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Red-1 said:
I am sad to say that mum passed yesterday. It was inevitable, yet unexpected in its way as she had firstly taken a dive with Covid symptoms, then come round a bit. I managed to see her again despite my isolation, there are rules for that. I am devastated yet also relieved in lots of ways, she was not in a good way and there was no real hope of improvement.

Last night Mr Red and I drank to her life. Today I guess the organisation starts. This whole journey with mum, I feel like I have been doing stuff wrong and then been told what I 'should' have done, I wonder if everyone feels like they are muddling through?

This past week I have been upset and frustrated and Rigsby has been rather uncharacteristically grumpy. I think he has missed his walks out while I have been isolating and he is probably picking up on my upset. Until yesterday, I had still been riding at walk for 10 minutes every other day and doing something in-hand the other, but I guess some time out won't harm him. That being said, Mr Red says that today he will walk him down the road to the next junction and back, for the sake of his feet. Good of Mr Red as he isn't really a Rigsby fan.

I also had an attempt at tidying his mane last week. It was hogged in previous years, but when I got him there was a big bridle path, then a wedge shape that looked as if he maybe had objected to being pulled. Then there was a thin bit either from rugs or from his martingale strap that the previous owner used, then a long bit under the saddle.

I intend him the be au natural, and can't do anything about the bog brush bridle path yet, but have evened out the rest with thinning scissors. He looks amazing, I am sure he will be ready for me to continue our adventures when I have had a week or two to draw breath.

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Selfish of me, but 2020 has been so awful, I hope to have mum's funeral before the end of the year. Hoping for a happier 2021 all round.
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I have liked the Rigsby part of your post Red. I also hope that your mum's death was a release from her problems for her and an ending for you from the strain of watching her decline. I hope Rigsby can help you with the pain you must be feeling.
 
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So sorry to hear this. Even when you know it is inevitable and really will be the best thing for them it doesn't stop the shock and grief when they go. My mum had been struggling for so long and so had we trying to keep her well and fed (she wasn't eating). I really wasn't prepared for quite how I would feel when she finally died. Even now 8 yrs on I still find myself wanting to tell her something or ask something and she isn't there. Hope you manage to get the funeral sorted this year so that fingers crossed you can draw a line under this year. Rigsby looks absolutely stunning by the way.
 
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Oh Red, I’m so sorry. Sending all my love to you and Mr Red. I’m really glad that you were able to go and see her this week.
 
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I am so sorry for your loss. In similar circumstances I too felt I was bumbling along not quite doing things correctly, I am sure everyone feels the same. You should take comfort in the knowledge you are doing the best you can at a time of grief compounded by covid. Be kind to yourself.
 
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McFluff said:
So sorry Red. ((((Hugs))))
Rigsby is a star
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He is, so was Mr Red, he took Rigsby for his road walk today as I am isolating. Also, Rigsby's 'tash is growing.

Thank you all for commenting, it has been a long road, and not over yet. It would seem that Covid is causing issues with funeral organisation and with all the paperwork. But, I guess now there will be less urgency to get everything done.

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So sorry that you have had such a very sad and difficult time Red :(. This must have been an awfully hard journey for you with your mum. I hope 2020 brings much easier, happier times for you and that you can carry on enjoying the wonderful, handsome Rigsby.
 
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I am very sorry about your mum. This has obviously been a horrible time for you. I know you can't at the moment, but, I know that were I to die (haha or even when I die), I would want my daughters to be as happy as they could as soon as they could.
 
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Awwww Red, so very sorry for your loss :( What a horrible time it has been for you all. Please try not to beat yourself up about the should haves and the ought to's.....there isn't a handbook for this sort of thing and we are in unprecedented times with covid. Your Mum obviously knew she was loved, beyond that nothing else really matters xxxx
 
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So sorry Red - glad you got to see her again before she went. Well done Mr Red for walking Rigsby out. You never know, it might be the start of a beautiful friendship - how can Rigsby fail to win him over with that distinguished tash!
 
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