Made a decision about my mare

Thanks both

I know what I think is right is to let her go and stop putting off the inevitable.

I know other people who i have asked are utterly shocked at everything ive done for her - ive tried literally everything.

Some horses are just not meant to be on this earth,
 
noodle_ said:
^ Thank you

I appreciate the kindness in everyones posts - i really did expect a backlash as she is so young but i honestly feel ive done everything i can for her
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Backlash for what?
You have done everything possible but its not worked.
She is telling you something and you are listening to what she is saying.
I think you are both brave and unselfish for that.
Shame there are not more like you.
 
joeanne said:
Backlash for what?
You have done everything possible but its not worked.
She is telling you something and you are listening to what she is saying.
I think you are both brave and unselfish for that.
Shame there are not more like you.
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I guess i just feel pure guilt for making that phone call and asking the vet to end her life.

I know its inevitable - as everything ive done with her has resulted in colic/ulcers and a stressy horse.

I know your right - i just feel incredibly guilty.
 
Oh noodle I'm so sorry how awful for you. Huge hugs and thinking of you.xxxxx

Bobajob not the time or the place, I'm horrified that you have posted that on this thread.
 
thanks Emilieu -

and i did see the comment above but choose to ignore...i dont wish to start a debate - as i know i am in the right on this, have done for months - its just very very difficult.
 
You tried your best and thats all you can do. Sorry to hear this but its sometimes standing back and saying enough is enough. Only you can make that decision(& I know I thought someone else would make it for me at the time, its called being realistic owner). I know quite a few people who sell on horses at the slightest hint of a problem as they dont want to deal with it. Out of sight out of mind. Your horse is lucky you tried to help it.
 
Its never easy to make a decision like this, dont feel guilty, as your putting your mares needs first.
When i had our pony pts, i found the worst part actually making the decision. Once she was gone although i felt terribly sad, i also felt a sense of relief that she was no longer suffering.
Take care x
 
Thanks all

Asha - i have just been back up to see her and let her on some good grass - shes for the first time in a while - really happy.

Makes no difference to my decision - i know i a month or two i would be in tears as shes miserable as she is every winter, but this year she has something underlying....

in a way i do hope the bloods come back with something significant - it will be easier for me.selfishly.


I know many people who have kept their horses here trying even more than i have for different things (lameness/back problems etc)...but dont do the one thing the horse would appreciate the most - pts. I hope i am doing the right thing by her.
 
noodle_ said:
Thanks all

Asha - i have just been back up to see her and let her on some good grass - shes for the first time in a while - really happy.

Makes no difference to my decision - i know i a month or two i would be in tears as shes miserable as she is every winter, but this year she has something underlying....

in a way i do hope the bloods come back with something significant - it will be easier for me.selfishly.


I know many people who have kept their horses here trying even more than i have for different things (lameness/back problems etc)...but dont do the one thing the horse would appreciate the most - pts. I hope i am doing the right thing by her.
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The exact same thing happened to me. The day before the vet was coming, the pony perked up and was cantering around the field. My vet was fantastic and reassured me that i had made the right decision, as it was a matter of time before she went down hill again x
 
noodle_ said:
Thanks all

Asha - i have just been back up to see her and let her on some good grass - shes for the first time in a while - really happy.

Makes no difference to my decision - i know i a month or two i would be in tears as shes miserable as she is every winter, but this year she has something underlying....

in a way i do hope the bloods come back with something significant - it will be easier for me.selfishly.


I know many people who have kept their horses here trying even more than i have for different things (lameness/back problems etc)...but dont do the one thing the horse would appreciate the most - pts. I hope i am doing the right thing by her.
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First of all the "right thing" is not usually the easiest thing, second I try very hard to not judge anyone at all, ever, on their decision on PTS/keep trying as it is such a personal thing. However, at times on here I have read things that quietly shock me, people doing "heroic" treatments at huge personal cost.... keeping on and on in the face of everything. I think you deserve respect for doing what you think is best for your horse despite its personal cost to yourself. I hope her passing is peaceful and that the little one is ok and that you find yourself in a happier place afterwards x
 
Thanks ^

we could keep trying.... go back to horsepital, scope again, go for further testing....we could. But i would also be heavily in debt.... not afford to live - and probably bankrupy myself. I adore my horse, but im also a realist. I cannot afford it, money does dictate. So if i cant afford to do more tests - my horse feels like crap, there is the only one option....its very sad :(
 
i really sympathise with ur predicament ,but please be comforted it is easier when they are PTS as its so stressful worrying all the time about them,they dont know anything about next week or tomorrow and you sound like youve reached your limit of being able to see her and not know what tomorrow will bring.
i had a fantastic beautiful horse who was 7 and i had owned since a foal, outwardly he was healthy and shining but inside his head was a very different story ,i PTS 2 weeks ago because it wasnt fair on him to let it go on and on indefinately until it was an emergency or he hurt someone.
its a relief TBH not to be worrying all the time about his future ,it took me 3 years of torturing myself over what to do, and i thought i would feel immense guilt but i dont! (dont be under the illusion that i dont miss him and sob into my pillow on a regular basis) hes now at peace and that is a huge burden off my shoulders. be strong and do what you know is right for you and your horse whatever that may be:)
 
noodle_ said:
Thanks all


I know many people who have kept their horses here trying even more than i have for different things (lameness/back problems etc)...but dont do the one thing the horse would appreciate the most - pts. I hope i am doing the right thing by her.
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I think that each individual should be the person who decides how far to go with their horse. For example I think many people would have had my mare PTS when she sustained her injury. Even the vets said she would probably never be paddock sound. But I knew she was happy and full of life. It's been a long journey, but now at age 18 and three years after her injury, she is not only paddock sound but I am back riding her.

So I don't think anyone can judge what is right for another person's horse. You know your mare. I have been anaemic on many occasions and I felt weak and depressed. So I'm sure you have made the right decision.
 
I don't know the history as haven't seen your previous posts but i can't imagine how hard it must be to go through this with such a young animal. When you say you are waiting for the bloods to come back, is that for some sort of diagnosis? Has noone been able to find what is causing the problems so far? It must be so frustrating as us, as humans always feel we can and will 'fix' or cure problems but, as you say some things are just not meant.

It sounds like there is something in her makeup and if that's the case then how do you treat it?

You shouldn't feel guilty about having to make the decision although I imagine you have plenty of "what if?" moments but that's just natural. I think you know of in your heart of hearts what is thr right thing to do by the horse and if that's your gut instinct then that's what you need to do.

Christ, hundreds of perfectly young healthy horses (lots of failed racers for example) are destroyed every year. That sort of thing upsets me and I feel is wrong. For those who have tried everything to save a horse but who still sadly eventually run put of options and have to make the difficult decision, I can only admire as i would struggle so much if it was me.
 
Thanks all

wagtail i see your point there :) i was more reffering to people i know personally, - but thats another debate for another day/another thread :)


ladyt25 - she was diagnosed with severe ulcers in feb this year but was off for a few mnths before (and now i look back it explains more of her reaction to things since i got her in 2010)!

Shes been on GG...went from a stable to field kept...omeprazole/supplements/ now living out -i bought her a new BFF! who she does adore...good rugs, good feed, high vet bills on and off and shes still not right - she was showing ulcer signs again from livin gout..

her gums are pale - blood tested.... she was blood tested in 2011- which showed she was anemic... by late 2011 she was kicking off with being ridden et c- but always been girthy... didnt realise until she stopped eating for 3 days in feb 2012 we scoped her...she was a mess internally bless her.


I shoudl add - shes not in work - on total rest... she has been in/out of work from feb-may and then rested (turnout then lv out) from may - now.

I cant imagine putting her through a winter now....my vet does agree which is a small comfort...
 
I remember too. I know you tried really hard, I remember the threads and pms as you tried to find the right grass livery for her. I think you've done loads more than other people would have done. My heart breaks for you, I would have loved to read a happy ending, but you're doing the right thing. Best wishes and hugs.xx
 
quirky said:
So sorry it has come to this :(.

She could have another 20 years ahead of her, in pain and miserable. That is no life for her :(. You have made a hard decision, not made any easier by her relative youth, safe in the knowledge that you have explored every avenue and made changes to her management, all to no avail.
Be sad but be happy that you tried everything for her, it just wasn't to be.
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^^ this - perfectly put. Hugs to you x
 
As they say, better a day early than a day late.

Huge hugs, can't imagine what you're going through. Hopefully your younger one will help get you through it that little bit easier xx
 
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