SatansLittleHelper
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I have nothing to add to what's already been said but...Badger is lovely ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
Badger is lovely.
All I can say is someone who despises any horse is not worth tuppence. IMHO they are ALL worth our love, care and respect.
Think of all the things you’ve learnt from your time riding Max, not just regarding him, but also about people!! Horse people can be absolutely horrible, like someone else said, if you want to enjoy the horse world you have to develop a thick skin - but not too thick as you want to stay nice yourself!! And all the things you’ve learnt about showing Max which you can transfer to your gorgeous new boy.
He’s all yours and you don’t have to answer to anyone. Don’t let people think you can’t manage a 5 yr old, with the right attitude and the right help if you need it, you will be fine.
I have nothing to add to what's already been said but...Badger is lovely ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
The only thing that worries me is that it was not the owner commenting. If I were the owner I would be even more unhappy that the loaners of my horse were squabbling in public on a forum where the posts can't even be removed, and by name too. Turns what was supposed to be a privilege and pleasure (being as all expenses were paid) into a bit of a nightmare TBH.
I'm not sure what this is adding to the thread. As far as I can see a loan/share horse didn't work out. The owner, it appears, didn't have the guts to say "I don't like how you are riding my pony and therefore am getting someone else to ride" which through underhand methods left the original rider feeling bad. As far as I can see, all this bad feeling is totally down to the owner. You actually say that the owner didn't expect jobs to be done or payment to be made and just wanted the horse to be ridden - so why say, it that rather degotory way that the original sharer didn't do poo picking?I am a friend of the other rider and although I have never met you I wanted to just give another side to what happened (as heard from my friend). My friend has been really upset by this situation so has told our group of friends what has been happening. She found this post when the owner told her it existed and was upset by what was said and how the situation has been portrayed so I asked her for her side so I could give an account of the other side of the story.
From the owner’s point of view she had a horse who won M&M working hunter champion of Great Britain a few years ago and didn’t refuse fences (although it sounds like he has always been a typical welsh). However over time he developed a bad reputation. My friend was warned that he could rush in canter, tank into jumps, didn’t like the left rein, was spooky etc. When my friend started riding she found his canter was a bit unbalanced but fine on both reins and he didn’t live up to his supposed bad reputation. After taking him jumping they found that he didn’t refuse much at all and got his confidence from his rider.
It was also mentioned that not only did you and my friend not have to pay any financial contribution to ride the horse but you also didn’t do any chores like poo picking etc. as his owner just wanted him in work and happy. The owner was happy to drive you to places you wanted to go to train/compete, even though some apparently ended in tears due to issues with refusals. It sounds like the owner started to think that maybe her horse was just being naughty.
After previous bad experiences the owner was worried about going to Aylesford and so asked my friend to come along, so if problems occurred she could see what was happening and then you could both work on this. When she got to Aylesford the horse was refusing lots of jumps, including those he had already been over seconds before. So the owner asked my friend to ride and there were then no problems and no refusals. For you to then say that it was all the horse’s fault for refusing (when he was fine with the other rider) is what probably made the owner angry. It sounds like it didn’t end in the nicest way and I know my friend felt really bad about what happened despite how rude you were to her. She suffered anxiety and got upset on multiple occasions due to messages you sent her. Including warning her that she should be careful she didn’t ruin and undo all the hard work you had put into the horse. I understand that this is also just the story from her point of view and so I am sure certain things won’t be 100% accurate and things may be remembered differently.
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