I think I'm done *WARNING wingey self-pity thread*

If Xrobyn is correct, I can understand why you are feeling full of self pity. But it sound like you did best for said pony, sit back and see what you really want out of life as it's too short to fiddle about with.
 
xRobyn said:
I've not come here to start a fight.

No one said you abused your horses, were a bad rider, did bad by them etc. Everyone congratulated you over your success with Kao after rescuing him.

People were having a laugh that you referred to your lw cob as a warmblood and that they had lost respect for you after not only posting about riding hatless but boasting about it and then slagging everyone off on your blog.

But think and say what you like. There are plenty of people who lurk multiple forums you know ;)
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Oh I know. They'll be pleased to know they won ;)
Read up on articles. It's CLEARLY states that a warmblood comes from any coldblood/hotblood cross. I am right, there's evidence. While it isn't a recognized Warmblood breed as such. It's still a warmblood.

No, because y'know what, just because someone doesn't outright say something, doesn't mean they weren't implying it.
Maybe, just maybe, my horse IS better somewhere else. I clearly know NOTHING and we all know what happens when a nervous horse and an inexperienced douche like me comes together right? Right. Good.

So really. You and that forum have no right what so ever to slag me off for selling my horse. What do you suggest? Unfortunately I'm not as perfect as the members on that forum, I loathe my exisistance(sp?) as much as the next person but hey, I'm probably wrong for that too ey?

Telling people exactly what I think of them isn't against the law. I set up MY blog to portray MY thoughts. If someone wants to annoy me, fine, but I can and will blog about it because I can.
Okay so I rode hatless once. It's a personal choice and chose, that day, on that particular horse, to not wear a hat. My choice, I'm not asking anyone else to do it and of course the fact I've worn a hat every time I've ridden since will be overlooked.

Instead of a mass "Let's Kill Kaori" group, you've already made me think I'm absolute sh** made me give up what I loved doing, forced me out of that forum (which I thank you for) and thoroughly put me off owning another horse ever.
Well done, you people really have skills.

Instead of picking, just leave me alone instead of being snide and making un-needed comments on my threads.
Don't like me then don't talk to me, it's really simple.
 
WHOA!! Slow Down, Kao. If that is what you have done on another forum, expect a bit of flak. Step back and as I said work out what you want in or from your life, it's too short. Seems only yesterday I was 21 and 40 years have flown, but at lest I knew what I wanted in life and have achieved most of it, just have to win the lottery and life will be perfect.:D:D:D
 
I'm sure someone has said this before, but how does a horse know how far it is going to go, and will it mind if it does not make it to the Olympics? If you are happy with what you are doing, then you should not give a stuff what others think. I'm sure most horses could go further in the right hands, but the horse does not know that!
I'm a cr*p rider at times, and had an awful showing class at the weekend and I'm sure spectators where having a field day watching me, but I don't give a stuff, I do it because I enjoy it and my boy and I are learning together. Yes, he looks lovely when better riders get on him, and yes he could go further with more experienced riders, but he is mine, and all that we have achieved we have done it together, and I am proud, that for a novicy person (still), I have taken an unschooled ex-racehorse and taught him to canter on the correct leg, work in an outline (most of the time), and we are improving on jumping, but we still have loads to achieve together, working on leg yields etc now. We have had the odd lessons from a friend to help. This is a big deal to me, because I did it, with hard work, nobody else, so just don't listen to other people, just think about yourself and what your horse means to you.
Aah, I feel better now.:rolleyes:
 
I posted earlier on this thread with full support towards you.

I have since seen the threads on trot online.
You were giving a bit of a flaming I agree, but lets look at why, one you posted pics of you riding without a hat and when it was pointed out its not wise to ride without a hat you told everyone you never do with kao and its personal choice - this in in contradiction to you stating above that you only did so once, and you became very defensive and argumentative on the issue!
The other part of the thread was about what Kao is, you definitely come across as so anti cob its unreal, like its an insult to say Kao is a cob - sorry but he is a cob!

The point is, things are not quite as you stated in your original post, I agree some ganged up on you, but you were equally argumentative, hence my opinion has now changed to half a dozen of one and six of the other!

I still think you shouldn't give up, we've all had our shares of blastings on forums, personally its water off a ducks back to me - I am to mature to allow people who I dont personally know affect me in such a way x
 
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Ohh I'm so confused :confused:

If you're talking about the posts on HG that is purely because you have written very conflicting posts about Kao. People just want to get the story straight,, as moderators and administrators they cannot allow false advertising.
 
I seriously wouldn't let a bunch of people on a forum let me give up something I loved doing. Why are you letting them have such an effect on you to the point you are going to give up? None of us are perfect and the only way to improve is to persevere and keep trying.
 
Echo Bravo said:
WHOA!! Slow Down, Kao. If that is what you have done on another forum, expect a bit of flak. Step back and as I said work out what you want in or from your life, it's too short. Seems only yesterday I was 21 and 40 years have flown, but at lest I knew what I wanted in life and have achieved most of it, just have to win the lottery and life will be perfect.:D:D:D
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I do expect the odd comment from the usual people, but it escalated to the point someone posted a picture of a cow and said it was my horse :rolleyes: bit out of order really.
I know what I want to do, obviously making it happen is a different thing. I don't think I can do it but hell I'll try.

Laura1234 said:
I'm sure someone has said this before, but how does a horse know how far it is going to go, and will it mind if it does not make it to the Olympics? If you are happy with what you are doing, then you should not give a stuff what others think. I'm sure most horses could go further in the right hands, but the horse does not know that!
I'm a cr*p rider at times, and had an awful showing class at the weekend and I'm sure spectators where having a field day watching me, but I don't give a stuff, I do it because I enjoy it and my boy and I are learning together. Yes, he looks lovely when better riders get on him, and yes he could go further with more experienced riders, but he is mine, and all that we have achieved we have done it together, and I am proud, that for a novicy person (still), I have taken an unschooled ex-racehorse and taught him to canter on the correct leg, work in an outline (most of the time), and we are improving on jumping, but we still have loads to achieve together, working on leg yields etc now. We have had the odd lessons from a friend to help. This is a big deal to me, because I did it, with hard work, nobody else, so just don't listen to other people, just think about yourself and what your horse means to you.
Aah, I feel better now.:rolleyes:
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That's true. He loves being schooled, but he feels unhappy in his surroundings. I ignored it and he settled but in the back of my mind I think he'd suit a home who just wants to hack maybe go a bit further in dressage if they wanted a pony to work on.
I like a project but he just doesn't seem happy with me :/ I think if I just stop and take a break it will make me decide what I want to do next.
 
xRobyn said:
Ohh I'm so confused :confused:

If you're talking about the posts on HG that is purely because you have written very conflicting posts about Kao. People just want to get the story straight,, as moderators and administrators they cannot allow false advertising.
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And again.
If you READ it's not false advertising. Unless you're another one of these people who think once a skinny nervous wreck always a skinny nervous wreck?
Clearly you think so.

I am giving up. I don't see the point if after 14 years I don't have any basic knowledge what so ever?
I'm either extremely stupid or somethings going on.
I'm done.
 
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Hun, I am so sorry you are feeling like this! I know exactly how you feel :( I felt so self concious of what was going on what was being said behind my back, it was a nightmare! It wasn't until they called on me for help that I realised I did know something and knew what the hell I was doing. I have now got a new horse and at a new yard as a result.
I guess what I am saying is cut the people that are making life hell loose and start a fresh :D
If you need any help we are all here
 
I'm not bothering either. Everything is public and it's clear that people from TO aren't the only ones who have picked up on it, but whatever. Hope you do well in whatever you decide for your future and that you find a nice home for Kao.
 
I don't normally get into these things, but got nosy!
I like your horses, I think they are lovely, but definitely proper standard cobs! But gorgeous!!!! And they look well, so you're obviously doing something right. Don't let people get to you. If you have 14 years experience, it seems unlikely that you have learnt nothing. Assuming you're not 14 years old ;) (that's a joke btw! I can see this thread degenerating)
 
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Hun, I am so sorry you are feeling like this! I know exactly how you feel :( I felt so self concious of what was going on what was being said behind my back, it was a nightmare! It wasn't until they called on me for help that I realised I did know something and knew what the hell I was doing. I have now got a new horse and at a new yard as a result.
I guess what I am saying is cut the people that are making life hell loose and start a fresh :D
If you need any help we are all here
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I doubt they'll call on me for help, all of what's made me feel like this is purely online related :/ therefor I'm sure these people are perfect...
I did start a fresh, new name even as well and they still make a big deal out of it (referring to me as my old name, accusing me of being a fake etc) it's all just too much now. It seems like every time I try I fail even worse than I did before I tried!
:( I'm so stuck, after my horse is sold it's probably going to get easier. Will just have to wait and see I guess.
 
xRobyn said:
I'm not bothering either. Everything is public and it's clear that people from TO aren't the only ones who have picked up on it, but whatever. Hope you do well in whatever you decide for your future and that you find a nice home for Kao.
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There's nothing to pick up? But thanks anyway.

MissTyc said:
I don't normally get into these things, but got nosy!
I like your horses, I think they are lovely, but definitely proper standard cobs! But gorgeous!!!! And they look well, so you're obviously doing something right. Don't let people get to you. If you have 14 years experience, it seems unlikely that you have learnt nothing. Assuming you're not 14 years old ;) (that's a joke btw! I can see this thread degenerating)
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Well Kao is a cob type and Hammie is half Traditional but none of the others? Molly, Ilex, Flame etc; definitely aren't cobs lol.

I did think I knew a little bit, the basics anyway but obviously not :/ I had really high hopes, it's rare that happens but I really thought it was me and Kao and that's it.
Hard to explain but I know what I mean :D
 
What Robyn said. Just because we choose not to post doesn't mean we're not reading.

AFAIK, you got upset about people 'accusing' your horse of being a cob: mine is a cob and I couldn't be prouder. I got him whilst on a warmblood yard and some of them were v snotty about him but tough, my cob, my choice.

The Facebook stuff, I have no idea.

It's not the best idea to slag off the other forum: it's poor etiquette.
 
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Kao said:
I doubt they'll call on me for help, all of what's made me feel like this is purely online related :/ therefor I'm sure these people are perfect...
I did start a fresh, new name even as well and they still make a big deal out of it (referring to me as my old name, accusing me of being a fake etc) it's all just too much now. It seems like every time I try I fail even worse than I did before I tried!
:( I'm so stuck, after my horse is sold it's probably going to get easier. Will just have to wait and see I guess.
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Kao,

I dont know what you are reffering to really, I've not come across threads saying you are stupid or dont know what you're doing etc.
I have only come across the one I mentioned and I do honestly believe it got heated and argumentative on both sides.
You shouldn't let forums get to you like this, if you have 14 years experience you will have certainly learnt a lot in that time and I'm sure are more than capable.
I've seen the pics of Kao when you first got him and how he is now, he looks so much better and you have clearly done well with him.
The stuff that I've seen you flamed for is really all a bit of nonsense, ie is he a cob or isn't he - hell does it really matter, thats no reflection on your skills with horses.
The hat issue also is no reflection, yes people are going to think you're irresponsible riding without one, but if you are going to publically post such pictures, you should know there are going to be posts disapproving of riding without a hat.

I certainly dont think you are clueless or stupid, and I dont think you should give up.
I think you should widen those shoulders girl and just get on with it.

I am a little confused though, is it Kao you have sold or another horse recently?
Do you have the two horses?
If so I presume when you say you are giving up, does that mean you plan on selling both?
I can't even figure out if you are happy with Kao, just all a bit confused because I dont know the whole history, only the threads I have seen.

Perhaps you could explain to the rest of us who dont know? We're a bit in the dark I'm afraid.
I dont ask to knock you or criticise, I am just asking as one I am interested and secondly maybe knowing the whole picture, people may be able to offer constructive advice on the way forward so that you dont give up - I'd never want to see any person give up on their love of horses because of what others on line have written!!! x :D
 
As I said in my first response - life has a way of smacking you in the face sometimes. And maybe it's partly deserved, like a wake-up call and maybe it's completely unfair. I genuinely don't know. I do know that resilient people bounce back after re-evaluating themelves. It sounds like this is what you want to do, but don't sell a pony you will regret losing in a few months time!
 
Kao, you're only 16, are you sure you want to throw everything that you enjoy away because of an online spat? You're only young and I remember myself how massive everything seemed but now I'm older and I look back, it was so insignificant.
 
missyme10 said:
Kao,

I dont know what you are reffering to really, I've not come across threads saying you are stupid or dont know what you're doing etc.
I have only come across the one I mentioned and I do honestly believe it got heated and argumentative on both sides.
You shouldn't let forums get to you like this, if you have 14 years experience you will have certainly learnt a lot in that time and I'm sure are more than capable.
I've seen the pics of Kao when you first got him and how he is now, he looks so much better and you have clearly done well with him.
The stuff that I've seen you flamed for is really all a bit of nonsense, ie is he a cob or isn't he - hell does it really matter, thats no reflection on your skills with horses.
The hat issue also is no reflection, yes people are going to think you're irresponsible riding without one, but if you are going to publically post such pictures, you should know there are going to be posts disapproving of riding without a hat.

I certainly dont think you are clueless or stupid, and I dont think you should give up.
I think you should widen those shoulders girl and just get on with it.

I am a little confused though, is it Kao you have sold or another horse recently?
Do you have the two horses?
If so I presume when you say you are giving up, does that mean you plan on selling both?
I can't even figure out if you are happy with Kao, just all a bit confused because I dont know the whole history, only the threads I have seen.

Perhaps you could explain to the rest of us who dont know? We're a bit in the dark I'm afraid.
I dont ask to knock you or criticise, I am just asking as one I am interested and secondly maybe knowing the whole picture, people may be able to offer constructive advice on the way forward so that you dont give up - I'd never want to see any person give up on their love of horses because of what others on line have written!!! x :D
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Basic story is:
I sold two little project ponies this year. Gave my 3 year old to my Mum (another horse that I just didn't have a bond with) and used the money I got from the second project pony I sold to buy Kao.

When I bought him I rode him once in the school and honestly thought what the hell have I got myself into. He would go forward then just stop dead, not naughty but just didn't understand leg = forward. I spent a lot of time on the ground with him, bringing him in, faffing (tail washing, pretty plaits for the sake of it etc), leading round the school and just general bonding things.
The first month went well, then I started riding him and he's gone from not knowing what leg is to having a lovely trot consistently around the school doing serpentines and even leg yeilding. Canter...we're still working on :D He does it (which is better than he was) but it's more "leg, canter, hold buckle, keep leg on" He's super sensitive so the slight touch on the reins and he's back in trot. He'll get the hang of it eventually.

I'm happy with him, extremely happy in fact. But I feel so completely useless with him it's upsetting to say the least. I feel like I can't ride him properly, can't put in the ground work he needs and feel like the bond we had is fading :/
It's more a case of him being too good for me.
 
It doesn't sound like he's too good for you; more that you're out of your depth with the reschooling. It's a long process, but worth putting effort into correctness at an early stage. Do you have a reputable trainer who could help you?
 
Kao said:
Basic story is:
I sold two little project ponies this year. Gave my 3 year old to my Mum (another horse that I just didn't have a bond with) and used the money I got from the second project pony I sold to buy Kao.

When I bought him I rode him once in the school and honestly thought what the hell have I got myself into. He would go forward then just stop dead, not naughty but just didn't understand leg = forward. I spent a lot of time on the ground with him, bringing him in, faffing (tail washing, pretty plaits for the sake of it etc), leading round the school and just general bonding things.
The first month went well, then I started riding him and he's gone from not knowing what leg is to having a lovely trot consistently around the school doing serpentines and even leg yeilding. Canter...we're still working on :D He does it (which is better than he was) but it's more "leg, canter, hold buckle, keep leg on" He's super sensitive so the slight touch on the reins and he's back in trot. He'll get the hang of it eventually.

I'm happy with him, extremely happy in fact. But I feel so completely useless with him it's upsetting to say the least. I feel like I can't ride him properly, can't put in the ground work he needs and feel like the bond we had is fading :/
It's more a case of him being too good for me.
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Ok Kao, from what I've read there, not only have you done well with changing Kao from a skinny dull looking pony - which I know from the pics, to one in good condition, you've also done well with Kao on the ground and under saddle.
Why are you questioning your abilities?
You've come so far with him, please dont give up now.
You say you are happy with him, and from what I've read elsewhere you are on a private yard so no other liveries giving you grief.
So really nothing else matters, what matters is you and Kao and if you're happy with him and are prepared to put in the hard work, have the patience etc, then just carry on what you're doing, because you have done well with Kao.

I've also now realised you are 16. I was 16 myself once you know!!!!! I was overly sensitive and so was my step daughter at that age.
I know when you are young its all to easy to take criticism to heart, especially when some of its not called for, but its equally easy at 16 to over react and take things to heart far to much, broad shoulders come with age I find.

I really hope you dont give up, I think Kao needs you and him having a change of home probably wouldn't be good for him right now considering you've come so far and he's not yet completed his basic training x
 
missyme10 said:
Ok Kao, from what I've read there, not only have you done well with changing Kao from a skinny dull looking pony - which I know from the pics, to one in good condition, you've also done well with Kao on the ground and under saddle.
Why are you questioning your abilities?
You've come so far with him, please dont give up now.
You say you are happy with him, and from what I've read elsewhere you are on a private yard so no other liveries giving you grief.
So really nothing else matters, what matters is you and Kao and if you're happy with him and are prepared to put in the hard work, have the patience etc, then just carry on what you're doing, because you have done well with Kao.

I've also now realised you are 16. I was 16 myself once you know!!!!! I was overly sensitive and so was my step daughter at that age.
I know when you are young its all to easy to take criticism to heart, especially when some of its not called for, but its equally easy at 16 to over react and take things to heart far to much, broad shoulders come with age I find.

I really hope you dont give up, I think Kao needs you and him having a change of home probably wouldn't be good for him right now considering you've come so far and he's not yet completed his basic training x
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Hey

I am not sure where you are posting but one thing I can say, is that no forum as helped me as much as this! So please listen to posts like the one I quoted! It is well said and I completely agree with it :D
 
Agreed it is really confusing.
I think its a case of cyber bullying on FB and another forum. Clearly,and very sadly, the OP is devastated by these events.
It's difficult to comprehend if you are from a different generation (like me) I don't personally 'live' in an online world,
 
I am loathe to label it bullying. Yes, the OP is a youngster, but to post pics and say some of the things she said have opened her to unwelcome comments. She unfortunately does not want to listen, but is now saying herself that her horse is a cob (which was the main sticking point on the other forum!).

I believe that if someone posts pictures of themselves with no hat, riding, then others will make derogatory comments: this, too, was one of the main issues.

If someone has not read the other forum comments, it is unfair to use the term 'bullying'. Age should not matter on forums and we are not all at school.
 
missyme10 said:
Ok Kao, from what I've read there, not only have you done well with changing Kao from a skinny dull looking pony - which I know from the pics, to one in good condition, you've also done well with Kao on the ground and under saddle.
Why are you questioning your abilities?
You've come so far with him, please dont give up now.
You say you are happy with him, and from what I've read elsewhere you are on a private yard so no other liveries giving you grief.
So really nothing else matters, what matters is you and Kao and if you're happy with him and are prepared to put in the hard work, have the patience etc, then just carry on what you're doing, because you have done well with Kao.

I've also now realised you are 16. I was 16 myself once you know!!!!! I was overly sensitive and so was my step daughter at that age.
I know when you are young its all to easy to take criticism to heart, especially when some of its not called for, but its equally easy at 16 to over react and take things to heart far to much, broad shoulders come with age I find.

I really hope you dont give up, I think Kao needs you and him having a change of home probably wouldn't be good for him right now considering you've come so far and he's not yet completed his basic training x
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Thanks :) That really does mean a lot to me.
When I got him, I was excited about having a horse that "fits" I usually get ponies that too small or have underlying problems which comes off badly.
I really did think I had done something right with him. Looking at pictures now compared to the ones at first there's an amazing difference.
I was prepared to put in the work and time to him, but everything has just blown up. I wonder if it's best I leave him.

I think I'll carry on, but keep it low tone. Just schooling and nothing drastic.
Do you really think he does? I'm not sure I'm the right person for him, but I want to try with him. I was so dead set a few days ago I don't know if I'm just being stupid letting these things get to me.
Every little thing I do gives people ammo. I'm just thinking though, at least I'm worth talking about I guess :)
 
Kao, I'm the worst person in the world for my horse. He could be out XC, anything, but I don't do that with him: if that makes me a bad person, I don't really care, because he is happy, healthy, looked after and extremely well-treated. If you can say that about Kao, then who cares what else he could potentially do? There are thousands of horses out there that could be doing X, Y, Z.

If you're that bothered, get some lessons, but the main thing, IMO, is to enjoy your horse and ensure that he is comfortable.
 
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