I'm so angry with my sister

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I have another horse on this week, he isn't in work but he is a namby pamby TB, spent all summer showjumping so he is staying in. I don't mind doing him, but I have had to mve my mare down with the moo cows for a few days because my other stables are filled full of funishings and one is a coal store
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Now Bertha loves it with the cows and she has half a barn to herself so not only is she warm and dry but has her own barn to cavort around. However the barn has no lights so I was rushing about to get all four horses done before it got dark.
Now I do a lot for my sister, I do her horse when she stays at friends, I feed her guinea pig when she forgets, I even ride her horse so she can do the fun stuff at the weekends when she doesnt have time to ride, all in all I'm not a bad sister.
Tonight I asked her to empty a barrow whilst I filled the rest of the haynets- bearing in mind I had just mucked her horse out and all she had done since arriving home from school was fill four water buckets. I didn't think it was unreasonable, she has the best end of the deal really as she was meant to be filling haynets and feeding but I loathe how long it takes her to do things. She refused point blank and threw a huge strop before walking off upto her grandparents. I felt so mad then because I had to rush like crazy in time to get them all done, and ended up feeding Bertha in semi darkness. I just feel like I'm dragging her along, she never wants to do anything and she has NO urgency whatsoever
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I have to drag her out of bed on a morning, when the horses are out in the day she fetches them in whilst I muck them all out, but still she moans about things, I have to follow her around everywhere to check she has done stuff properly, shutting gates, stable doors, god forbid if I asked her to do anything as complexas to soak sugar beat, for heavens sake she is almost 14 years old!!! When I was her age I was hunting my mum's mare, I rode her every night in the dark fields, I mucked out, I had no help and I was so much more capable of doing things, last night when I went to top up haynets at 9pm I realised she hadnt even put her horse's bed down
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I just hate having to do everything for her. Ugh
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*hugs*

older or younger?

sounds like a bit of a spoilt brat...

make a deal, quit doing her favours unless she wises up...

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Sounds like somebody doesn't appreciate her sister and doesn't deserve her horse! When I was 14 I was cycling down to my stables at 5.30 every morning to ride and do my two horses stables before school - but that was because I lived for my two boys and really wanted to be around them as much as possible. In my opinion, if kids get to a certain age and can't be bothered to look after their own horses properly then the parents should have a serious think about whether they should keep the horse or sell it on to somebody who will love it & ride it properly.
 
Trouble is if you've always picked up after her its all she knows...Sounds like time to stop checking on her and let her make some mistakes. It may just be that she's just not 'into' it all like you are and no amount of nagging will make her want to do it!!
 
I know, its a really tricky situation because I love MontyCob, and when he is fit I always love to take him hunting too, I really don't want to give him back because he is just a great little horse, but I am just not doing all the shite jobs so she can go off and have fun on him. I've said I won't clip him until she has decided whether she is serious about things, she has a lot of other interests, very arty and musical and at the moment she places those over her horse, but I think that is because she knows I will never let them go without, if needs be I will just take his shoes off and put him in the barn all winter with my mare. Grr.
 
I thought she was giving up...I would take the shoes off the horse, give him the winter off - and see how your sister reacts. Tell her that she can have the shoes back on him only when she pulls her finger out. Sounds like she has lost interest to me.
 
Simple - don't do it. She has either lost interest as she has other interests that are more appealing. If that's the case she can't have everything. Sounds like your parents need to give her a few home truths and ask her to pull her weight or forget about riding. You don't do anyone any favours doing everything for them
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I thought I'd written that for a minute. This is EXACTLY what happened/happens with my sister. I am her groom, well unpaid groom, and she does all the fun stuff. She too, doesn't have a clue. Shes had a pony for nearly 10 years and STILL has to ask me if the saddle is in the right place
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Seriously, its so wierd how alike yours and my sister sound! If I ask her to do the horses for one night, even though I've done them for oh the last few years, she throws a HUGE tantrum
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I mean, WTF???

We had HUGE rows when I was 16 and she 14. So now I just have to shut up and put up, I've tried explaiing a million times, but it doesn't get through
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Argh, little sisters who needs them.
 
It's quite easy to say just don't do it, but I know where Rosiie's coming from and totally sympathsise. If I say that to my sister she just doesn't care and she knows I will do the pony for her. I can't leave her starving can I?! It really annoys me but I've learn't to deal with it now.
 
Are you sure you're not talking about my sister?!

Seriously though, my sister is SO uninvolved with 'her' horse that I took him out competing at the weekend while she was still in bed... She doesn't even know that we went, despite his tail still being curly from being plaited and his socks still being day-glo when she saw him in the evening - thats how much she doesn't open her eyes!
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Im annoyed with my sister too!!! nothing to do with horses but i look after her 2 yr old son whenever she needs me to but she never has my 3 yr old daughter, me and OH are both working tomorrow so i asked her if she could have her 9-3:30 and she said she cant she's going round to her friends house, her friend only lives round the corner! So now im stuck for a babysitter as my mum and dad are both working all day (neither of them have never looked after either!!)
Its just annoying GGGRRRRRR
 
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