Is it just me?

Why dont you start a new thread, with you feelings on that we can all reply too, so you can show it to your husband, and show how desperate you feel over this situation.

I think the difference between us is we still love doing our horses it is not a chore to us, to you it is and impacts heavily on your life, start another thread and let this one die.
 
It must have been a very hard time for you, and although I still cannot countenance what you did I can see that you were unable to find a way out of your situation, and it is very sad that you were unable to find any other alternative to shooting your mare.
 
For what its worth, I agree with scally and the op, even though it may have been worded a bit more sympathetically. Much better to be pts at home than being ragged around the markets.
 
don't see why she would have been skagged round the markets. A 14 year old arab is in the prime of her life and op had said that she was good in a lot of ways, it was just the seperation thing.
I think it is best that op doesn't get another horse, i certainly wouldn't be selling one to her.
I think the problem most people have is the way she described the shooting. It was just so matter of fact and seemingly without any thought that it might be considered a callous and unnecessary thing to do.
 
OP I'm not going to comment on the shooting of your horse, much has already beeb said.

But on the original question, I don't resent the shoeing costs charged by my excellent farrier. The only thing I do resent is his 'travel charge of £11.75 (he lives 1 mile away tops)

I'm a bit surprised your arab really needed shoes though, arabs usually have feet like iron and manage exceeptionally well un-shod.

I hope you succeed in convincing your husband not to buy more horses and that you enjoy the extra time and money that being horseless will give you. Sounds like you have truly had enough of it.
 
Have you seen how many horses are for sale lately? many very cheep and lots without problems, if her husbands horse had been put to sleep at short notice with a broken leg, the remaining horse would have been put in danger with having seperation anxiety, it would have took longer to find the horse a new home. I agree OP should not get another horse, because keeping that one on its own would not be ideal, and then you get into the realms of finding a companion, and I feel that the OP has come to the end of horse ownership.
 
I dont think Op has just come to the end of horseownership, but the end of her tether and this is a cry for help.
 
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For what its worth, I agree with scally and the op, even though it may have been worded a bit more sympathetically. Much better to be pts at home than being ragged around the markets.
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I also agree that it was better to have the mare pts than risk her ending up God knows where, how many times has this been recommended on this forum? I do however see why people are angry as the OP worded it in a particularly heartless and unemotional way which I found upsetting personally, tbh I would have pitied the poor mare having to stay with someone who felt nothing for her, just as I would feel pity for any other horse this OP ever owned.

Please please do not even think about getting another horse, you are obviously not committed enough, do not bow to any pressure from your OH, it would be very unfair on the horse.
 
£60 for a set of shoes is cheap compared to what i pay, i pay £75-80 for a full set as taz wears his shoes down on the front of both front feet so my farrier who is a start builds the shoes up more on the toes so that they dont wear so thin, and well my little sister loves him as he brings sweeties :D but i would never jeprodise my horses feet just so i could get a cheaper farrier, as my farrier is the only one i have had in 3 years (ive had four in that time) that can keep a full set of shoes on my horse for five weeks as that is the longest he can go without being shod.

so when you can pay £60 and go like 7/8 weeks fair enough it seems alot but we all chose to have horses, personally i wouldnt change a thing
 
zsmm4, this isn't actually about money though, is it? I think that even if money was no object, you don't actually want to be a horse-owner any more.

You must explain to your husband how you feel, as you obviously feel under quite a lot of pressure to do something you clearly don't have the heart for.

Have you thought that your husband wants you to have another horse because he thinks you want one, and doesn't have a clue that you really don't? Perhaps he is also worried about the cost of keeping a horse, but is only trying to make you happy?

Please explain everything to him as you have to us - you may even find that he will be relieved you don't want a horse! :)
 
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