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Yesterday had the most wonderful day :) my friend took her pony sj at a local place for the first time , we went with the aim of doing a clear round at 1'6 , she would do the 1'6 class and then I'd take her in the 2' class. Lack of time meant I'd never even done a x pole on said pony , but warmed her up for my friend in the clear round class . Came away with a clear round and calm pony , but she over jumps everything and can spook . I'm not the most experienced jumper and even at these tiny heights it was nerve wracking lol

Her owner got 4 th in her class is did the 2' class on her and by now she was locking onto jumps and leaping them , we went clear one of only 4 to jump clear out of 12 so very happy then jump off where we came 2nd very happy .

Photos on fbook last night and someone who I know wrote why are you standing up over this jump , I admit it wasn't the best looking position m my eyes were squinting in a grimace but I'm not pulling horses mouth just standing up as she was making such a round shape over tiny jumps and can be prone to a buck . Said commenter won't jump any more even at these heights and this isn't the first time she's been negative when I've been jumping (first time was my 4 year old first show and first round of jumps and we came 4th , cue lots of praise from me and the woman says she wasn't that good )

So my rant is if you're not out doing what other people are doing in their horses and other people's ponies cos youve lost your confidence , who are you to make snide and negative comments on other people who re trying their hardest and doing the best they can to give young / novice horses and ponies the confidence they need . To me it's not the winning or looking the best it's doing the best by the horse your riding
 
Ignore the comment, nothing wrong with staying off the horse's back- whatever the height of the jump! I'd be inclined to delete/block this person, they obviously have nothing useful to say so shouldn't have the privilege of being able to "stalk" your pictures!

(There are some people on fbook who purely have people on their friends list so they can spy on what they're doing and then bitch about it or make snide comments to you- they could well be that sort, ruin their fun by deleting them!)
 
Your commenter sounds jealous to me. Bear in mind even the best jumpers do not always look 'elegant' over every fence.

You have done well and are to be congratulated not derided.

Ignore her.
 
lurcherlu said:
Yesterday had the most wonderful day :) my friend took her pony sj at a local place for the first time , we went with the aim of doing a clear round at 1'6 , she would do the 1'6 class and then I'd take her in the 2' class. Lack of time meant I'd never even done a x pole on said pony , but warmed her up for my friend in the clear round class . Came away with a clear round and calm pony , but she over jumps everything and can spook . I'm not the most experienced jumper and even at these tiny heights it was nerve wracking lol

Her owner got 4 th in her class is did the 2' class on her and by now she was locking onto jumps and leaping them , we went clear one of only 4 to jump clear out of 12 so very happy then jump off where we came 2nd very happy .

Photos on fbook last night and someone who I know wrote why are you standing up over this jump , I admit it wasn't the best looking position m my eyes were squinting in a grimace but I'm not pulling horses mouth just standing up as she was making such a round shape over tiny jumps and can be prone to a buck . Said commenter won't jump any more even at these heights and this isn't the first time she's been negative when I've been jumping (first time was my 4 year old first show and first round of jumps and we came 4th , cue lots of praise from me and the woman says she wasn't that good )

So my rant is if you're not out doing what other people are doing in their horses and other people's ponies cos youve lost your confidence , who are you to make snide and negative comments on other people who re trying their hardest and doing the best they can to give young / novice horses and ponies the confidence they need . To me it's not the winning or looking the best it's doing the best by the horse your riding
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For goodness sake - grow up and learn to ignore them. Better still don't put your life on Facebook. You complain about people bitching about you, then in turn you bitch about them.
 
Remove and block them on fb. You are allowed to feel pleased with your day and put pictures up, some people just need to shut up.
 
fatpiggy said:
For goodness sake - grow up and learn to ignore them. Better still don't put your life on Facebook. You complain about people bitching about you, then in turn you bitch about them.
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I haven't said they are bitching , I've said is there any need for the snide comments ? I haven't uploaded pictures , the pro that was at the show put them up , and anyway if I want to have anything I will , it's a good way to keep in contact with friends and family around the world . And read my post said person has also said things to me in person at other shows . I'm entitled to feel a bit put down , are you telling me that every negative thing ever said to you you've ignored ???!

I'm all up for cc but no need for out right nasty comments
 
Wheels said:
Just smile and nod, get on with your day :) I know that's not always easy!
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No not always easy , in general I'm a thick skinned person , but when you feel like you're finally starting to achieve something it feels like a kick in the guts .

On wards and upwards from now on
 
The majority of horsey people are bitch and catty - we all know this. By letting a snide comment get to you to the point you feel the need to rant about it on a public forum because you want us to slate HER and tell YOU everything will be ok is only stooping to her level.

Once you learn not to give a **** life is a lot easier. Trust me.
 
heebiejeebies said:
The majority of horsey people are bitch and catty - we all know this. By letting a snide comment get to you to the point you feel the need to rant about it on a public forum because you want us to slate HER and tell YOU everything will be ok is only stooping to her level.

Once you learn not to give a **** life is a lot easier. Trust me.
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^^^ this
 
heebiejeebies said:
The majority of horsey people are bitch and catty - we all know this. By letting a snide comment get to you to the point you feel the need to rant about it on a public forum because you want us to slate HER and tell YOU everything will be ok is only stooping to her level.

Once you learn not to give a **** life is a lot easier. Trust me.
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I get this is do ....

But it's not just once its pretty much each time I do a show . I'm not asking anyone t slate her , I asking why do people feel the need to be so negative when others are doing well . It's not even like we are competing in the same classes or against each other :/

And I know I have been bitchy by stating this on a public forum , I'm. Not asking for support just wanted to vent I suppose .
 
lurcherlu said:
I asking why do people feel the need to be so negative when others are doing well . It's not even like we are competing in the same classes or against each other .
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Sadly it's been ever thus in the horse-world.

It can hurt but the best thing you can do is to ask yourself if her opinion is worth having - if not then just ignore it or have a little wry smile to yourself that she's being a bit silly.
 
lurcherlu said:
I haven't said they are bitching , I've said is there any need for the snide comments ? I haven't uploaded pictures , the pro that was at the show put them up , and anyway if I want to have anything I will , it's a good way to keep in contact with friends and family around the world . And read my post said person has also said things to me in person at other shows . I'm entitled to feel a bit put down , are you telling me that every negative thing ever said to you you've ignored ???!

I'm all up for cc but no need for out right nasty comments
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I think you have rather a lot to learn about life. I know for a fact that people have said some really nasty things about me behind my back, and quite a few have said things to my face. It has been that way since the year dot, and will carry on happening until planet Earth blows up. I haven't died of it yet and frankly I really don't care what they think of me. I can do perfectly well without them. What is this obsession with people these days to have the minutae of their life up in public for everyone to see? As to keeping friends and family in the loop, what happened to a phone call, or a round robin email with some pictures attached? Half of the so-called friends people have on Faceache are just loose connections, quite a few who they have never actually ever met in the flesh.

I'm glad you had a nice day at the show with your pony but really, it isn't national news and I just don't understand why people want to broadcast to all and sundry ( you have after all given everyone here who wants to read it a blow by blow account). In my day that was called boasting.

Just get on and enjoy yourself with your pony, that is supposed to be what it is all about.
 
When my mare and I have done well at something, I know we've done well. Likewise when we haven't, I know we haven't. So whatever anyone says, I know they are either wrong, and I couldn't care less, or they are justified in what they say, so I try and improve things.
 
fatpiggy said:
I think you have rather a lot to learn about life.
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^^ This. Hope I don't offend you OP but you do sound very young!

There's a saying "what other people think of you is none of your business" and once you understand that saying you'll end up with less grey hairs ;)
 
All a little harsh as OP says she did not put the pictures up and, even at my great age and with a skin like a rhino, I might be a tad put out if someone was commenting nastily on my riding on social media.

Facebook (or Twitbook as my OH calls it) is general currency for younger people and it must be quite mortifying knowing that all your friends are reading negative comments about you when you think you've had a good day.

Chin up, OP. You will learn that there are some people whose opinions aren't worth the breath they take to utter.
 
If it was a one off 'moment in time' due to a bad jump OP, just simply reply back explaining that. It's no big deal. If it's not, and that is how you are jumping every jump, then they have a point really..perhaps some lessons on the pony to help get to grips with each other.
 
Completely off point, but I'm new to this forum lark, what does OP mean? Thanks.

Back to the point, take absolutely no notice of what other people think. I agree with fatpiggy in that you're not going to die from it, these people don't influence your life, so why bother even giving it head room? I know for one I wouldn't.

You know how well you've done for you (and your friend) and that's all that matters.
 
The best thing to do is develop a thick skin pretty quickly and just take a moment to think of a reply, something along the lines of -

'Oh, I'm hoping to make the Olympic 'Standing On The Horses Back While Going Over A Jump' event, but they told me to start off small...'...

Or -

'I couldn't quite see where the burger van was, so I thought I'd save time and stretch up to see if I can spot it, ya know..us girls being great at multi-tasking and all that...'...

Glad you had a good day! :D
 
DragonSlayer said:
The best thing to do is develop a thick skin pretty quickly and just take a moment to think of a reply, something along the lines of -

'Oh, I'm hoping to make the Olympic 'Standing On The Horses Back While Going Over A Jump' event, but they told me to start off small...'...

Or -

'I couldn't quite see where the burger van was, so I thought I'd save time and stretch up to see if I can spot it, ya know..us girls being great at multi-tasking and all that...'...

Glad you had a good day! :D
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Haha , me and the pony I was on would be gold medal winners at this event ... The burger van race ;)
 
I find these sorts of people quite funny, they always have some snarky little remark to make and give me a giggle. Some people just have a pathological need to be a b*t*h and their petty efforts are very entertaining!
 
To hell with them I say! (Which is easy to say after two glasses of wine), I find the ones who mouth off are the ones who do NOTHING themselves. ......so just ignore them and next time out beat them!!!!!
 
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Sukistokes2 said:
To hell with them I say! (Which is easy to say after two glasses of wine), I find the ones who mouth off are the ones who do NOTHING themselves. ......so just ignore them and next time ot beat them!!!!!
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Looking back on original post I look like a Whingy kid, I'm not I'm a grown woman , I'm just fed up of snide remarks by one woman , firstly aimed at my horse as we did micro stakes jumping as first show and first time doing a full course and apparently as its this height it wasn't like the horse did that well ....

Yesterday I'd never jumped the pony before I helped out with my friend to warm pony u and get some more experience for me and the pony and different comment from woman ....

Someone else has uploaded more pics this evening , I'm really pleased with how we look , can't upload to here as they are pro pics or some e else's and don't have permission
 
Ahhhhhhh side line gigglers !!! I love them :D they r my personal drive in life ! Let them giggle ..let them laugh ..i smile along ..then go back and train my horse some more.. Really put the hours in ( as rosettes and earned at home and go the shows to collect them ) then I come back and beat the giggler :) I love being the underdog ... The more people laugh snigger or whatever .. The better and more determined I am to improve ! And who cares if I miss up ..as the giggler was expecting it anyway ;)
So turn this around ..use the comment to catapult u to the next level ;)
 
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