My coblet died suddenly

How awful for you, big hugs x Glad to hear you have some lovely supportive friends around you in your hour of need. If you feel up to it I'm sure everyone would love to see a photo of your special girl x
 
((Hugs))

What a dreadful shock for you. I lost my old lad suddenly just over 2 years ago, he was 27 but it was still a shock. I instantly said "never again" as I felt I couldn't go through that again.

I agree what others have said about allowing yourself to grieve, you will know when/if the time is right for another. I rode a little last year but my heart was not really in it, I have just taken a lovely lad on part loan and I can't believe I ever thought I could give it up.

Be kind to yourself!
 
I really feel for you. Exactly the same thing happened to me almost exactly six years ago. Absolutelt fine one minute, dead in the field the next. The only difference was she was 28, I had her for 25 years and she was still beautiful, in seemingly good health, teeth, feet, heart checked six months earlier..........

You will get over it, it took me five years to look at another horse and I cut off from all my friends in case they spoke about her. I'm so glad your friends are supporting you, keep hold of them and before long you will be looking forward to having a new friend.

Took me longer because she was my life for 25 years. I hope you heal sooner. I have lost my nerve but have a gorgeous boy who I love to bits even though I don't ride him.......yet!
 
Pinkatc said:
How awful for you, big hugs x Glad to hear you have some lovely supportive friends around you in your hour of need. If you feel up to it I'm sure everyone would love to see a photo of your special girl x
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I would love to put a photo of her on but ashamed to say I have no idea how to do it lol
 
I am so sorry for your loss - it must have been such a shock. It will get easier but in the meantime take care and give yourself time to grieve and remember the good times
 
So sorry. What a horrible shock :(

My friend had te exact same with her cob: found him dead in the field one morning totally unexpected. :(

Do what you think is best for getting a new horse: some people can't face the thought for ages, other need something to love and care for to help them come to terms with it. The feeling of betrayal ('replacing' you previous horse) is perfectly normal and not something you should feel bad about.

My mum lost her old black lab last year, after 16yrs. She was beside herself and spent a week moping around the house, crying. She said she didn't want a new dog for ages but was willing to look online at pups. Turns out she did desperately want a new dog, and once she's started investigating, she couldn't get one quick enough. Loosing the old dog still hurt but she had something else to concentrate on and look forwards to and was so pleased when the pup finally came home.
 
I am so very sorry. It has happened to me (but the pony was just alive), and I know how terrible it is - just a shock that stuns you.

The only comfort is that it sounds very quick - the signs are that coblet hadn't been down long, or in distress. It was probably instant, and there would have been nothing you could have done - hold on to that thought.

Sometimes horses are damaged internally by poor worming, ragwort ingestion at some stage in the life, or other poor care via useless past owners, or it could have been a congenital problem.

Huge (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))). sm xxx
 
Poor thing, RIP coblet :-(

Sometimes the loss of the horsey part of your life can make the loss even more intense as your whole routine is different. You will know when the time is right to have another horse in your life and I hope you start to feel less raw soon xxx
 
I am so sorry for you. The only little bit of comfort you have is that your darling Coblet didn't suffer as there appeared no signs of stress. Grieving for a much loved animal is just as heartbreaking as for a human and only those who have experienced it can understand your deep sense of loss. I can completely understand your feelings as I lost my beautiful dog very suddenely to cancer in January and I am still grieving for him. I'm so glad you have the support of your friends. Sending you lots of hugs xx
 
I hope this works as I am not really sure how to post pictures, but if it does this is a picture of her not long after I got her. I was so proud of her and loved her so much. I waited 32 years to get my own horse, it was a childhood dream and to have her snatched away from me like this is just unbearable

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I'm so so terribly sorry.

I lost my Milieu in April to a sudden fatal heart attack. I was with him and he was gone before he hit the ground - I know he didn't suffer for a second, I hope that brings you the same comfort that it brought me. He was only 12.
You are having to deal with a tremendous shock on top of the horror and grief, what you are feeling is perfectly normal and I was the same.
I got Deano in June. I was not over losing Meels and don't really expect that I ever will be but Deano has helped heal the awful pain. Please don't feel guilty if you want to own again soon it is a compliment to your coblet and the happiness she brought you.
Big hugs. Glad to hear you have plenty of support xxx
 
You poor thing, I'm so sorry. Its no wonder you're reeling. That photo is lovely, and you can see how happy you both were.

I guess you have to focus on that - she was very loved, in a happy home, and knew absolutely nothing about it when she died..

My friend had a horse of a lifetime (she is quite nervous too) and lost hers to colic. Within a month or two she had found another horse, similar to her other but different, and has gradually built up a fantastic relationship with him. You will find something else one day, you've just got to greive.

Hugs to you.xxx
 
What a beautiful cob; so sorry she has gone and such a shock for you. I've had a horse just drop dead from a heart attack when I was riding (two actually - I am quite old; it's not something that happens regularly!), and it was instantaneous the first time, nearly so the second, so please be assured that she was probably gone before she hit the ground. I work with horses, so there is always another to care for and fill the void left behind.
 
I'm so sorry, I know what you are going through, my girl died in the early hours of Sunday morning, she was fine Saturday night. She was only 12.
It's heart breaking. x
 
So sorry for your loss! I hope your memories and the lovely pic you have, can you give you some comfort at this very difficult and sad time xx :(
 
So sorry for your loss, she's gorgeous. I lost my Clydie X suddenly whilst out hacking, he was only 13. The shock and grieving was physically painful and I did stupid things to try to take the pain away, like throwing away all his tack (it was old) gave away all his gear and avoided the stables. I thought I couldn't bear to go through anything like that again and vowed not to have another. But i missed the lifestyle and eventually got sick of looking after other peoples horses and got another, which meant I had to buy everything from scratch again!! When I lost my old collie this year I got a new pup the same day I pickedup her ashes, and although she has not replaced her, she has definately distracted me from the pain. There are no right or wrongs, everyone deals with grief differently and time is a great healer. Take Care X
 
oh that is really sad and I am so sorry for you both. Give yourself some time you have had a huge shock
Dont be so hard on yourself there was nothing you could have done to have prevented this. Nature can be cruel.
The trouble is we want the one we lost especially if they have been a good'en.

I am really sorry and please just take your time, feeling like you are cracking up is normal(I was in the supermarket piggy tear stained eyed and I didnt care who I met in our town after a PTS recently, nothing else seemed to matter around me but it has got better 2 weeks on).

But I am really sorry for your loss of beautiful coblet. She will be up with all the others now and running free.I can guarantee my old boy will be looking after her. He was a cob too.RIP little cobletx.
 
So sorry for your loss, your coblet looks beautiful in your picture.

You'll know when you're ready for another one and it doesn't matter how soon it is, your coblet will be proud of you for giving another lovely horse a wonderful home. Big hugs to you xx
 
I'm really really sorry to hear this.

I lost my boy on Aug 1st 2012, but it was pre-arranged... I don't know what's worse, knowing or not knowing.

Words can't console you but they can make you feel much better and at peace with your loss. It takes time to come to terms with the shock and ordeal but you will with time. Try to remember the good times you had together and take comfort knowing it was a pain free, quick ending (sorry that sounds awful, but I'm sure it's comforting knowing there was no suffering etc).

If you need to get intouch with blue cross who have a service to help with grieving. The forum is also great help as most of us have been through your situation and understand your pain.

I miss my boy dearly, every day I think of him and would give anything to have him back but sadly we all lose those that we love :(

You'll have good days and bad days but take your time. If you feel upset and empty stay strong and cry when you need to, it's all part of grieving but it does get easier I promise.

I've never been a massive believer is heaven/ god etc but since losing him I take comfort in the thought of him being in a better place and one day we'll be reunited again.

Hugs to you and I'm so so sorry for your loss xxx
 
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