Is it normal to second-guess yourself?

Mine was slightly different because he was an old boy, but to every one else he looked well, there were just a few signs to me that you wouldn't notice if you didn't really know him. If anyone asked me how he was doing I just said fine thank you, and changed the subject. I discussed it with two very trusted people prior to the decision I didn't want anyone messing with my head
 
Completely normal and dont let others make you think otherwise. If it makes you feel better Kiki and I did a very hilly fun ride in June, by the end of July he couldnt trot under saddle, things can go downhill quickly. I am in the same position in that I could scan and xray more but they would only throw up more problems rather than solutions. Its very very sad and life changing, (I know that sounds dramatic but it does change your life either short or long term) but we are both doing the right thing for the right reasons.

Have you booked the vets yet? I felt relived once I had picked a day and done that part
 
webble said:
Completely normal and dont let others make you think otherwise. If it makes you feel better Kiki and I did a very hilly fun ride in June, by the end of July he couldnt trot under saddle, things can go downhill quickly. I am in the same position in that I could scan and xray more but they would only throw up more problems rather than solutions. Its very very sad and life changing, (I know that sounds dramatic but it does change your life either short or long term) but we are both doing the right thing for the right reasons.

Have you booked the vets yet? I felt relived once I had picked a day and done that part
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Yeah I think it’s easy for people to say these things when they’re not the one dealing with it. I just wanted a miracle cure but there is no miracle cure. I know I’ve said it before but I am so sorry you’re going through the same thing. If you need anyone to talk to, my inbox is open.

I haven’t yet but I know when I am going to do it so I just need to find the strength to ring up
 
Totally normal. I decided last winter that I wasn't putting Archie through another winter (or myself through the worry of him losing weight and looking miserable) but he's come back so well this summer, particularly the last few weeks that I'm questioning it....and he's 30, long retired and there's no potental miracle cure to old age (I'm not saying there is one for Nova, just picking up on what you said above). We both know deep down we're doing the right thing though, no matter how much we don't want to and no matter how many reasons we try to find not to.
 
Echo those saying don't discuss it with others and don't listen to others if they bring it up. I think comments come from a well-meaning place but they are so distressing. When I was struggling to know what to do with my daughter's pony, who was never right but also never had a clear diagnosis, I had 1001 suggestions from people. I chased symptoms for 18 months and when 1 resolved, something else emerged. It took my then 13 year od daughter to take a step back and look at Ginny holistically and recognise here was a pony with multiple issues that 18 months and 2 trips to Leahurst could not neither identify nor fix. And even though she looked ok generally she was not going to come right and was not happy or comfortable.

Once we made the decision I had to shut my ears to the well meaning 'but have you thought of' .... comments from friends. They wanted to help but I needed them to support my decision, and if they couldnt I needed them to just shut up. It was a huge relief when it was over and I have never regretted it nor doubted it was the right thing to do. But I had major doubts and it was horrendous in the lead up. Be kind to yourself.

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J_sarahd said:
I haven’t yet but I know when I am going to do it so I just need to find the strength to ring up
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I rang up, gave my name and said I am giving permission for my friend to deal with this for me, then handed the phone over. She did all the arrangements for me, and I walked away out of ear shot.
 
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