I have to sell my pony

I am so sorry LW.

I hope someone on here will be able to help find a home for Bobbie. There are quite a few driving bods I think.

Honestly, please keep on with the tribunal if you can. You might need whatever settlement you might get from it - and you have been treated so badly.

Massive hugs to you xx
 
I am so very sorry to hear of your situation Leo and am absolutely gutted for you, you have been through so much already. Life really isn't fair. I am useless on giving advice and don't know enough to even attempt to proffer it but there have been some good suggestions on here and all of us will help however we can. I understand how black everything must feel right now and I don't want to say that all will be ok, but you will manage and you will find a good home for Bobbie. I honestly don't know what else to say, I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you.
 
Leo Walker said:
Shes not experienced enough to do RDA work. Shes a good pony but she hasnt been driving long and they need to be rock steady in any situation no matter what, and while I think she would be, I couldnt guarantee it, and thats not good enough when they have people strapped in in their wheelchairs and similar, or I would have liked that for her.
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I am so so sorry to read this. Please can you contact me - I know the driving RDAs in my region are looking for new ponies and I know they take inexperienced ponies to train. Typing fast cos am on a train...Again am so sorry, it's heartbreaking to read.
 
Red-1 said:
I am so sorry to her this, just when we thought you were on the up.

I would say to take a breath for a period like 2 weeks. You won't be in any position to make any decisions right now. Just leave the details and have a bit of time to draw breath. It my give you space to process the information so you can make decisions once the 2 weeks are up.
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I would second that.However if you do decide to go down the selling livery route can I say it worked well for me.My reasons for selling were different but the cob in question was well loved.I could visit him whenever I wanted, I never had to give notice and he seemed well looked after and happy.I was told when there was interest in him and could have gone to the showing if I had wished.I actually chose not to.When an offer was made for him I was told about the people who wanted to buy him.I could have refused if I hadn't thought them suitable.As it was they were a lovely family and I am sure he is having a lovely life.
 
A friend of mine recently gave aher pony to a rescue, she didn't want to loan, or sell him actually as it turned out the charity snapped her hand off, as they said they don't have many ponies come in that DONT have issues and he'd be kept with them and used as a riding pony but to promote the charity,. Perhaps it's worth you speaking to the horse trust etc to see if they would help you out
 
So sorry that this has happened. I can’t think of anythng to say that hasn’t already been written.
Please accept and apply for any support you think is right for you and hoping that a way forward can be found for you all.
With love.
 
Desperately sorry LW. I agree with Red, give yourself a couple of weeks before you make any decisions. Sometimes a bit of breathing space can make all the difference. If you don't think about things actively, ideas can just randomly pop into your head and the solution presents itself.

I know it sounds impossible, but try to focus on something else for a while, even if it's something less emotional like how you are going to cope with the cooking etc.
 
jhoward said:
A friend of mine recently gave aher pony to a rescue, she didn't want to loan, or sell him actually as it turned out the charity snapped her hand off, as they said they don't have many ponies come in that DONT have issues and he'd be kept with them and used as a riding pony but to promote the charity,. Perhaps it's worth you speaking to the horse trust etc to see if they would help you out
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Just in case you do decide to go down the charity route. A lady on my yard has had a marriage breakdown and can't keep the ponies she bred, she's going through the Blue Cross and they do a scheme where the ponies will be re-homed from the yard rather than going in to one of their centres. So she gets to meet the prospective loaner and see how they are with them etc. Don't know if that would be preferable.

I'm so gutted for you, LW, you've really been through the mill and there really are no words that seem adequate x
 
Oh LW, I am so sorry. I can't imagine how you are feeling now. I don't know where you are based but if I can help at all with finding Bobbie a nice driving home I'll do my best, just ask.

Sending you lots of big hugs and thinking of you xx
 
I'm so sorry that you're having such a hard time right now. There has been some helpful advice and support in the posts but I know it's hard when you're reeling from the shock of the news. Don't rush into taking action about work or selling your horse until you've had time to take a deep breath and find out what solutions could help you.
 
Oh jeez LW, what a blow. I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling at the moment. Please, please take the advice of some of the others on here and seek help in coming to terms with your loss of sight, it must be absolutely devastating. Your partner really needs to step up and help you to face this - he is probably feeling daunted by it all too and, as people do, has stuck his head in the sand. He most likely needs support in how to support you.

Re: your pony, as others have said RDA could be a good option. Whilst horses need to be of the right temperament, there’s no use in RDA centres only getting the older horses, as their working lives may not be as long and they’re more likely to have potentially expensive health issues. So you many well find that is an option. Perhaps contact the National Office to find out more - I know a few people there, I would happily do this for you if you can’t bear to do it yourself.

Other than that I have nothing really additional to add, just that I’m dreadfully sorry this has all happened to you. Life’s a bitch, it really is. I wish I could do more to help; can’t afford another pony at the moment and she’d be wasted with us anyway, she needs to go to a good driving home. You’ve done amazingly with her, you should be so proud. Sending love xxx
 
So sorry to hear this. I too have enjoyed your posts, and I really feel for you.

Trying to be practical; I live near Barry (mentioned above) and would also recommend him as a route to finding a good driving home.
I have also had a good experience (albeit some years ago) with Clare Wigmore at Carriagelink. She may be able to help without having to advertise on the open market.
 
Absolutely devastated for you. This is awful news.

I've no real advice other than take your time and don't rush in to anything. You are in a very dark place right now but if you give yourself a bit of breathing space you may find a way through this.

I truly hope you can find a way to keep Bobbie as I know she means the absolute world to you.
 
Leo Walker said:
I understand about PIP and have got the forms here, but I cant bring myself to start the fight with them for a couple of hundred quid a month. My friend had her interview a month ago and was utterly traumatised by them, and was then turned down anyway! Benefits and PIP combined wont come to a quarter of my salary anyway.
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Your friend's experience appears to be absolutely typical unfortunately.

If you ever do decide to go for it in the future you will need a strong advocate to be in the assessment with you. I would strongly suggest a mental health professional, preferably one that is treating you and knows you well. You will need their support as you are a vulnerable person (quite understandable with all that you are going through) and they (the assessor) will see that weakness and will show no mercy. You will also need their (the mental health professional) support afterwards, especially if they (PIP) turn you down and you decide to go for a tribunal.
 
So very sorry to read to read this. I don’t post much on the forum but have always noticed your posts on here, and your lovely pony. You seem such a bright and sensible individual I am sure you will find the strength to cope with whatever life throws at you, crap and hugely unfair as it is. Depending on what you want for Bobbie I’m sure someone on here would be able to help with a home (I absolutely could, but i’d probably be the wrong set up as she wouldn’t be driven anymore and would just do lots of eating!).
I don’t know your individual sight problems so forgive me if this isn’t right for your circumstances, but my cousin is blind and he is very hopeful about some of the amazing medical advances in this area being able to help him, stem cell treatments, bionic eyes and other options. Again I’m so sorry if that’s just insensitive - I obviously don’t know what options you’ve explored or if you’ve spoken with the best specialists already.
Since becoming blind my cousin’s life has changed but he has set up a really successful stand up comedy night that he also performs at, so although there are losses and changes to what you can do, he is really thriving in other ways and although he’s had some dark times he is happy. Easy to say I know but please don’t despair that everything’s coming to an end, you need some time to process the information you’ve been given about your sight but you will be ok x
 
I'm so sorry you're facing this. Bobbie seems a lovely pony and I'm sure you'll find her a lovely home as she's had a good grounding and is very trainable.

I don't mean this to sound flippant but am afraid it might so apologies in advance. There is a guide horse association that trains miniature ponies to do the same job as guide dogs. If you reach the stage of needing a guide animal in future, could this help you scratch the horsey itch? I know it's not the same as doing something active but you may well develop that same bond - or an even greater one? I know having a guide horse isn't without its challenges (they need to live outside for starters so you'd need a very large garden at least) but it might be worth exploring?
 
I am so sad to read this, my heart breaks for you.
Be positive that perhaps Bobbie came to you to be a short but wonderful distraction and she is a very lucky girl to be in safe hands that will ensure she goes to a wonderful home as heart wrenching as that will be.
You seem like a great passionate person and just remember there will be good things to come out of this awful situation.
Sending you a big hug and the best of wishes in all of this xxx
 
I am really sorry LW, all of it is just shite and your employers beyond awful. There's been some good advice here. I've nothing to offer except that from family experience PIP will be worth going for when you feel up to it but they seemingly routinely turn people down on the first (and sometimes second) attempt. My brother did not have to go and be assessed in person (mobility issues) although that was a couple of years ago and so it might have changed or might change in different authorities.
 
Oh no Im so very sorry LW how very sad.
I have loved reading your posts about Bobbie & your progress - she is adorable - I wish you lived somewhat nearer as I would be very tempted to come & see her to offer her a home whereby you could still come to see her etc. Im sure somebody will be biting your hand off LW as she sounds a sort very hard to find & very endearing - sending good vibes to you all X
 
Very sorry to hear this LW. Very sad that it's come to it, but I'm sure this forum will help in some way to find Bobbie a good home.
 
This is terrible news .
Get your most sensible horsy friend and sit her down and lay it out straight .
Get her ( or him ) to contact your local driving group and get them to help you find the pony a driving home .
Where abouts are you ? I know several well connected driving people who might be able to help but I don’t know where geographically you are .
My heart goes out to you .
 
So sorry to read this, devastated for you. If you have to sale her, there are some lovely people out there still who I am sure could offer her a lovely home, you could visit etc its all about finding the right person.

Best wishes
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