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what can i do? my loaner wont get on him because she hasnt the confidence, and im too worried about asking anyone else to get on him in case he hurts someone.

what can i do?? i need to get back on

thanks for any help
 
No idea of the situation but having no confidence is crap
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All you can do is take a deep breath, get someone you trust to help you and think positively
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Good Luck!
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iv had him about a year, when we moved him he threw me off the first time i rode in the new yard, the 2 nd he threw off another girl as soon as she got on, pushed me against the fence then came down on top of her.

hes had tons of time of work all year and iv probably fallen off as many times as iv ridden. my last lesson he threw me off twice, then he went off work for a few weeks and the vet said he was fine to ride, i free schooled him (probably not for long enough) and though "be brave" got on walked 2 strides and felt his back go up, then hit the deck.... didn thave it in me to get on again.
 
Yes. Think positive, if you are negative that feeling goes straight down the reins and into the horses mind who then thinks ' well if you're so worried then i must worry aswell' - herd instinct. So, just tack up get someone to hold him on leadrein if needs be and even if you just sit on his back in the yard with someone holding him and you just sit there for 5 minutes and jump off - you'll soon want to get back on! Just build it up steadily go for plods, and as soon as you don't feel safe jump off but make sure you do get back on in the yard or anything - just don't let him think if i just do one thing naughty you get straight off. They're clever, you just stay one step ahead and you'll be fine!!

Best of Luck Serena!!

Kat xx
 
I know what it is like to lose your confidence.

You need to find a good professional rider to work through this for you.

No wonder you have no confidence if you keep hitting the deck?

I don't know your whole story, but from what you have stated above, I would be looking to go that route. If you were me,,, and all that.
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thanks kat,

i might have a go at just getting on and getting off... maybe not in the yard but a nice soft surface!!! just in case Ha ha
 
Firstly, you poor thing, what a nightmare for you. I assume that you have had the normal back, teeth, saddle all checked. Have you considered selling him? Although you must love him to bits then this may be the best solution, or, send him away to be reschooled. How old is he? They are meant to be fun!!
 
thanks bonzabean!! i have spoken to my fantastic instructor, she away on holiday at the moment so im just waiting for her to get back... then start my lessons again
 
Just read your reply! Check if he is uncomfortable? Back or mouth - that's usually thr problem. Get someone to hold him then, but in my opinion if he hasn't a evil temperament and isn't doing it becasue he despises you then check his body out and see if he's in pain or not. If he's not and he's just being a right so and so and become the stallion with him. He's got to know that chucking off, riding on top of people is not allowed! He has to get that, or he'll become unrideable.
 
It is easy to lose confidence, and I am not surprised you have lost yours after all your falls. Is there not an experienced rider that you could ask to ride him for you? Have you had back, tack checked etc?
It is good to think positively, but fear is a strong scent to a horse. Perhaps it is time to find a horse that is sensible and will give you your confidence back. After all, it is supposed to be fun isn't it?
Good luck in what you decide to do.
 
teeth back are fine, physio was a bit concerned when i showed her his saddle last time (a few months ago when i was riding and not falling off!!) and he had lost alot of weight so it was a bit low, now hes putting loads more weight on it looks better, getting another saddle on friday.

Thanks for the sympathy tricksy!!!! thankfully hes not my horses iv just been given him to bring on. his owner kept falling off!! (theres a surprise) so no-one rode him! shes recently told me she is going to sell him but whos going to buy a horse they wont be able to get on!!
 
If he is so difficult he could be advertised on www.projecthorses.co.uk It is a website where horses with 'issues' can be described honestly. Otherwise, someone may be seriously hurt. Send him back to his owner, he is her responsibility and you have to much to lose by being injured (I know!).
As before, good luck!
 
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Thanks for the sympathy tricksy!!!! thankfully hes not my horses iv just been given him to bring on. his owner kept falling off!! (theres a surprise) so no-one rode him! shes recently told me she is going to sell him but whos going to buy a horse they wont be able to get on!!

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He sounds like a little monkey, I hope that you have got a rubber school for a softer landing!!! How long has he been dumping people for?
 
sand and rubber, iv escaped every time with only brusies so i cant complain!!

they said to me he had rough trip coming over from ireland and tried to brake him when he was 3 but he kept throwing everyone off so they left him untill he was about 4 1/2 when he took to it a bit better, but the owners daughter kept getting thrown off. hes now 7
there was only 1 girl at his last yeard that would get on him, thats when i took over coz she wanted something more experienced.

its like he knows how to get people off and when he does like something he just dumps you, or when hes got too much energy. he doesnt know how to use his energy constructively.
 
i agree. but now the owners not interested and the amount she wants for him, i cant see any professional wanting to pay out for him when theres a chance he may be lame on and off for the rest of his life (bad feet)
 
Hmm I think this is less a loss of confidence problem and more commen sense, sometimes your nerves are only trying to look after you. If he's being that naaughty I would get a professional to school him for you (as long as back, teeth, saddle and possibly even vet have checked him over like someone said above.) If he's getting you of everytime there must be something wrong with him whether it be pain or behaviourally based, could just be lack of schooling and confusion, please get someone to help you, its no fun when your too scared to get on I've learnt from experience that just pushing yourself or them through it isn't enough.
 
well i was worried about him being in pain so i spoke to his physio, but she said there was nothing wrong with his back.

i think it is behavior, its all hes known she said if he throws u off whip him!

i couldnt see that helping the situation so i havent hit him when he threw me off at the start of last year he would spook away from me when i went to catch him, now he doesnt so the trust is building.
 
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Seriously please be careful on him, he sounds like a bit of a fruitcake and unfortunatley it is only a matter of time before someone gets hurt. Stick to the school and your bouncy landing! Take Care
 


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Seriously please be careful on him, he sounds like a bit of a fruitcake and unfortunatley it is only a matter of time before someone gets hurt. Stick to the school and your bouncy landing! Take Care

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oh dont worry i wont be getting on anywhere with a hard surface!! lol

i think i realise now the last time i tried to ride i probably was expectng too much from myself and from him. im going to work on getting on sit there for a second then get off! if i manage that ill be on here telling you all about it really chuffed with myself!! and him of course
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[/ QUOTE ]oh dont worry i wont be getting on anywhere with a hard surface!! lol

i think i realise now the last time i tried to ride i probably was expectng too much from myself and from him. im going to work on getting on sit there for a second then get off! if i manage that ill be on here telling you all about it really chuffed with myself!! and him of course
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Good Luck :-)
 
Oh god no you're only jump on the train and wizz up!

Great! When you free lmao!
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I'll bring my leather western saddle up for extra 'keep me in' it'll probably be massively too big lol!
 
i know its a daft question but are you taking a hold of him as soon as you get on?
after i fell off my big lad he tryed it on with me putting his back up jogging off generally being a tw*t to ride, i got my sister to watch me how i reacted and to his evasion. i was holding him from moving forward properly and this lead him to me pulling me forward which in turn made him go faster.
i built up my confidence riding a lovely old cob on the yard, then i started riding alfie up and down the yard after he'd recovered from his injury. i stayed in walk and trot and the hard surface helped as they are less likely to play up and they don't often risk injury to themselves. im really glad i did this as when i get on him now we are much more relaxed together' im much more secure in my seat as i whipped my leathers up about 4 holes too.
my horse isn't a bad horse he just seeks confidence in his rider now weve got this established hes coming on in leaps and bounds.
alfie too has gotten away with murder with his previous owner and had been turned out for 3 years as they had no confidence to ride him i have worked through this and * touch wood* if he gets no more injurys we will be out and about later on this season.
good luck , but as this horse is not yours i would consider sending it back its not in your best interests to lose your life on something thats not even yours no disrespect intended. the only reason i went through this with alfie is hes mine. even my sister whos a better rider than me has said she wouldn't have gone through what i have with him. but if i could bottle how i feel after a good day of riding him then i would be loaded, this gives me the energy to carry on with him.
 
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