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Why is it when life does not seem too bad it all goes wrong :( Today I went to the local shop and was met by a hale of abuse. Got out of the car and walked to shop, thought I heard she S..t herself she s.... herself, went into the shop and thought I had misheard never wanting to think ill of people. Came out the shop few steps back to car and the same again, but now shouting so that everyone could hear and was looking at me.

Since I have lost my leg I know that I do not walk the same as other people above the knee makes it worse,but to have it shouted for the whole world to hear was one of the worst things I ever have had happened. Since loosing my leg I feel alreadyfelt that I have lost most of my life, my job my relationship and my confidence, which has really turned me into someone that sometimes even I do not know.

I tend to shy away from anything that takes me out of my confort zone for this very reason, I know that people look at stare but they do not have a clue what my life has been like all I am trying to do is to carry on with what little bit of life have left which is my dearest friend Ebony, as some of you well know we have been through a tough time, she does not care how I walk and what I look like, unlike humans why do they have to be like this ? Six years ago I had a great life good job, and did everything for myself, now I feel I have nothing each day is hard but the thought of that little face smiling at me, and needing me makes it all worth while, but days like today I feel like just giving up and never going outside again. why why do people have to be so foul and horrid, and why do others who look on say nothing and leave me feeling so crap that at the moment I do not know what to do with myself and the feelings of what the bloody point to it all come flooding back.

So sorry to winge about this on hear but if I do not tell someone feel like I will do well I do not know what I will do, but thank you for listening to the old moaner moaning again.

Feel better for telling someone already.
 
People can be so cruel! :(

i know it doesnt quite compare to you but i was briefly wheelchair bound (only a few months) and had some horrible comments from people when i was out and about...i think you just have to pity them for their lack of humanity, if it takes making fun of other peoples misfortunes to make them feel better about themselves they obviously have pretty pathetic lives!

hugs!
 
I know its hard but you should pity these people they are so sad and really not worth worrying about. I dont know the ins and outs of your story but just from reading your thread you have gone through more than most people go through in the whole of their life! You should be proud of yourself, hold your head up high and rise above these ignorant people xxxxbig hugsxxxx:)
 
Because they are stupid and uneducated..when I was growing up my mum always taught me 'But for the Grace of God, Go I' and it has always stuck in my head.

No-one knows whats around the corner and therefore should count there blessings that they are blessed with good health. They should also be aware how life can suddenly turn on the throw of a dice and it could be them reaching out for compassion. Dont waste a second thinking about the remarks...they just arent worth it.......
 
There are some horrible people in this world, I am sorry to hear you have been treated so badly, try not to let the likes of horrid people like that get to you though. I know its easier said then done and all that but they are not nice people. Good on you for getting out an enjoying life with your amputation, it sounds like you have had an incredibly tough time. There are plenty of lovely people and animals out there and those are the ones worth spending time with x
 
Not everybody is like them, thats what we have to remember, they are the horrible, nasty people. Chin up, I cant imagine what you are going through, but I'm sure you will prove them all wrong with your strength :)
 
That's so so unfair, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Some people are genuinely just so unhappy and unsatisfied with who they are that they do this kind of thing, its no excuse but rest assured they do not have half of the courage or spirit that you do - I've not spoken to you on here before but I follow your posts and admire you greatly. They will never have anyone love them like ebony loves you because they don't have the love to give to someone else. I'm sure people who look on feel angry and saddened by their behaviour too, unfortunately in the society we live in people are afraid to speak up and get involved. Big big hugs. Please don't let them get you down xxx
 
I am totally speechless... Who on earth do these people think they are?

You have been through so much & gotten so far when others (me included) would have given up.. I can only hope karma will come round and bite them on the ass (((()))) x
 
The abusers are the ones with the problems, not you! From your posts, it appears that you have overcome so much, please don't allow mindless morons to spoil what you have achieved.
I used to work with an amazing young woman who was a 'just below the knee' amputee (car accident). Her gait was a little odd, obviously, but, if she got any unpleasent comments, she used to raise the leg of her trousers and threaten to take the leg off and whack them! I reckon she would have done it too!
 
I would have shouted back! No I lost a leg but you guys have lost manners! Go home and play with your toys nasty brats. God am fuming for. Thank christ I wasnt there as I can rant for england
 
Because we live in an Enshrine of Tools, brought up with no respect for anything or anyone.

Maybe you should arm yourself with a few cutting replies, these types normally have a very low mentality and can't handle a comeback, and end up looking very stupid in front of their friends.

Normally in a group there will be the fat one, one in glasses, the ginger one, the short one, the lanky one, be imaginative with your retort.
 
There certainly are some vile creatures out there. I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around, so hopefully life will hand them a duff card one day.

Keep smiling x
 
tori252 said:
I would have shouted back! No I lost a leg but you guys have lost manners! Go home and play with your toys nasty brats. God am fuming for. Thank christ I wasnt there as I can rant for england
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This!! I am upset for you!! I want to tell the little sods whats wrong with them! evil people there are.
 
Oh hun, what an absolutley terrible thing to happen.:( It makes me so cross to think that someone would do such a thing.:mad::(

Please hold your head up high and know that it is worth carrying on. You are a true inspiration to us all and I love reading your posts on here about you and Ebony. I wish there was a subscribe to poster button, so I wouldn't miss any post from you!:)
I often think you should write your story down and tell people about all the wonderful things Ebony has done for you. I think it would make a very inspirational book.

"It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to." ~W.C. Fields
 
I've just seen this, sh it for brains some people!
Shall we go find them next week? I'm sure we could work out something to make them feel about 2 inches tall.
I hate people sometimes. Not all people, but some people.
Keep strong missus. xxx
 
You should have taken your leg off and shoved it down their throat!

You have lost so much confidence it is sad but you have to stop feeling, "Why me?" and hold your head up high and get on with life.
I do not know the circumstances as to why you have had an amputation but be positive - at least you are alive and able to enjoy living.

Be proud, you are a survivor, learn to ignore what others say when it is hurtful. Remember the old saying "Sticks and stones might break my bones but names will never hurt me!"
Learn to fee sorry for ignorant wankers like this and yes, people were probably looking in your direction but at the person who was being so terribly cruel.

Teach yourself to have a a sense of humour and laugh at adversity come out with a retort like, in this case "No I haven't **** myself, I just peed my pants."

When people bully and put down whether in fun or spitefully body posture tells them whether they have hit a raw spot or not, you must ignore and continue as if you never heard a word. By not allowing it to effect you have won.
 
You can borrow me for a few days if you like, i'll sort the [insert rude words of your choise]!!! out for you!!
All you can say about people like that is, they are uneducated trash, with less brains or social understanding than a slug with salt addiction!!
 
I am so sorry you have had to listen to this sort of mindless abuse from a bunch of eejits :(

You have come so far and achieved so much since you lost your leg, way more than many others have achieved even with both legs (me included). Hold your head up high in the certain knowledge you have more grace and dignity in your little finger than they have in their entire bodies.
 
Without sounding blunt - you need to go and talk and spend a bit of time with your RDA group. Believe me they will not treat you like a 2nd class person, they know all too well how you feel and what you experiance. Above all else they can introduce you to the para group, -- Bl**y H**l can we all learn how to ride from these people !

Life is what you make it - let them get you down and it's a big hole to climb out of .. best not to get in there in the first place.

Relax , take a deep breath and start planning !
Hugs xx
 
Fii, im jumping on ur band wagon! Im a fiesty little thing and id like to come and impart my opinion on them too!
I'm new to this site and am afraid have not seem u post before but will be off to your profile in a min. Even more than the narrow minded t**** that shouted at u, im angry at nobody standing up for u. (Not that its the same thing) but i used to get bullied at school and people always kept their heads and walked on and ive always vowed never to do that. You are the one person in that whole situation who did nothing wrong so remember you have no need to feel anything, as u were the biggest and best person there. Xxx
 
Tell them to f right off! :mad::mad::mad::mad:

F'ing little eejits.

If it ever happens again lass, you just remember us lot here rooting for you; surround yourself with our protection. Our opinion matters a thousand times more than some obnoxious little git with ***** for brains.
 
Having read some of your posts I am in awe of what you have been able to overcome, no-one deserves to be treated like this, but sadly there are people in our society who feel so insecure in their own social position that they have to deflect interest away from themselves towards anyone they perceive to be "different" - and these half wits have usually got a little herd of sheep who do not have the imagination to do anything other than follow them and make them feel important. They will most likely be poorly educated, with little to offer in the way of employment prospects, if you could arm yourself with a few well chosen witty put-downs to use in reply to taunts like this I think you could easily show them up as the ignorant low life they really are, and leave them looking very foolish. You have a great deal to be proud of, and these people are no more than a peice of dirt under your shoe.
 
Black_Horse_White said:
When I hear about human beings like that makes, me realise even more why I love animals more. Chin up mrs, don't let the b......s get you down x
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Agree absolutely. People like that make me ashamed to be human. I will never, ever understand how people can be so heartless and ignorant. Easy for me to say, but just ignore it and don't bring yourself down to their level by even trying to think of a reply.

I am full of admiration for the way you are coping and carrying on riding, that takes pure guts and feeling sorry for yourself now and then is allowed.

Have a cyber hug from me and keep going, chuck.

How about some pics of your lovely Ebony?
 
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