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Sorry, being pathetic, but I've just read some of the Euthanasia thread :(

It brought it home to me that we are going to lose Little Lad this summer :(:(:(

I won't eulogise about him now. The time for that will come.

He is laminitic (both stress and sugar induced), and now he has arthritis in both front legs. Through the spring and summer he's on one Bute a day, sometimes upped to two if the ground is hard or it gets cold. In the winter he was on two Bute a day and still wasn't comfortable moving around. He would just stand by a hay pile, I would feel awful asking him to move to come in for his feed. He doesn't stable easily (a day and a night is his max - when he's been stabled for the laminitis bouts, things got interesting and he gets very miserable, plus now he's arthritic he seizes up).

A few weeks ago I put his management to my vet, who has known LL since we got him over four years ago. I expected her to come up with magic ideas to manage him, but she agreed that last winter was very tough on him and another one would be unfair and unkind.

So, before the flush of September grass, he'll have a day of pampering, all the things he usually can't have to eat, more cuddles than enough, and we'll say goodbye; with the sun on his back and knowing he is so very much loved.
 
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I feel for you ..... knowing it is time is so hard, choosing the day is even harder, but in some ways i found a kind of relief came with it too. My boy wasn`t even 3 when i made the decision, after 4 months of him being very ill. In the last week of him being really ill, i like you, called the vets hoping for some miracle treatment, but there wasn`t one.

You`re a caring owner who puts the needs of the animal first, rather than keeping them going. *hugs* to you.
 
OH hun it is so so hard to let them go. But you know you will do the right thing for him and personally I would much rather know in advance.
Huge hugs
 
I'm really sorry for you, it's not a nice choice but it is the correct choice by the sounds of it. I had a similar situation with Inca last year, her arthritic knee was so bad that the winter would've been terrible for her. She was on a bute a day but in the last few weeks or her life (she was put to sleep in October) she lost her oomph.

It was a sunny morning and when I went outside, the other 3 were at the top of the field grazing and Inca was stood alone in the paddock with her head down... I knew it was the right decision. She had all kinds of yummy things, a good brush and a cuddle and the vet came.

It's never a nice thing but I have no regrets. The winter was terrible from start to finish and her legs would not have coped, she may have laid down and been stuck there all night in the snow. It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing for LL and that he's very fortunate to have great owners who will make his last days happy ones.

I saved some of Inca's tail hair to make a bracelet. :)
 
Oh I'm so sorry. Its so hard to let them go, don't I know it. But it is the one last act of love we can do for them. Reading that thread myself I feel so tearful too, as I'm pretty emotional at the moment. I hope he has one last lovely summer with you. xxxxx
 
I'm so sorry :(. (((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))). A friend told me yesterday that she was going to have to put her horse to sleep soon. She is 27 and has a bad heart and arthritis. Such a hard decision to make but I think in the circumstances the right one :(
 
Im not reading it MrsM. But hugs hunnie =o( Hard bad times, its a massive decision, and you know when its right. You know where I am if ya need me. and Little L knows ya loves him! Even if hes a bugger at times!!!

(((hugs ))))

lOU X
 
Big hugs :( Atleast you know he'll be at peace and not in pain anymore and he'll go knowing that he had the best owner he could have had and he'll go knowing he was loved. Big hugs x
 
Oh Mrs M I am so sorry that you have had to come to this decision.

I have had to do the same, once with my very old boy who made it quite clear to me that he had had enough fighting his cancer. I knew it was the right decision, I gave him loads of scrummy treats and lots of cuddles and he went peacefully at home.
I also lost my beautiful young horse, after a DDFT tear - he was in too much pain to even just be allowed to graze quietly with my others - that was truly hearbreaking.

My thoughts are with you and bless you for having the courage to put his happiness before yours. xx
 
I'm going to be harsh here, and ask - what are you waiting for? If your pony is in pain, what good is it doing to wait for months?
From someone who has the teeshirt - I know how much it hurts, but not as much as he is hurting now. Imagine having toothache for the rest of your life - what sort of quality of life is that?
Be brave, release him and grieve, then get on with your life.
 
Mrs M, so sorry to hear this. I am in tears every time I read a PTS thread - it brings it home that one day we all have to let go of our pride and joy - our reason to get up in a morning, and the huge hole they leave can never be filled. Enjoy your last weeks with him - give him as much bute as possible to make him comfortable - after all, what harm can it do now, really? You're making the right decision, however hard it might be.
(((HUGS)))
 
Definitely the right thing to do for him, all I would say is don't let the anticipation of that day spoil your current time with him (I know its hard and I'm terrible for dwelling on 'that day' with all my animals.) As much bute as needed, enjoy each others company and face that day when you need to.

I've currently got all elderly animals with the cats, dogs so I'm not looking forwards to when any decisions have to be made as it's all going to be around the same time. Hugs from me too xx
 
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I'm going to be harsh here, and ask - what are you waiting for? If your pony is in pain, what good is it doing to wait for months?
From someone who has the teeshirt - I know how much it hurts, but not as much as he is hurting now. Imagine having toothache for the rest of your life - what sort of quality of life is that?
Be brave, release him and grieve, then get on with your life.
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I totally agree with this, why not do it now? You are having to give him a Bute a day so he can stand in a field. Sometimes it is really hard to do the right thing but you have to think of him now and not how much it is going to upset you all doing it.:(
 
I know how you feel MrsM. My old boy has arthritis only on 1 bute/day but he gets v stiff when stabled for along time although he does enjoy it. His companion (of 5yrs) has lost most teeth now so can eat grass/chaff but struggles with hay. She will not be put through another winter as it is unfair and thoughts at the moment are for my boy to go with her as we dont know how he would cope without her and if its fair to put him through winter alone. So at the moment they are enjoying the sunshine on there backs and living a wonderful summer.
 
Oh no MrsM... :( big hugs...
I can't say I know how you feel but I can't imagine what you're going through....I always dread having to go through it myself.
We're all here for you when that time comes
K x
 
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sure you have made the right decision for LL.
In the meantime, have you tried magnet boots? We have had miraculous results with them for an arthritic and I only tried them because of a recommendation from some-one who has a laminitic and manages it with the boots (amongst other things).
 
No like Intouch says, Why are you waiting, if he's in pain and not moveing much which indicts he's in more pain than you say, have him done soon to put him out of his pain:confused::confused::confused:
 
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I totally agree with this, why not do it now? You are having to give him a Bute a day so he can stand in a field. Sometimes it is really hard to do the right thing but you have to think of him now and not how much it is going to upset you all doing it.:(
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Sorry Mrs M, you're not going to like it, but I wholeheartedly agree with the above sentiment. It sounds like LL has so much against him, and whilst I don't doubt your devotion to him, I'm wondering if the prospect of having him PTS is just so painful that you're putting it off rather than doing it now before his symptoms/pain get any worse.

I can't imagine what you're feeling, I know if I had to face the prospect of losing Lukey I'd be in bits, but even so I'd still make the decision sooner rather than later.
 
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