lying/ exagerating..more common in the horse world?

[ChestnutTinker]

What a great idea for a thread!!
The biggest exaggeration in the horse world, I think, is people and their riding ability or lack of

''Yeah i've ridden for 'x' amount of years, I am a pro'' And then rides like they've just started

 

[_GG_]

It's like working in a riding school and someone booking a hack, saying they are experienced and have ridden their whole lives. They turn up and can't ride for toffee.

I am who I am...no point exaggerating, I would be found out pretty quickly seeing as people on here know me and my FB is full of all friends and family.

I feel sad for those who lie and talk themselves up as it is generally an attempt at acceptance or approval. Those of us that are content and secure usually give off a very confident vibe as we have nothing to prove. For those lacking confidence, it is easier possibly to try to use fabrications to give them a false confidence to equal ours than be confident i just who they are.

It's sad because we've all had moments where we were not who we are now, but sadly for some, they stick to the behaviour and end up pushing everyone away.

And I have posted videos of me and my mare on here and pictures...not bothered by it. I'm better than some and crap compared to others...makes me pretty normal I think

 

[Enfys]

What a great idea for a thread!!
The biggest exaggeration in the horse world, I think, is people and their riding ability or lack of

''Yeah i've ridden for 'x' amount of years, I am a pro'' And then rides like they've just started

LMAO. Actually that last sentence IS me, apart from the being a pro bit that is

 

[ChestnutTinker]

LMAO. Actually that last sentence IS me, apart from the being a pro bit

I doubt that's the case, Enfys And I promise, it was not directed at you
But if it were the case, it doesn't matter because I don't see you claiming to be a 'pro' or 'experienced rider who knows everything'

 

[touchstone]

I think it tends to be folks that are new to horses or novicey who make the biggest exaggerations. When I was teaching, the experienced riders were usually pretty honest, saying what they thought their weaknesses were and what they thought they needed to work on.

The novicey types would always want to go straight in and start jumping before they could rise to the trot properly, and the tales I've been told about how many young stallions the fourteen year old has broken in single handedly

I'm pretty lucky now in that mine is kept at home, so no competition from livery yards, and I don't compete so out of that circuit too. I just watch and wait for the inevitable disappointment from those Olympic hopefuls that don't make it.

I don't put photo's on here btw, mainly because I'm technologically inept! I wouldn't want uncalled for scrutiny either. That being said, I'd never claim to be a top class rider and know my limitations!

 

[Pongwiffy]

I feel sad for those who lie and talk themselves up as it is generally an attempt at acceptance or approval. Those of us that are content and secure usually give off a very confident vibe as we have nothing to prove. For those lacking confidence, it is easier possibly to try to use fabrications to give them a false confidence to equal ours than be confident i just who they are.

I genuinely believe that deep-seated insecurity is underlying cause of most unkind and untruthful behaviour exhibited by people. The problem is so many people feed their own insecurity by constantly judging themselves against others even when others aren't actually judging them.

 

[JinglebellJessi & MistletoeMagic]

On the other hand i lie terribly to non-horsey people. My boyfriend likes to use the card, 'oh and jess has a horse' when meeting his friends, only for people to ask me if my family are rich, own a mansion or if i ride with the same hunt as david cameron.
I tell them i rode for england in the showjumping at the 2012 olympics and that im a stunt rider for films such as lord of the rings and robin hood.

Ahh if only i wasnt living with my parents in a council house while fixing my horses fences with baling twine and trying to make my hay go that little bit further

 

[FfionWinnie]

Not everyone does.

I did however catch out the woman who had my horse on loan. She was on a forum spouting that she had this horse which was a "rescue" and was underweight blah blah. Well the horse was a rescue 7 years previously when *I* got her, and rehabbed her. When she got her it was the middle of winter and the horse had been seen by numerous vets who had not managed to diagnose diastema. She wanted the horse on loan but I really wanted to get to the bottom of why she was quidding and losing weight first. She begged and begged and I finally agreed she could (as she needed her as a companion for her other one mainly). She completely twisted the story to make out that she rescued the horse from near death and sorted everything out which is complete rubbish as actually I was there taking her to the vet and paying for the specialist dental treatment to get her sorted out. The horse then of course improved and she took the credit, everyone on the forum was praising her to the heavens as well

 

[Anglebracket]

I think it tends to be folks that are new to horses or novicey who make the biggest exaggerations. When I was teaching, the experienced riders were usually pretty honest, saying what they thought their weaknesses were and what they thought they needed to work on.

Well the less real experience the more room there is for exaggeration.

I think exaggerating and bigging oneself up is not unique to the horsey world.

 

[justabob]

What a great idea for a thread!!
The biggest exaggeration in the horse world, I think, is people and their riding ability or lack of

''Yeah i've ridden for 'x' amount of years, I am a pro'' And then rides like they've just started

I think it is a pointless thread, livery yard mentality at its worst. Who gives a damn anyway.

 

[melbiswas]

Friends of my children used to be terrible for this. I soon learnt not to put them on our very- different- to - riding school ponies!
Usually what they turned up in was a bit of a give- away.

 

[ann-jen]

I never understand why people feel the need to exaggerate how difficult their horses are like it proves they are such a wonderful rider to cope with it. Surely it would be a bigger achievement to brag about what a well schooled horse you own and are more of a decent jockey in the fact that you made it that way???

 

[Nicnac]

I think it is a pointless thread, livery yard mentality at its worst. Who gives a damn anyway.

Thank you Justabob; glad it's not just me

 

[justabob]

Thank you Justabob; glad it's not just me

You are more than welcome Nicnac.........

 

[TGM]

I think it is a pointless thread, livery yard mentality at its worst. Who gives a damn anyway.

Personally, I don't think it is a pointless thread. Some lies can be harmless but others can be dangerous, so if this thread encourages people to be a bit more careful and check things out thoroughly then I think it serves a useful purpose.

 

[justabob]

Personally, I don't think it is a pointless thread. Some lies can be harmless but others can be dangerous, so if this thread encourages people to be a bit more careful and check things out thoroughly then I think it serves a useful purpose.

Maybe, but I think the real reason for this thread is to ridicule others.

 

[_GG_]

Maybe, but I think the real reason for this thread is to ridicule others.

Or remind people that actually, there is usually a reason for it and that reason is not to be ridiculed.

 

[Equilibrium Ireland]

Don't think it's livery yard mentality really. It's the world we live into today. You're nobody unless you have a drama story. I'm far more about laughing so most of my life stories will be peppered with humor and taking the P out of me.

But I would be annoyed if stories circulated that were wrong to boost someone else's fragile ego. Like FW's story.

Terri

 

[Equilibrium Ireland]

Oh yeah and the whole "rescued" mentality. Nobody buys a horse he/she was rescued and saved.

Terri

 

[Wagtail]

I think it is a pointless thread, livery yard mentality at its worst. Who gives a damn anyway.

Hit a nerve, has it?

 

[justabob]

Hit a nerve, has it?

How very unpleasant.

 

[FfionWinnie]

Maybe, but I think the real reason for this thread is to ridicule others.

Isn't that your favourite occupation.

 

[FfionWinnie]

Oh yeah and the whole "rescued" mentality. Nobody buys a horse he/she was rescued and saved.

Terri

Yes I agree with you completely (but mine was a genuine cruelty case from the SSPCA ). I didn't claim to do the rescuing however but I did do the rehab and I have the scars to prove it

 

[Auslander]

Sniggers! I'm still living in the past, when I could ride reasonably neatly. Now I'm a fat, sweaty mess who still knows where the buttons are, but can't keep it together long enough to push them. Thank God the horse is a crock too, so I don't have to make a fool of myself in public!

 

[SadKen]

Good lord, I've told people a million times not to exaggerate

Think fibbing is pointless, I've never done it in the horse world. When I was about 9 I told my new classmates I'd been to Australia in an attempt to integrate. They caught me out, it was hideously cringe inducing, I never fibbed about my achievements again. They caught me out by asking me what the neighbours set was like and I didn't have an answer prepared.

 

[Quantock-cob]

Yes, on our yard we always tell new owners not to believe a word the YO says. She is a pathological liar, but not just about horsey stuff but also personal stuff about people in the village. It is a very small village 'though, and she has become very unpopular for spreading untrue rumours about people. The problem with this girl is that she can't remember what her lies were, so will constantly contradict herself and then accuses other people of lying about her Her latest lie that had all our jaws dropping to the ground was that her new horse had herpes. We were all worried about this and told her that the yard needed to be quarantined - when my OH asked her for the vet report to check what strain of herpes it was (he is a vet) she finally confessed to just making it up for a laugh and to see our reactions!! Arghh.

We are hoping to move from this yard ASAP - she drives us all mad.

 

[Equilibrium Ireland]

FW, please know I was not talking about you. I know there are actual rescues. But a lot of people play the abuse and rescue card because they get the attention they need out of it. I'm talking animals here. I have a SIL that Facebook has suited this purpose nicely. Really it's an illness with her. It's a very sticky situation as I have tried to intervene and point these things out to husband. It doesn't end well.

Terri

 

[glamourpuss]

Actually this isn't a pointless thread at all.

A couple of years ago I was on a livery yard when a new girl (C )turned up. Now she had 2 lovely horses & rode nicely. She started giving a few people on the yard lessons. I wasn't interested as I had my own trainer who is a 4* event rider.

One of the girls having lessons told me that C had helped my trainer with a horse that she was struggling with & that she'd turned it around for her. I mentioned this to my trainer.....nope hadn't heard of C let alone had her helping with a horse.
My interest was piqued at this point so asked what else C was telling her pupils.
She was saying :
- had qualified & been placed at BD nationals
- Competed advanced BE
- had been long listed for international teams eventing (but couldn't do it as too expensive)
- had trained with Ferdi Eilberg for a while but stopped as 'she couldn't learn any more from him'
Obviously 5 minutes on a computer & I found out she had qualified for regionals several years ago & had never evented above BE100....obviously I didn't find out about the Ferdi statement but I have my suspicions

Now if someone wants to lie, then that's their prerogative. At the end of the day it's themselves they have to look in the mirror & like what they see. My problem was in the case of this woman who was teaching people & charging £45 per 45 minutes on the back of lies. That is where these fantasists really hurt people

 

[Jesstickle]

I haven't actually ever sat on a horse!

 

[Summer pudding]

What a great idea for a thread!!
The biggest exaggeration in the horse world, I think, is people and their riding ability or lack of

''Yeah i've ridden for 'x' amount of years, I am a pro'' And then rides like they've just started

Am loving this thread...can we find the most outlandish exagerration? I was in a yard where the owner always took on rejects (to take hunting) - great stories of how this horse had 'killed a man'..etc. They all seemed like dobbins to me...but what do I know?!