My boy is being put to sleep

Big hugs - will be thinking of you and Merlin over the weekend.

My sister's mare who we grew up with and also the dam of my mare, was put to sleep a few years ago one of her problems was cushings she deteriorated so rapidly.

Enjoy the time you have left with him and the good memories when he's gone. If you do feel you want to stay and see him go, it's not as bad as you might think, they look so peaceful and younger somehow? hope that's of some comfort. xx
 
its vey hard to say goodbye, it was a yr last week since I made the decision for my boy! Saying goodbye was the hardest I could not be there either and a good friend was, I went down to say goodbye in the field and took lots of apples and carrots and he would not leave me, I was in floods of tears and eventually he did go, but walking away was the hardest thing to do!! But I did know it was for the best
 
I'm so sorry, I lost my old boy 4 years ago. He was 27 and I'd had him 14 years - since we both 13. I was lucky in that I didn't have to make the decision, he was still fit and well until one morning I went to put him out and he was down in his stable. He had colic, the vet said he was already on his way and all we could do was help him along. It was a huge shock and awful at the time but now I look back and know it was the best way for him to have gone. He'd been in about 10 hours and had eaten all his hay so he can't have been suffering for very long and it was all over within an hour of finding him. It all happened so quickly I had no choice but to be there, and it was nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be. I'm glad I was with him, but he was already lying down and I think that made it easier. I totally understand if you feel you can't do it.

Take plenty of time to grieve. I spent two days on my own at my parents house - they were on hols and my OH was away with work - sitting on the floor with their, and my childhood dog (who was himself 15 by then, bless him) licking my tears away, but even after that I'd find myself crying at random things that reminded me of him. Now I remember the good times and laugh at his antics.

I swore I'd never put myself through it by having another one, but 3 months later a big grey hunter filled the stable and eventually the gap in my heart. He'll never be Ebony but he is just as special to me and your mares will be too. You'll appreciate them in different ways for different things, but they'll be just as special as him one day.
 
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I'm sorry to hear that, it'll be a sad weekend for you. Rotten decision for you but the right one for his sake.

Don't feel bad if you decide that you can't be with him, he won't know any different. I never stay with any of mine if I have a choice because I'd rather remember them as they were.
 
I so feel for you. I have had to do this myself, very suddenly, my mare was only 7, but my vet said to me that we have a responsibility to do the best we can for our horses and sometimes this is the best for them, it is so hard and I know how you must be feeling but remind yourself how you loved and protected your boy for as long as you could, a horse could not wish for any more. It does get easier, just, but I know when my Holly went, about a month later I got a very strong feeling that she was cantering across the sky, finally released from pain and I did feel a little easier after that but big hugs and keep telling yourself this is the best you can do. xxx
 
I went through this two months ago. Stay strong for him. Fuss him and love him. And remember the good times.

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My thoughts are with you, It sounds like it is for the best.

Just think of the good times and spoil him this weekend.

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Im so sorry about reading this
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I had me 23yr old mare put down two weeks ago tonight and it still hurts. The best thing i found was I pulled out all my photos of her and though about the memories. Im still cut up about it now

Im so sorry xxxx
 
Hi Lexie81,

I am so sorry to read your news, I am sat here crying my eyes out after reading this thread.

Its so clear to me that Merlin has had a wonderful life, and that he has been very much loved.

They do let you know when its time, and you are being so brave its the final act of kindness any loving owner can do.

Spend the weekend giving him as many apples, carrots and polos as you like.

I lost my mare 2 and half years ago and after the tears you really will remember all of the good times and he will always have that special place in your heart.

When I went through this with my girlie I was adamant that I would not have another horse because I couldnt take the heart ache, but my heart hurt more without the bond that forms between horse and rider, the good times will always outweigh the sad.

I agree with Enfys - you dont need to be there if you dont want to be, but its a personal choice.

I will be thinking of you this weekend, be strong honey.

Gem
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Thanks, to every one of you that has taken the time to post on this. I am still very very sad, but I am getting my head around the idea now. I am sorry that i have made some of you cry!
I will, when it feels right, go through all my old photographs of him and I am going to buy one of those frames that hold lots of pictures and put some of his best ones in there. I am going to need rescue remedy, and wine, by the gallon this weekend!
 
Just got home from the yard, heis having a whale of a time, my usually very yard proud YO / best chum has given him special dispensation to have the run of the yard - a grassy paddock but with the gate left open so he can also munch round the sides of the other fields and wander round the school. He staioned himself outside the feedroom when i arrived, and as i left he was nibbleing all the thistles from round the edge of the sand school. Have taken over 100 pics this morning, and if i can figure it out will post one of him in a little while. My friends usually unhorsey boyfriend has left the biggest pile of hay in his paddock too, he is being soooo spoilt!
 
What a stunning picture of your little lad
I know how you feel. as i too had my boy pts 4 weeks ago, ! My thoughts will be with you !

R.I.P Merlin xx
 
You are doing the right thing and at home which he knows not being carted off somewhere.All of my horses I've had in the past have been put down at home, they don't know what is going to happen and think of the happy memories, I do like when Merlin dumped me over a fence, I'd made the mistake of having him shod and teeth done the same day and the time when he did a big buck and I ended up hanging by my hands from a low branch of a tree while he trotted off and the time he flattened me and you could see my outline in the dirt and I never beleived the saying after that, that a horse will try and go round you.But I had him for 22 years and loved him dearly, still dream about him and the others.
 
Yes Kezz he is bay, he used to be so shiney like a conker, not so much now with the cushings. He is a very pretty boy though, even if i do say so my self!
 
Hiya, Did not respond to this before as I can understand how bad this weekend will be just thank God he made you care enough to do the right thing.

Good luck tomorrow and remember there is nothing wrong with having a bloomin good cry over it thats what tears are for.

Love and Hugs.
 
Best wishes for tomorrow. I like to have a bottle of champagne chilled and ready in the fridge at the yard for when they have gone, it's nice to have a little toast to their lives and remember all the good times, although sad.
 
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