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I so so not know what to do or believe or anything
Had a call this morning from the YP b4 i was about to leave to go and give my boy his breckfast and turn him out for the day and someone had found his dead!
Hes only 14 and was doing dressage atthe wkndand was jumping last night and everyone was saying how good he was and now this morning nothing!!
How can this be!!! am not even allowed to go and see him been told it wouldnt be good for me.
I feel so lost and empty and in denile i suppose.
 
How awful for you
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It's terrible when these things happen so suddenly. Big hugs for you (((((((((((())))))))))))

Why are you not allowed to see him? Do you want to see him to say goodbye? Will the vet be coming to find out what happened?
 
I'm so sorry for you. I think that you should go and see your horse if that's what you want. He wont be as you remember him but it will give you closure. ((((((((((((((( Hugs))))))))))))))
 
hugs, hugs, hugs

have lost one suddenly in the past, so i do understand what a ghastly shock you have had.

i t sounds like you are already focused on the good times you have had together. being grateful for the happy times is probably the first step

the Blue Cross offer a pet bereavement counselling service
 
What a sad post.. poor chap. Maybe he had a heart attack and it was quick. Its never easy to loose your horse and our hearts go out to you today....
 
vet said poss heart attack but postmorton will be done and hell be cremated. they said it wouldnt be good to see him as i should remember him how he was the YO made me promiss not to go and see him.

Thank you everyone x
 
How sad
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I'm sure it was quick for him and he's in a much better place now.

If you want to go and see him you should, you know what's best for you don't listen to anyone else.

Hugs from me
 
So sorry to hear this terrible news. My thoughts are with you.

I know it is a very difficult time but I just want to say if you want to go and see him don't let others stop you. You need your time to grieve and say goodbye him. Sit with him if you want to, for as long as you want. I 'was not allowed' the chance to say goodbye to one of mine and deeply regret not going to see her.

RIP little horse xx
 
oh my god !!! so sorry for your news, I agree with just me, not that it is the same but I had a cat put down suddenly and I did not get to go and say goodbye - I am still grieving for her.

you have made me cry now ! at work too !!!

take care and HUGE (((( HUGS ))))))
 
Am so sorry of your great loss!
There was a horse at our yard who was fit and had just done a jump lesson, and when he was put out in the field, he collapse. Vet said it was a heart attack.

Time is a great healer, and although it does not seem it now, you will get through this, and have all your happy memories to reminise about!

(((( HUGS ))))
 
Oh, what a terrible shock - sincere sympathies at this sad time and a big hug X. This happened to me in 2001 and I was told not to go. I felt compelled to visit him and so I did. I laid down with him and cried until I couldn't cry anymore. I even groomed him as best I could, spent a few hours with him. For me, I remember him as he was when he was alive, but in a funny way I get comfort from remembering him lying there, free from pain and suffering, he looked like he was asleep and spending this last time we could have together, together, saying goodbye. Ask how he is lying, does he look asleep? Only you can decide if you can handle seeing him. XXX
 
huge hugs honey - thats terrible. And I second what everyone says - if you want to go and see him you should - to have a chance to say goodbye.

xxxx
 
Oh sweetie how awful for you x
No matter what other people think if you want to see your horse please do - even if he looks distressed sometimes reality is better than imagination, or even worse rumour days or weeks later.
You will cope with this but it will be a long hard road. There are people on here who will listen and support you and take your time to grieve.
(((HUGS))) x
 
You have my heartfelt sympathies. It's a terrible shock on top of the grief and loss. I'm so sorry.
A thought on the going to see him bit... absolutely agree only you know whether this will help you or otherwise, but...
I found my new horse (arrived the night before) dead in her stable at 7am the next morning. Even though I hadn't had time for the emotional bonds, the shock of just finding her there was almost overwhelming. This is what your yard person will have felt, and it will affect how they feel about you seeing him. For you the experience wouldn't be the same, you would be going prepared, and ready to grieve.
 
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