topbanana
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Regular poster here under pseudonym. Im on a nice DIY yard of around 30 or so people, so fairly large. Its great in general and is run by a farmer, whos great but doesnt want to be involved in anything other than e.g. mending fences and bringing us hay bales. In general everyone gets on and does their thing, and it works really well, but it means theres no chance of managerial input with yard bitchiness.
Lately weve got this little group who have turned super bitchy. It turns out everyone on the yard has an issue with them to some extent. They are all ok individually but together are very snidey and love laughing at everyone behind their backs (of course theyre also the group that hardly ride themselves, but love bitching about everyone elses riding). They make people feel very uncomfortable and create a real atmosphere noticed by everyone, from people whove just arrived on the yard, to long term residents, to the kids! They love to stir up trouble but in quite a subtle way (for example, there have been reports of food going missing, which I reckon are nothing but stirring) and that sort of thing. Its nothing massively obvious, so hard to pin down, but it is noticed by all.
On a personal level, I really dont care what they think of me or my riding, and Im happy to rise above it as it were and I just ignore them. However, it seems so stupid that a whole group of like 25 people are getting frustrated by this group and that we cant DO anything about it long term other than just ignore them.
Im just interested in what others have done in situations like this (without intervention of yard manager). Yard meetings?! If so, how did you keep them from turning into slanging matches? I cant imagine this lot being very open to constructive criticism. Maybe there is no resolution other than everyone just ignoring it?! Anyway interested in others thoughts on the matter.
Lately weve got this little group who have turned super bitchy. It turns out everyone on the yard has an issue with them to some extent. They are all ok individually but together are very snidey and love laughing at everyone behind their backs (of course theyre also the group that hardly ride themselves, but love bitching about everyone elses riding). They make people feel very uncomfortable and create a real atmosphere noticed by everyone, from people whove just arrived on the yard, to long term residents, to the kids! They love to stir up trouble but in quite a subtle way (for example, there have been reports of food going missing, which I reckon are nothing but stirring) and that sort of thing. Its nothing massively obvious, so hard to pin down, but it is noticed by all.
On a personal level, I really dont care what they think of me or my riding, and Im happy to rise above it as it were and I just ignore them. However, it seems so stupid that a whole group of like 25 people are getting frustrated by this group and that we cant DO anything about it long term other than just ignore them.
Im just interested in what others have done in situations like this (without intervention of yard manager). Yard meetings?! If so, how did you keep them from turning into slanging matches? I cant imagine this lot being very open to constructive criticism. Maybe there is no resolution other than everyone just ignoring it?! Anyway interested in others thoughts on the matter.