showpony
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Jesstickle, my instructor schools my mare once a wk and it's worked wonders!
This is interesting as I've spent the last 12 months facing the fact that although I love my horse dearly and he has a home for life with me, personality-wise him and I are not the best match. I've spent all my riding years riding tricky, over-sensitive horses and have always got on fine with them. I'm calm, laid-back and not worried by a horse throwing itself about a bit, as long as they aren't actually dangerous, as they tend to stop doing it pretty soon and it just becomes a non-issue.
After my last horse who was a TB, great to ride but a bit of a devil on the ground at times, and always broken and finally had to be PTS after much heartbreak and vets fees, I decided to go for something chunkier and hopefully less likely to self-harm. I have indeed found that horse and he is so handsome and such a poppet on the ground that a child could handle him. BUT, he is also very laid-back, which combined with my own laid-back style, means we get nowhere fast! I have had to change my riding personality and whilst some people might find that really easy, I've found it pretty hard. I have to be the one to motivate and and galvanise him. It goes against my very instincts.
BUT, he is capable and talented enough for what I want to do, and such a lovely person to be around. He's the sort of horse that you could get on if you'd had a confidence knock and he'll just bumble around happily. He's even a sensible hack now (he was spooky when younger). I love him to bits but riding him isn't like putting on a comfy old pair of boots; it's like wearing a fancy pair of heels that on the one hard are lovely, but on the other hand it takes some effort to walk properly in. I miss my old TB, as when I sat in the saddle I felt like I was home at last.
Daisyvrazy makes a very good point. People whose stories have ended in disaster aren't likely to chat about it on an internet forum.
It's all very well to say 'See what happens!' or 'Stick with it!' but we all know horses can be dangerous, even fatal, and soldiering on in a situation that really isn't working can have dire consequences for either/both parties involved.
Obviously it's a personal choice and riding will always involve risk, but I'm amazed when I meet people who put pride, not wanting to 'give up' above common sense. I also don't agree such a stance is without cost to the horse - horses don't enjoy drama and conflict, not to mention the physical risks/wear and tear of being made to fit expectations.
No, it isn't.
These stories don't always have happy endings. A friend of mine bought a horse which was too much for her and ended up being killed in an accident when she lost control of it. There are many other horses out there and I would urge anyone genuinely frightened by their horse and/or out of control of it to think carefully about the risks.
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However if you aren't a complete numpty and you've got a horse that you think is a serious risk to your safety, you have to bear in mind that the horse might be a serious risk to many other people's safety if you sell it on. I just thought it a point worth making.
ETA Sorry to hear you're having trouble Jesstickle.
However if you aren't a complete numpty and you've got a horse that you think is a serious risk to your safety, you have to bear in mind that the horse might be a serious risk to many other people's safety if you sell it on. I just thought it a point worth making.
I have sat on a LOT of horses. Some just 'fit' for no real reason and if I had to spend everyday with one, it would be one of those. I think it's a bit like a marriage - there are many people in the world you can appreciate, admire, be attracted to, love having dinner with, even date. But only a few are going to be a good prospect for a long term relationship.
Gz on your 7777 post
Having just got off my friends horse with a big grin on my face I think my mind is made up. I am wigging out myself and the poor horse (mine) for no reason other than sentimentality. It probably will end in tears. I wouldnt trot round on mine this morning and have just been cantering with one hand on the reins on hers even though I have only ridden him twice before. That isn't a good sign for carrying on with my own is it?
I have sat on a LOT of horses. Some just 'fit' for no real reason and if I had to spend everyday with one, it would be one of those. I think it's a bit like a marriage - there are many people in the world you can appreciate, admire, be attracted to, love having dinner with, even date. But only a few are going to be a good prospect for a long term relationship. It's not a failing in either party, it's just one of those things.
I have had my super safe WB for 5 years who is working at advanced level. I always wonder if I should swap him for a nutty younger WB bought by someone who overhorsed themselves. I love the hot ones so wonder if my boy is better teaching someone else the ropes as he's so reliable.