my horse has died

I'm so sorry that it had to end this way, but you know he had a wonderful life and was loved by you for 8 years, he couldn't have hoped for a better life I am sure and although the pain will be there for a long time, time will help. ((()))
 
yep hell be causing all kind of trouble in the medows above lol. Galloping around eating everything in sight.
It was so sudden last night after we rode he had a bath then was rugged up and spend 5 mins running behind me trying to steel the carrot out of my pocket, bless him I always thought he was a peter pan horse wholl live forever
As long as he was happy and died peacefuly ill be happy but obviosuly not happy but you know what I mean,
He was a my best friend (no matter how sad that sounds) but he listened to everything and never interupted lol was caring and conciderate and one time I feel off in flat out gallop and knocked my selff out he stopped in his tracks and tried to pick me up. He was , sorry is everythng
 
oh hunny, how terrible for you, huge hugs to you. Good luck with your goodbyes- I'm very pleased you decided to go and that you have a mumsy friend with a connection to go with you. I agree with you on not watching him loaded I have had friends insist on watching and found it way too much, keep your last image of him as a peaceful goodbye moment. (((((HUGS))))) again. x
 
Sadly I can say I know what you are going through, except I found my girl. I think you should go and say goodbye, I sat with Nelly for quite a while. Also take some of his tail, you can have a piece of jewelery made from it - a lasting reminder of your time together.

Big hug you sound like you are being very brave.
 
oh hun im so sorry to hear of your loss.

my mare died suddenly from a heart attack, died in my arms while i was stroking her but she was oldish and had copd.

if you ever need to talk you have lots of friends on here.
((((((((((hugs))))))))))
 
ldlp111 - when they have heart attacks is it really horrible for them, i mean are they in pain? if its to much to talk about it s ok x
 
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I think we can all relate to that feeling, it will get easier, just go through the motions for the minute and dont worry if you feel like your loosing it a bit- its natural and no one would expect you to bounce back tommorrow like nothings happened, take your time to grieve for your beautiful boy.
 
I am so sorry - I cant imagine what it must be like to loose your horse so unexpectedly.
I think you should do what feels right for you, and if you want to see your horse, then do.

My thoughts are with you.xx
 
well she came running down for her tea, then she started staggering around so mum came and got me from house 2min from field when i got out there she had collapsed didnt seem in pain and i just sat stroking her, obv called vet but she passed away in a few minutes.
 
Very sorry to hear that, I've just lost a healthy (human) relative at a shockingly young age and it will leave you feeling shaken for a while.

Do insist on seeing if you want to. It won't be nice but it can help with accepting that it has really happened. I don't regret not seeing relatives that died when I was really young but with my last two grandparents to go it was part of saying goodbye and helped. I didn't get the 'seeing' them in places they weren't thing later. Might just be age and learning to deal with grief differently but I think seeing them was helpful too. Even saw pets post-post-mortems (vets will stitch them up again so it doesn't look too awful if they know you're going to look).

You can do a really nice scattering of the ashes/get a nice box. I once copied something I'd seen before and got petals (from flowers that meant something to the individual involved) to scatter too. Ceremonies, of whatever type you feel appropriate, are an important part of getting over this.

And, as others have said, he won't have been ill for long at all.

RIP
 
the YO and staff are all adimient that I shouldnt go up and see him so Im now worried that hes going to be in a state? or they dont think I can handle it but I think they all see me as the 13yr old from when I first moved there am now 22. going to find out how bad from the person whofound him then base my decision on that
 
well vet actually said she died of burst blood vessel which i assume is same as heart attack.

as i said so sorry to hear of your loss if you ever want to talk lots of people to pm on here.

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
 
Im sure your probably right, they still see you as a little girl and are trying to protect you- i actually checked ur d-o-b before replying initially to this thread. Do what you feel is right but I still think you should get the chance to say goodbye, I'm not actually sure there is any state mine could be in that would mean I didnt want to say goodbye. I'm sure your mind is now racing and you are imagining all sorts and they are probably worse than the actual sight itself.
 
What a dreadful shock. Often when they go that quickly it's a heart attack, we had one three months ago charging round with the rest then he just stopped, laid down and died. I think you should go and see him, it's nothing horrible, my sincere sympathy for your loss.
 
((massive hugs)) to you, i am so sorry for your loss. Please go and see him if you want to, he was your horse and i think it'd be good for you to say goodbye! I am sitting here feeling shocked so i cannot imagine how you must be feeling.

Everyone on HH0 is here if you need to talk etc. xxx
 
I am so sorry to hear of your loss
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I agree with the others that say 'if you want to see your boy then you should'. I think it will give you closure and the very important chance to say your goodbyes

(((hugs)))
 
Firstly may I say how sorry I am, it is bad enough having to say goodbye to a loved friend, but having it happen with no warning is worst of all.

When Cairo died, (he was pts by injection) whilst waiting for the people to come to take him away for cremation, my OH sat with his back against his back and said he could feel the warm fading and with it the realisation that he had gone. For him he found this very comforting that he could sit quietly and realise that he was gone and he could have a last few minutes alone with him and cry his eyes out.

I can understand your YO wanting to protect you, but if you feel you need the closure, then do so, but as Shils has said, do prepare yourself that there may be some signs that he did kick a bit. If you feel you can't face seeing that, then don't go.

If you don't go, ask others to take some hair - we have a keyring that my OH carries everywhere with him and extra hair that he occasionally likes to look at and hold - it helps him with his grief.

Sending you a huge hug and hope you can remember the good times you had with him and the pain does lessen with time.
 
I am so very sorry, it must be a terrible shock on top of all the grief and emotion.

With regards seeing him, you must do what you think is right.

{{{hugs}}}
 
Oh my I am so sorry to hear of your loss ((hugs))

If you feel you want to go see him to say your goodbyes then please do, when my old horse died at the vets I had left the morning before and didn't have any time for proper goodbyes,
It would be better if you had someone else to go with you for moral support and of course those all important hugs.
 
What an awful shock, my sympathies go out to you.

I can't help feeling though, that the YO being adament that you shouldn't see him would be ringing alarm bells with me...not that you shouldn't see him, but what are they trying to hide?

You should see him if you want to. It will make it all real.
 
I just got back from seeing him and hes laying there with his legs rested against the wall looking so peacefull. Yet I didnt go i and stroak him as he looked cold and stiff and didnt want to remember that. I spoke to him for while and even tried to wake him up lol but strangley enough I feel better for seeing him even though it still hurts I can believe it now and beacuse everyone told me I shouldnt go up I had a god awfull image in my head but its not as bad as I thought
 
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I just got back from seeing him and hes laying there with his legs rested against the wall looking so peacefull. Yet I didnt go i and stroak him as he looked cold and stiff and didnt want to remember that. I spoke to him for while and even tried to wake him up lol but strangley enough I feel better for seeing him even though it still hurts I can believe it now and beacuse everyone told me I shouldnt go up I had a god awfull image in my head but its not as bad as I thought

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More hugs to you hunny. No words. Just hugs.
 
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