I can't do this anymore

I respect everyone's option ins and thank you for taking the time to post. If it had just been this incident then of course I would not be acting this way. More things have gone on that what I have posted on here in since June and nothing seems to gone right and I am not going to bore you all with everything!

I've admitted that I have over horsed myself and asked for help months ago. I paid a lot of money for him to be schooled and worked with and it eventually transpired that he was put in a field for 5 weeks with nothing done with him.

I then continued to try and help him on my own with support from some friends and it turned out again that it was too much and I admitted it. Had an instructor out who was a lovely guy and told me all he needed was firm abd consistant handling and he would be fine but I knew I needed to up my confidence to be that person. The decision was made to sell him come January.

Then an opportunity to move him to my friends yard came and I could ride my friends horse to gain confidence and get help with mine and see where things went with him.

I know he is going to have to be sold now, I just need to decide how I go about it.
 
YorksG said:
I agree with Amymay and think that if the OP is so stressed after the event, when all was well that ended well, that she needs to consider whether keeping horses is the hobby for her. There are always dramas and crises, sisters calm and unflappable big mare had colic last week, cue after midnight vet visit and not going to bed until 4am, that is having horses. If we had given up after every drama and crisis we would never have had a second horse. We have kept horses all our adult lives and had many through here, all remaining to their end, we are however careful of what we buy.
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Thank you YorksG for putting so eloquently what I was unable to.

Good luck with the sale op.
 
Sorry you feel so down and Wang to give up.
However, as bad as the situation was it was just one if those things.
New yard, hunts going past and best mate running through fences.

Maybe shetland going back is a good I ideal. It will mean you can concentrate on your boy and stop him being to attached.

Stick to original plan if riding friends horse and working on your boy.
Give it some time and see how you feel then.
Don't rush in to anything.
 
I totally sympathise with OP as I got totally exasperated with my horses a couple of years ago and realised I needed a break. There was always some drama or scrape they got themselves into and I just wasn't enjoying them anymore.

I now have my Sec A pony, lawn mower man, and my dogs and I love them and am totally relaxed. Pottering with Pony has kept my hand in and I love grooming and playing with him without the drama's of the big horses.

OP sell your horse if he is not for you and start enjoying life again. You can still be involved if you wish by visiting friends at the yard, watching clinics and demo's, going to horsey events etc and if you want to own again later then do.

Good luck.
 
I'd be absolutely livid with the hunt for causing all this in the first place, and Id tell them so. Disgraceful behaviour on their part. Im so glad I dont live in a hunting place.

Personally, Id just get the gelding a new buddy (another shetland?) and then demand the hunt inform you next time they'll be coming anywhere near your land so you can put them in?
 
I remember one day people lined up shooting at the back of my stables. They were firing their guns less than twenty feet from the stables. The horses were going beserk! I was shouting to them to move (had to shout above the noise) and they carried on regardless. Thankfully it hasn't happened since. I don't know what gets into people sometimes.
 
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