Loan crisis

This is an awful thing for them to do to you, and worse given that they are a friend! It must be heartbreaking for you and for your daughter. I would definitely agree with picking up the phone to the dad and saying you feel rather betrayed that this agreement has been broken and that you really feel it is not appropriate for someone who is asking for a horse back because they 'miss' them to wait until Summer. Say that you would perhaps be willing to buy the horse for the amount originally paid for her (and phrase it like that!) or otherwise you feel it would be better for the horse to go back this weekend. Then keep very very quiet and wait for their response!!

If you do end up sending the mare back, it would be worth looking for another horse for your daughter, as there are some really good projects going very cheap due to the market and time of year, and it sounds like between you, you could produce a youngster or tricky horse very well. And that one is one she would own outright and could definitely keep! Whatever happens, I and I'm sure the other posters would love to know the outcome!
 
I would send the horse back but tell them to contact you if they decide to sell. My guess is you'll hear from them within a short space of time!

Or, produce a bill for livery and training and see what happens.

I certainly wouldn't be paying £2500 for her.
 
Jackster14 said:
Any update OP?
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Thanks for all your advice....I rang her and said I would drop the horse back to her straight away as I dont want my daughter getting more attached and I will need to go and buy her a horse of her own and will need the stable.

At first she agreed then she rang back and asked how much was I planning on buying a new horse for. When I asked why she said I could buy the mare from her for £2800. I laughed said no thanks and I had looked at horses on sale for about £1000. We could improve a youngster or tricky horse.

Next day she rang back to say I could have her for £1800, dropped £1000 overnight.....Again I said if buying I would really prefer something younger......

This morning I had a text asking what is the most I will pay for her because she has been offered £1600by the girl who my daughter beat at showjumping 2 weeks ago?

It frustrates me because there is no way she could sell her to them before we had her. I haven't mentioned any of this to my daughter. I think I am going to have to bite the bullet and just give her what she wants though.....She clearly misses her a lot......She did mention that she thinks she will be worth a lot more in summer after my daughter does a few ODE on her!!!
 
If you really like her, buy it. Sounds a reasonable sort of price really. No good saying what something WILL be worth (we all have our geese that will be swans) but what it is now.

This is a hazard of loaning, sort of happened to me that we took on a pony that the owner couldn't sell, we got it going well, winning PC things and it was more or less sold out from under us. I was a bit cross, but we had had the pony quite a time and my daughter had nearly grown out of it. Still rankles that we didn't get a penny from the sale!
 
Agree with Amymay, give her the cash. If there is another buyer, which may be true or may not be, it would be worth it to secure her.

I hope you told the owner that your daughter won't be doing anything more with her unless you own her.
 
Offered her the money and she has accepted. Now wants more for TACK! a rusty gag old indian leather bridle 2 outdoor rugs with a few tears and a synthetic saddle without girth stirrups and she wants an extra £250!!!! I think she is taking the P*** now.
Told her she could come and take all tack back! I already had a spare saddle i had fitted for her and I bought her a new bridle and changed her bit the first weekend I had her! My recently retired trakener mare is the same size in rugs, boots and tack and has loads of spares. She wasn't happy ;)
 
Well done. Like Amy May says - go now to the bank, take out cash and deliver it to her with all her tack. Write a receipt she just has to sign, get her to sign it and never speak to the evil, conniving tramp again.
 
Jackster14 said:
What a lovely present for your daughter. Glad it had a happy outcome., well played!!
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Yes it was a good outcome because we get the horse. It still niggles me though.... What if I didn't have that money.... as it is it was money i had set aside for fencing in the new year....

Loaners beware. I certainly won't be doing it again after this lesson.....
 
That's good news , I would feel niggled to but as you say lesson learned and what price your daughters face when you tell her on christmas day , I think we need pictures of that .
It's a good outcome .
 
Oh excellant news. get that cash to her reciept signed. Oh boy please please let us know your daughters reaction. what a christmas pressie :) fantastic update x
 
Great outcome!! Hand over money, tack and stuff and get a receipt all with a big smile then have nothing else to do with her.

Can't wait to see piccies I'll bet your daughter will go nuts on Xmas day :D
 
Black Beastie said:
Great outcome!! Hand over money, tack and stuff and get a receipt all with a big smile then have nothing else to do with her.

Can't wait to see piccies I'll bet your daughter will go nuts on Xmas day :D
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She is going to be so pleased. She had outgrown her last pony (we have kept her though) and although she still rides her (pony 13.3 -14h ish and daughter size 8 but 5ft 7) she is too tall to be competing on her... I had told her I wasn't going to buy her another with her going off to uni in 3 years hence the loan horse. She thought she was going have to share her sisters ex racers!

I might put a bow on her christmas morning!

Thanks everyone for the support.
 
I've been watching this with interest and I am so pleased you got the right outcome. I would love to be a fly on the wall on Christmas Day - what an amazing present for your daughter!
 
Amazing news! So pleased for you!

I too hope to have a similiar outcome with my loan mare one day :)

All the best
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