Lab looking for a home

[Clodagh]

3 year old, neutered male. Has been ill treated and is traumatised, he needs an experienced and very sympathetic owner. He has been 'trained' with a shock collar and if he hears a 'beep' (microwave for instance) he panics badly enough that he would harm himself trying to get away.
Good natured, likes other dogs, has lived with children but they scare him. House trained, and even when petrified does not wet himself. In fact will not go for far too long if too scared to risk it.
Happy out of the home, good on walks, totally shut down and depressed indoors. Needs, in an ideal world, an owner home most of the time and maybe another dog to show him how to live.
I really want to help this dog, the lady that has him has lots of children and other dogs and he really is not coping. She is also trying to find him someone, but although everyone loves a lab not everyone loves one on the spectrum (as she describes him).
He is not a dog for just anyone, he needs a lot of patience and time.

 

[meleeka]

Where in the country?

 

[Fidgety]

Those collars are the work of the devil. There's a guy in our village who swears his dogs are under control wearing them and to me sees putting putting his two large dogs on a lead is a sign of weakness! They aren't under control and one of them certainly ran though the shocks to chase some sheep belonging to the wildlife trust the other weekend <grrr>. Anyway, rant over - Clodagh, please can you update me on him if he doesn't find somebody over the next couple of weeks?

 

[Clodagh]

He is in Essex. She is desperate - she took him on to help him but she said she has done all she can, he now needs to learn how to live.

 

[Fidgety]

He is in Essex. She is desperate - she took him on to help him but she said she has done all she can, he now needs to learn how to live.

What is he like with cats?

 

[Clodagh]

She doesn't have any, but I imagine he would be scared of them. He was originally trained as a gun dog so has impeccable manners. He is gun shy and will not retrieve now though. He really is scared of everything.

 

[Fidgety]

Oh bless. I wish it weren't coming up to Christmas (too many visits to rellies coming up over the next two weeks ), but we've both been broody for another dog (had two together for so long it feels odd just having the one). He's good with other dogs?

 

[Clodagh]

He is fine with both dogs and bitches. He doesn't know how to play, but he greets politely and wags his tail.

 

[Pinkvboots]

Oh bless. I wish it weren't coming up to Christmas (too many visits to rellies coming up over the next two weeks ), but we've both been broody for another dog (had two together for so long it feels odd just having the one). He's good with other dogs?

oh go on go and see him

 

[Fidgety]

oh go on go and see him

LOL, you are so naughty! . Seriously Clodagh, let me get the next couple of weeks out of the way, it sounds like it wouldn't be at all fair on him to subject him to so much sensory overload that would be due to him, but I'd really like you to keep me updated.

 

[Pearlsasinger]

LOL, you are so naughty! . Seriously Clodagh, let me get the next couple of weeks out of the way, it sounds like it wouldn't be at all fair on him to subject him to so much sensory overload that would be due to him, but I'd really like you to keep me updated.

I'm sure the current 'fosterer' would be thrilled to let you meet him, with a view to taking him after Christmas

 

[Fidgety]

I'm sure the current 'fosterer' would be thrilled to let you meet him, with a view to taking him after Christmas

Tsk - you haven't met my mother - if I rearrange this weekend (twice over the last week I've had to swap days, it should have been last weekend, was going to be this Friday and now I've got to grovel and say ooops sorry can it now be Saturday), I will be needing a minder

 

[Pearlsasinger]

Tsk - you haven't met my mother - if I rearrange this weekend (twice over the last week I've had to swap days, it should have been last weekend, was going to be this Friday and now I've got to grovel and say ooops sorry can it now be Saturday), I will be needing a minder

What's wrong with meeting him on Sunday?

 

[Fidgety]

What's wrong with meeting him on Sunday?

Collecting son No 1 from LoBrow for Crimbo Sunday PM because mother and mother in law who were due a visit last weekend but had to be cancelled due to car not passing MoT, but have been scheduled from Friday/Saturday and now rescheduled for Saturday/Sunday am because had forgotten a previous arrangement for Friday evening. Anyway, have Pm'd Clodagh regarding my serious interest

 

[Pearlsasinger]

Collecting son No 1 from LoBrow for Crimbo Sunday PM because mother and mother in law who were due a visit last weekend but had to be cancelled due to car not passing MoT, but have been scheduled from Friday/Saturday and now rescheduled for Saturday/Sunday am because had forgotten a previous arrangement for Friday evening. Anyway, have Pm'd Clodagh regarding my serious interest

I'm pleased to hear that! Do keep us updated

 

[Clodagh]

Replied. I don't think a nervous dog would cope with a new home this time of year anyway, and am sure his 'homer' won't mind hanging on to the New Year. Everything crossed!

 

[ycbm]

Would the dog be happier in kennels until fidgety can take him?

 

[Red-1]

Do we have a photo?

We already have Hector, who was similar when we got him (and still can't cope with cutlery) but would need to show OH a photo... He is only semi interested in a new dog...

Our house is the same at Xmas as when not Xmas. OH is retired, home all day.

 

[Fidgety]

Would the dog be happier in kennels until fidgety can take him?

Slow down! Not only have we not met each other yet, we don't yet know if he's cat safe. The cats rule the roost in the Fidgety household I'm afraid .

Red-1 - do you want me to hang fire from calling his fosterer until your OH has seen a piccy?

 

[ycbm]

Slow down! Not only have we not met each other yet, we don't yet know if he's cat safe. The cats rule the roost in the Fidgety household I'm afraid .

Red-1 - do you want me to hang fire from calling his fosterer until your OH has seen a piccy?

Fairy tale ending for Christmas! I can dream

 

[Alec Swan]

I often wonder, when I see dogs which simply don't cope with life and regardless of the reasons, if the kindest, the most humane and decent answer is to send them quietly off to heaven, rather than delaying what may be the inevitable.

All so often, those with the needed experience quiet rightly point out that life's a great deal easier starting with a pup. Those with the required knowledge and experience and having learned from experience, all so often find that all the wrongs are rarely corrected. I'm sorry to be so negative Clodagh, but &#8230;&#8230;..

Alec.

 

[Clodagh]

I often wonder, when I see dogs which simply don't cope with life and regardless of the reasons, if the kindest, the most humane and decent answer is to send them quietly off to heaven, rather than delaying what may be the inevitable.

All so often, those with the needed experience quiet rightly point out that life's a great deal easier starting with a pup. Those with the required knowledge and experience and having learned from experience, all so often find that all the wrongs are rarely corrected. I'm sorry to be so negative Clodagh, but &#8230;&#8230;..

Alec.

No, you have a valid point and the lady who has him has considered it, and her OH thinks it would be the right thing to do. He has made huge progress though and out of the house is a delight, in the house he is a very sad boy and in fact is happier in a kennel at the moment. In a quiet house, with someone who put no pressure on him I think he would come round. Mr Clodagh would have him, Alec, and I know you rate his opinion above mine! We do not want 6 house dogs though, and it is hard but a dog that cannot work would take up space on one that can. He would be better in a pet home.

 

[Red-1]

Slow down! Not only have we not met each other yet, we don't yet know if he's cat safe. The cats rule the roost in the Fidgety household I'm afraid .

Red-1 - do you want me to hang fire from calling his fosterer until your OH has seen a piccy?

No, you do whatever is best for the dog, we do not *need* another, and there is no sure fire thing that OH will fall for it.

 

[Red-1]

I often wonder, when I see dogs which simply don't cope with life and regardless of the reasons, if the kindest, the most humane and decent answer is to send them quietly off to heaven, rather than delaying what may be the inevitable.

All so often, those with the needed experience quiet rightly point out that life's a great deal easier starting with a pup. Those with the required knowledge and experience and having learned from experience, all so often find that all the wrongs are rarely corrected. I'm sorry to be so negative Clodagh, but &#8230;&#8230;..

Alec.

Now that is pause for thought Alec. I will take that into consideration.

 

[Red-1]

Had a further conversation. New dog is a possibility. One so traumatised is a worry, and Essex is the final worry as we could not visit a couple of times, first on our own, then with Heck, to see if it would all work out.

Not to be for this dog, sadly, but it has opened a chink in his heart for another at some point.

 

[Fidgety]

I often wonder, when I see dogs which simply don't cope with life and regardless of the reasons, if the kindest, the most humane and decent answer is to send them quietly off to heaven, rather than delaying what may be the inevitable.

All so often, those with the needed experience quiet rightly point out that life's a great deal easier starting with a pup. Those with the required knowledge and experience and having learned from experience, all so often find that all the wrongs are rarely corrected. I'm sorry to be so negative Clodagh, but &#8230;&#8230;..

Alec.

Hi Alec, wise words and I can assure you we won't let our hearts rule our heads and let images of happily ever after be the driver for us. If when we meet him and there's not a rapport between us I promise that I am not too proud to say I don't think I have the skills or the environment to help him.

 

[Clodagh]

Just to let you all know that the owner (who I did not know was still on the scene) is not happy with the dog going to a home as far away as Fidgety, so he is not going up there. I am really sorry about this as I got everyones hopes up for nothing. I hope they can find him somewhere.

 

[TheresaW]

Aww, that is such a shame. I messaged Fidgety earlier to see if anything was happening.

Don’t blame yourself, you’ve tried to help.

 

[Fidgety]

Thanks for everything you've done Clodagh and I sincerely hope that boy gets the home he deserves x.

 

[Alec Swan]

Just to let you all know that the owner (who I did not know was still on the scene) is not happy with the dog going to a home as far away as Fidgety, so he is not going up there. I am really sorry about this as I got everyones hopes up for nothing. I hope they can find him somewhere.

Aww, that is such a shame. I messaged Fidgety earlier to see if anything was happening.

Don&#8217;t blame yourself, you&#8217;ve tried to help.

Thanks for everything you've done Clodagh and I sincerely hope that boy gets the home he deserves x.

There will be those who are feeling a trifle frustrated, I suspect, and with good reason. Under such circumstances, I generally put my hands in my pockets, turn my back and walk away whistling a happy tune.

Sometimes and some dogs deserve better owners than they have.

Alec.