Irrational annoyances...

[tatty_v]

My OH does the headcollar back up after he’s turned out, which always catches me by surprise as I go to put it on and realise ? no idea why he does it as he’s not an inherently tidy person!

Along with the haynet thing (seems a universal one!) it’s not sweeping up after yourself. I hate coming onto my yard to find hay, mud and stones all over the place because people haven’t swept up. Problem is I then do it as I can’t stand to look at it, so the cycle perpetuates...

 

[Baywonder]

Borrowing my lead rope / brush / fork and not putting it back where it was found. I spent many hours trawling the nooks and crannies of the yard to find these items in the pitch black!

...and men leaving the toilet seat up!

 

[Annagain]

Flexi buckets for water. You need huge buckets for paddocks, which is fine, they don't make hard plastic ones big enough but there was a switch-out recently so the smaller water buckets all matched and I hate hate hate them. You can just about carry or drag one yourself but you're always going to spill some. If you carry them with someone else and it spills it's just the right height to go straight down the top of my boot.

I hate them too. Carrying two small buckets is so much easier. Charlie has to have a big one as he knocks smaller ones over and when I discovered this and had to buy one quickly, the flexi ones were all they had in stock so I had to buy it. I never fil it at the tap though, I fill Archie's two small buckets and take them to fill Charlie's big one in his stable and then refill Archie's for him.

My irrational annoyance is people not undoing nosebands to take the bridle off / put it on. I have no idea why this winds me up so much but it really does!

Oh and the caps on wormers - why are they so hard to get off?

A lot of the things mentioned - like the hay net knot and leaving water to freeze on the yard - seem very rational to me!

 

[Annagain]

Borrowing my lead rope / brush / fork and not putting it back where it was found. I spent many hours trawling the nooks and crannies of the yard to find these items in the pitch black!

...and men leaving the toilet seat up!

I think I'm the only woman I know who isn't bothered by the toilet seat. I don't understand why he has to leave it in a ready state for me when I don't for him?

 

[Auslander]

I found this. I don't know why the perpetrator felt the need to do it, particularly when all of them know full well about my pathological hatred of baler twine anywhere but on a bale, or in the bin. I have also asked people not to detach the hose from the tap multiple times, as it is situated over a dip, which fills with water if anyone runs the tap. That's why there's a hose attached to it!!!!
It happened at some point yesterday, and I still have the rage about it (despite removing it immediately)

 

[Foxglove]

The phrase “Pony Party” - sets my teeth on edge!

 

[Leandy]

I think I'm the only woman I know who isn't bothered by the toilet seat. I don't understand why he has to leave it in a ready state for me when I don't for him?

I agree with this, I don't understand why women moan about this and ignore the fact that they leave the seat down and then men have to keep putting it up all the time? Ideally though, I would like both sexes to leave both seat and lid down as then the bathroom looks tider!

 

[twiggy2]

Saucepans being put in the sink
Bags of open feed bing laid down with the top folded over so when I lift them (however carefully) some feed spills
The bath mat being left on the floor
Doors being left open
Rubbish in the footwell so when I pull a bag of feed out the rubbish comes out too
The dogs being out of their kennels for an hour for a run and sh1tting and dancing in it as soon as they go back in the kennel
Lots of things annoy me, I need to chill out more

 

[Sprat]

Not horsey but another one that boils my p*** - husband leaving plates / bowls / cups / crockery in the sink.

I could understand if the dishwasher was miles away, but he has to walk past the dishwasher to get to the sink. Why not just pop it in the dishwasher?!

 

[milliepops]

I think I'm the only woman I know who isn't bothered by the toilet seat. I don't understand why he has to leave it in a ready state for me when I don't for him?

it's not the seat I'm bothered about personally, but the lid, i'd rather the lid was down to flush the loo.

 

[Leandy]

Not shutting gates and doors behind you - leave them as you found them!
Leaving lights on when no longer needed.
Picking up droppings in the arena and then leaving them in the poo picker upper at the side of the arena instead of disposing of them properly.
People who think hairy horses and dogs need rugs/coats to keep them warm - especially dogs which are going for a walk and therefore exercising too. CAN'T YOU SEE THEY ALREADY HAVE ONE ON. THEY ARE NOT DOLLS FOR DRESSING UP - AAARRGGHH!

 

[hollyandivy123]

family member was offered a bungalow with gardne in the first lockdown so they didn't have to stay in their first floor flat.........refused the offer as the décor was tired 1980's and the dish washer leaked

 

[FinnishLapphund]

Oh dear, you both must hate me, I refer to myself as my mare's pony-mummy. :-(

Don't forget that the thread title is Irrational annoyances.

I don't use it often about myself, but it happens.

 

[LegOn]

Badly fitting tack and not even questioning why your horse is napping/rearing/bucking - they are just 'naughty'.

The word naughty.

People who dont clean up after themselves - spill hay everywhere, sweep it up.

Moving the poop scooper from the arena! LEAVE IT THERE. I actually clean up after my horse so its very annoying when its moved.

Borrowing things and leaving them back in the wrong place.

Putting dirty girths onto of a saddle!!! Saddle cover FIRST then put the girth on top. Same goes for leaving girths attached to the saddle.

People riding with long hair flapping about... EVER. TIE IT UP.

Not picking out hooves and dragging half your stable up the yard.

Children. In general.

Tea bags in the sink

I'm in a bad mood today.

 

[PurBee]

People borrowing things and breaking them. Not owning up to it and instead just hiding broken item in tack room. If I have to replace one more lunge whip I swear to god I will not be responsible for my actions.
Chasing people for money, if I am picking you up something from the feed store bloody well pay for it! I should not have to chase for money in 2020 everyone has internet banking!!! Argh!!!! *feel marginally better now thanks guys ?

Im wary of loaning anything out i need to use now. I lent a circular saw to a friend and received it back in a bag in bits. He tried to fix it and failed.

I lent my car out, friend crashed it.

Asked my dad to store some belongings while i moved house, in his garden shed. A while later i mentioned while there i’d take my stuff from the shed and he said it was his stuff! Tools and bits! ?

My other pet peeve are clothes hangers....grab a handful and watch me shudder with angst!

 

[PurBee]

I hate them too. Carrying two small buckets is so much easier. Charlie has to have a big one as he knocks smaller ones over and when I discovered this and had to buy one quickly, the flexi ones were all they had in stock so I had to buy it. I never fil it at the tap though, I fill Archie's two small buckets and take them to fill Charlie's big one in his stable and then refill Archie's for him.

My irrational annoyance is people not undoing nosebands to take the bridle off / put it on. I have no idea why this winds me up so much but it really does!

Oh and the caps on wormers - why are they so hard to get off?

A lot of the things mentioned - like the hay net knot and leaving water to freeze on the yard - seem very rational to me!

oh yes,the wormer caps....who designs those things?! Horse held one hand , syringe in the other set to marker....and now somehow i must get rid of the cap....so i yank it off with my teeth and spit it out!! ?

 

[smolmaus]

Not horsey but another one that boils my p*** - husband leaving plates / bowls / cups / crockery in the sink.

I could understand if the dishwasher was miles away, but he has to walk past the dishwasher to get to the sink. Why not just pop it in the dishwasher?!

We are a no-dishwasher household (???) so I don't mind crockery in the sink but when he leaves it on the counter just inside the door instead of beside/in the sink. Oh no.

I have no place to complain though, me re-using the same coffee mug for days on end drives him up the walls and I will not ever stop.

Im wary of loaning anything out i need to use now. I lent a circular saw to a friend and received it back in a bag in bits. He tried to fix it and failed.

I lent my car out, friend crashed it.

Asked my dad to store some belongings while i moved house, in his garden shed. A while later i mentioned while there i’d take my stuff from the shed and he said it was his stuff! Tools and bits! ?

My other pet peeve are clothes hangers....grab a handful and watch me shudder with angst!

Angry on your behalf now lol the CAR I cannot imagine. If I damaged a car I was borrowing I'd probably just crawl into a hole and die of shame (after I paid for the repair).

 

[ownedbyaconnie]

Probably not irrational but my current biggest bug bear at the moment is apparently since becoming pregnant I have a huge sign on my forehead that says "I cannot be trusted to make decisions about my own body and welcome every man and his wife to tell me what to do".

The worst was OH's family informing me that I am not to ride anymore. I get it, but I would never DREAM of telling someone what they can and can't do.

One of the positives of covid is I will hopefully miss the random strangers touching your belly stage.

 

[Scotsbadboy]

People who use the word 'Hun' ... double the amount of hatred for them if they use it in a sentence aimed at a total stranger. If you use the word 'Hun' I've probably dreamt about your violent death!

Thats about it ... apart from the human race. It annoys me greatly there are so many of us and people are still breeding! (apologies to the poster above, i see you are pregnant, lol!)

 

[PurBee]

Angry on your behalf now lol the CAR I cannot imagine. If I damaged a car I was borrowing I'd probably just crawl into a hole and die of shame (after I paid for the repair).

thats the thing...i know accidents happen etc, but just giving stuff back broken/unusable without attempting to fix or replace is what riles me!
Whatever i borrow i give it back in better condition by cleaning it/re-greasing tools, sharpening them/servicing them, as a ‘thank you’...and if i broke something id be working on fixing it asap!!

 

[Cowpony]

I think I'm the only woman I know who isn't bothered by the toilet seat. I don't understand why he has to leave it in a ready state for me when I don't for him?

Because it's a hygiene issue. If he hasn't put the seat down then he hasn't put the lid down when he's flushed. EEuuuwww!

 

[Cowpony]

We are a no-dishwasher household (???) so I don't mind crockery in the sink but when he leaves it on the counter just inside the door instead of beside/in the sink. Oh no.

See, by contrast, leaving dirty plates in the sink winds me up! It means I can't use the sink and I have to take all the wet, dirty stuff out before I can run a clean bowl of water to wash it. Although I'm not wild about dirty stuff on the work surface, I'd much rather have that because I've only got one sink but I've got plenty of work surfaces.

 

[RHM]

Im wary of loaning anything out i need to use now. I lent a circular saw to a friend and received it back in a bag in bits. He tried to fix it and failed.

I lent my car out, friend crashed it.

Asked my dad to store some belongings while i moved house, in his garden shed. A while later i mentioned while there i’d take my stuff from the shed and he said it was his stuff! Tools and bits! ?

My other pet peeve are clothes hangers....grab a handful and watch me shudder with angst!

Jesus - I would be seriously scarred after those experiences!

 

[wiglet]

People...
Not washing their horses bit after use
Using a saddle pad that's so dirty it's gone stiff... and it stinks
Riding in wellingtons. Just no.
Not zipping their coat or gilet up so it's flapping
Not tying their long hair back
Not putting the jumps away
Making too much unnecessary noise - just be bliddy quiet

 

[Sprat]

People who use the word 'Hun' ... double the amount of hatred for them if they use it in a sentence aimed at a total stranger. If you use the word 'Hun' I've probably dreamt about your violent death!

Urrgghhhh this with bells on. Often seen on facebook, addressing total strangers as 'hun' puts my teeth on edge.

Probably not irrational but my current biggest bug bear at the moment is apparently since becoming pregnant I have a huge sign on my forehead that says "I cannot be trusted to make decisions about my own body and welcome every man and his wife to tell me what to do".

The worst was OH's family informing me that I am not to ride anymore. I get it, but I would never DREAM of telling someone what they can and can't do.

I feel really strongly about this. My husband and I are planning to get pregnant in the not too distant future, and initially he tried to tell me I wouldn't be riding. My response was in that case I wouldn't be getting pregnant. In all honesty I may fall pregnant and decide that I don't want to ride, but it will be MY decision and my decision only. I know what risks are involved and I, as an adult, will make the decision myself.

I really feel for you, having extended family make those comments is really insulting.

 

[windand rain]

it's not the seat I'm bothered about personally, but the lid, i'd rather the lid was down to flush the loo.

That my issue its not that the seat is left up but the toilet lid isnt shut when flushed and the germ distribution in droplet form from the toilet. Washing up I wash up as I go so if cooking have a sink full of boiling hot soapy water

 

[FinnishLapphund]

I think I'm the only woman I know who isn't bothered by the toilet seat. I don't understand why he has to leave it in a ready state for me when I don't for him?

Perhaps because the shriek from a woman who stumbles up in the dark, and accidentally sits down on an ice cold porcelain ring can wake up a whole household.
I know this from experience. Both times it has happened, there was no time to stop it, the shriek just came automatically as my brain reacted at the unexpected ice coldness.

Also, because men doesn't seem to like it if they accidentally sits down on a toilet with the seat up, either:

 

[PurBee]

Jesus - I would be seriously scarred after those experiences!

Its why ive learnt to only lend out stuff i dont mind never having returned!

What do you think my reaction was when a local horse person on first meeting her said i should lend out my horse box to the local horse community? ?. ?

 

[smolmaus]

See, by contrast, leaving dirty plates in the sink winds me up! It means I can't use the sink and I have to take all the wet, dirty stuff out before I can run a clean bowl of water to wash it. Although I'm not wild about dirty stuff on the work surface, I'd much rather have that because I've only got one sink but I've got plenty of work surfaces.

Our kitchen is TINY so it's the counter space needs saved!

Probably not irrational but my current biggest bug bear at the moment is apparently since becoming pregnant I have a huge sign on my forehead that says "I cannot be trusted to make decisions about my own body and welcome every man and his wife to tell me what to do".

The worst was OH's family informing me that I am not to ride anymore. I get it, but I would never DREAM of telling someone what they can and can't do.

One of the positives of covid is I will hopefully miss the random strangers touching your belly stage.

I have not been and will never be pregnant but if anyone ever wants to scream at over familiar, brass-neck clowns about this issue but hasn't the time or the energy I am available any time via video call to provide a free screaming service.

 

[PinkvSantaboots]

My oh doesn't leave the seat up on the toilet he just leaves it down while he pisses on in during the night in the pitch black, I then get up in the night and end up sitting in it that is just lovely.