn't give her any idea of what you intend to do, just go get your boy. She might do something spiteful and that would be awful.

I removed my two from a loony livery yard once, without giving any notice - I just turned up with a lorry, loaded them up and told the YO we were gone. I was scared she'd do something to them if she knew we were going.

Good luck - at least you know what this madam's really like now!
 
I am not going to loan him out again - he is far too special, and I always said that this would be the last loan home he has (he originally went to her as I went back to university to study for another year). He is my horse of a lifetime, and I feel like I have let him down to be honest.

I need to chat to my OH (as he will be the one driving to pick him up) and see when we can go and get him. I am desperate to call her and leave a message on her phone asking her to call me ASAP, perhaps in her lunch hour. I just want to get my boy home!
 
i agree i would collect tonight contract or no contract! let us know how u get on dnt fall for any sob stoy either make your mind up what your doing before ringing her and stick to it sounds like ur boy will be better off out of there!
 
Thanks guys - I was wondeirng if I was overreacting a bit. Admittedly I blew my top last year when a picture appeared of her doing a sponsored ride on him, and he wasn't wearing his boots (it does say in the contract he must wear boots all round during exercise at all times, unless in the dressage arena). My OH said I was just being silly, so I let it go. Now I wish I had demanded him back there and then.

I have kept the message, luckily. I do need to calm down before I call her I think, and I really don't know what to say. Do I just go straight into "I have decided that I want him back and we will be coming to get him"

I don't think she is nasty/spiteful and I don't think she would hurt him, I just think she is very greedy and wants 'free' horses that she can compete on.
 
Ok, deep breath...and relax...
I'd be a bit sneaky if I were you...to get him back.
I'd get someone else, whose voice she doesn't recognise to phone her back regarding the 'new' loan horse...saying how fantastic he is....but saying they are concerned she wouldn't have time for two horses - how soon can she return the 'old' loan horse?
If she says one month....then you may have to wait given the contract. If she says 'Oh, I can send it back in a week' - go and collect him.
Needless to say, don't let on you are the 'new' loan horse owner...and don't take that any further.
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Maybe do it face to face rather than on the phone? You can tell her about the message (and let her hear it!) and say in view of it you want to take your boy home straight away. I guess you could call first and say you want to go over for a chat, but not elaborate.
 
I would be going mad!!! I would just take your horsebox there tonight and pick him up. Let her listen to the message and leave. Have nothing more to do with her.
I can't stand greedy people and your boy sounds so lovely she certainly doesn't derserve him or have the time for him!
Also what you have said about the boots, she breach the contract anyway.
He is your horse and he sounds like he need you!
Good Luck, keep us posted.
 
Totally agree with Grumpy Herbert. Be very careful what you say, but collect your horse as quickly as you can. She sounds totally dishonest and absolutely not to be trusted. I'd get him home quick, and keep an eye on your security for a bit too.
 
I would have gone mad, one of my horses is out on loan and if she did that I would have picked my horse up that night and then thought about it later. I would go around there with a lorry and get it back and tell her to her face that she had called you and you were not impressed that she thought you had dumped him on her. let us know what happens what an absolute cow she is!! Go and get you boy!!!

for what it is worth i do not think you have over reacted!!
 
If it were me I would try and stay calm and call her back in reply to her 'enquiry' without letting on who you are. I would ask what her problem is with the loan horse that she currently has. That way you will be giving her even more rope with which to hang herself. I would let her rant on and then calmly inform her as to who she is actually speaking to and that you are on your way to pick your horse up!!!!
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Good luck how ever you do decide to handle it
 
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