My horse knocked my mum down - wwyd?

[wyrdsister]

Sounds like a good trick to try, I'd give it a shot if it were just me and Loki but tbh (arg going to sound really horrible here!) I wouldn't trust her to "train" him properly or give it a go when I wasn't there It would have to be done right with correct timing etc

I feel like a right horrible person sometimes because I just feel like every time we are at the horses together I'm having to tell her not to do something dangerous etc and it's not like she's stupid or incapable or anything she just doesn't think about stuff

Hi, no I wasn't suggesting that you get her to train him! If you train him well yourself, he ought to do it for anyone/everyone. Mine will go 'away' now for anyone and not even expect a reward for it, other than 'yes, good girl' and she's stopped hassling for treats. But, of course, I understand if you don't want to risk it! I hope you sort something out

 

[zaminda]

If it was my mother I'd ask her if her life insurance was up to date. When she asked why, I'd point out as she continues to treat my horse, even though it has now caused an accident, I want to make sure I won't be left paying for her funeral. I should say however, my mother and I don't exactly see eye to eye!!

 

[Kallibear]

She is a fully grown adult with no learning difficulties (i assume). She may be your mother but she's being bloody stupid. Tell her to stop it! And if the accident she's already had isn't enough, explain in graphic detail when could happen. She is not a child who needs coddled and minded. If she's stupid enough to continue doing something so dangerous, despite warnings, then it's her own stupid fault if she gets hurt again!

 

[Clodagh]

What KB says.
I never treat. Horses do not love you for treating them - they despise you. Lead horse never hands food over to a lower ranked animal, the top dog gets what he wants and if there is anything left then the lower ranked can have some. Why anyone would want a half tonne animal mugging you and even worse think it is a sign of affection is beyond me.

 

[Fellewell]

Your mother sounds as though she's becoming a risk to herself and others. Have you considered residential care?

Failing that give her a bowl for the treats. No bowl, no treats, horses soon get the message.

 

[Magicmillbrook]

How annoying. I agree with the life insurance comment, or how about pointing out if it isn't her that gets injured it could be one of the horses, a kick at close quarters could break a leg.

Its taken me 6 months to get my young cob to stop mugging me. He had been taught it was acceptable to raid pockets etc (by his previous owner I hasten to add). It may have been cute when he was a foal but not as a 4 year old tank cob. We are now at the stage that when he has finished his ridden work or in hand exercises we sometime practice standing square and 'staying'. I will occasionally pull him a handful of grass to eat whilst he is standing, that takes some will power for a poor starving cob. But never ever ever does he get treated in the field with the others

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

I feel you! My mare is absoloutly lovely on the ground apart from when you tack her up and she headbutts but that’s another story (working on it) if someone feeds her she gets nippy and she’s not like that at all she’s a gentle bugger really the only time she gets treated is when bringing in for summer when she can be hard to catch this is the ONLY time she gets treated other than the odd fruit and veg in her feed but after moving on from my sweet old man whi was treated regularly my mum had got in the Habbit of feeding him treats and proceeded to do the same with her which wasn’t ideal I just had to tell her just to stop I said she’s began nipping both of us and it’s not right I gave her a talk about why she shouldn’t do that but obvs I’m the daughter so she wasnt really taking me serious but she’s stopped now mainly only occasionally giving the odd tidbit

 

[LittleRolo]

Nothing you can do, it was her fault and it will happen again. She will get hurt in that situation and it will be her fault. Daft woman. I knows she's your mum but I would be banning her from the field or any where your horse is. Then when she gets into bother again, which she will. Your horse will not be involved.

 

[Equi]

Mega zombie thread alert.

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

Mega zombie thread alert.

Fair fair but it’s really helpful finding old threads sometimes

 

[[153312]]

I feel you! My mare is absoloutly lovely on the ground apart from when you tack her up and she headbutts but that’s another story (working on it) if someone feeds her she gets nippy and she’s not like that at all she’s a gentle bugger really the only time she gets treated is when bringing in for summer when she can be hard to catch this is the ONLY time she gets treated other than the odd fruit and veg in her feed but after moving on from my sweet old man whi was treated regularly my mum had got in the Habbit of feeding him treats and proceeded to do the same with her which wasn’t ideal I just had to tell her just to stop I said she’s began nipping both of us and it’s not right I gave her a talk about why she shouldn’t do that but obvs I’m the daughter so she wasnt really taking me serious but she’s stopped now mainly only occasionally giving the odd tidbit

Why do you keep reviving really old threads.....

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

Why do you keep reviving really old threads.....

I look for specific things and most of the time there like 11 years old or older and yk where do u keep popping up from ? besides I’ve got owt better to do with my time

 

[[153312]]

Can understand reading the old threads, cannot understand posting or attempting to give advice on them unless accidentally. ?
Ho-hum

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

Can understand reading the old threads, cannot understand posting or attempting to give advice on them unless accidentally. ?
Ho-hum

The way I look at it is think of how many people are seeing tbis and not saying anything or don’t have accounts it’s just another persons point of view and it’s not affecting you in any way x

 

[laura_nash]

I look for specific things and most of the time there like 11 years old or older and yk where do u keep popping up from ? besides I’ve got owt better to do with my time

If you've got lots of spare time, maybe you could look into punctuation? There is a reason for it and it's not that hard to learn how to use it. I find your posts very hard work to read.

 

[laura_nash]

The way I look at it is think of how many people are seeing tbis and not saying anything or don’t have accounts it’s just another persons point of view and it’s not affecting you in any way x

It does affect people as they don't notice how old the original OP is, spend time thinking about the issue and composing a reply they hope will be helpful to the OP, only to realise they have totally wasted their time.

This is why it's considered somewhat rude, and bad forum etiquette, to post on an old thread unless in certain circumstances (e.g. the original OP posting an update on the issue). If you want to discuss your thoughts on the same issue then it is better to start a new thread, with a link to the old thread in the text.

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

It does affect people as they don't notice how old the original OP is, spend time thinking about the issue and composing a reply they hope will be helpful to the OP, only to realise they have totally wasted their time.

This is why it's considered somewhat rude, and bad forum etiquette, to post on an old thread unless in certain circumstances (e.g. the original OP posting an update on the issue). If you want to discuss your thoughts on the same issue then it is better to start a new thread, with a link to the old thread in the text.

I completely see what your getting at but Im almost certain it will have helped someone else if others start commenting on it because so many others are in a similar situation therefor they did not waste there time

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

If you've got lots of spare time, maybe you could look into punctuation? There is a reason for it and it's not that hard to learn how to use it. I find your posts very hard work to read.

I do try my best to rember to speak in best English on here but sometimes I forget

 

[laura_nash]

I do try my best to rember to speak in best English on here but sometimes I forget

No worries, no one's going to be judging your grammar or correcting spelling mistakes. It's just that an absence of any full stops or paragraphs makes it a bit like a word puzzle; one where you have to find the sentences first before you can read the post. Plus it makes me feel like I've run out of air and I need a deep breath after reading it, even though I'm not reading aloud (that might just be me though).

 

[LittleRolo]

because so many others are in a similar situation

I really hope not. If that's the case then too many numptie's have horses!

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

I really hope not. If that's the case then too many numptie's have horses!

Unfortunately that’s very true they do

 

[LittleRolo]

Unfortunately that’s very true they do

Not on my yard or any yard I've been on.

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

Not on my yard or any yard I've been on.

To be fair my yard is brilliant with a lot of amazing people on it but some things I’ve seen on social media is not very good but personal experiences everyone I’ve met has been somewhat experienced

 

[The Fuzzy Furry]

If you've got lots of spare time, maybe you could look into punctuation? There is a reason for it and it's not that hard to learn how to use it. I find your posts very hard work to read.

The poster you are asking is a minor, quite young as I recall.
But, I completely agree with you on the bouncing of very old threads and also the use of punctuation lol.

 

[That_midgit_equestrian]

The poster you are asking is a minor, quite young as I recall.
But, I completely agree with you on the bouncing of very old threads and also the use of punctuation lol.

Ye if it offends people so much ill stop doing it and yes I am a minor but I’m a teenager for privacy reasons not saying exactly but I am a teen

 

[honetpot]

She is a fully grown adult with no learning difficulties (i assume). She may be your mother but she's being bloody stupid. Tell her to stop it! And if the accident she's already had isn't enough, explain in graphic detail when could happen. She is not a child who needs coddled and minded. If she's stupid enough to continue doing something so dangerous, despite warnings, then it's her own stupid fault if she gets hurt again!

I am afraid this is my attitude. I very rarely commented on my mother's life choices, and the only time I did, I went crazy because she put herself and my child in danger. If she wants to be potentially brain dead, it's a good short cut, and I would put it as bluntly as that. I know of at least three experienced horse people that were rendered effectively dead, or found dead after being kicked.

 

[[153312]]

Ye if it offends people so much ill stop doing it and yes I am a minor but I’m a teenager for privacy reasons not saying exactly but I am a teen

You're 14/15 no?

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

You are going to have to be very very firm with mum and not let her feed treats to your horse. End of. Period.

Imagine how you'd feed if something awful HAD happened - and it is only lucky that it didn't. Next time she might not be so lucky.

Also you have to bear in mind that your horse may not be an absolute pest to YOU - and anyone else you have near him, because of this feeding malarky. That sort of bargy behaviour - unless nipped in the bud now - could very easily escalate and before you know it your horse has done this to someone else (you even) - with disastrous consequences. You then have a serious situation to contend with, possibly involving injury - and your poor horse is then labelled "dangerous" for all time. It happens, sadly.

Please take this seriously! You may have to seriously fall out with mum because of it! - and you are going to have the run the risk that you do, yes. But you cannot have this situation continue. Everyone has been lucky to avoid injury so far, but you now have to call the shots and cut it dead. End of.

Personally I would not let her go near your horse again, period. Yes I'm hearing what people on here are saying when they say well let her get injured basically, her fault. Yes it would be; but for her stupidity an innocent horse could easily get a bullet put in its head because it is labelled "dangerous".

 

[milliepops]

You are going to have to be very very firm with mum and not let her feed treats to your horse. End of. Period.

Imagine how you'd feed if something awful HAD happened - and it is only lucky that it didn't. Next time she might not be so lucky.

Also you have to bear in mind that your horse may not be an absolute pest to YOU - and anyone else you have near him, because of this feeding malarky. That sort of bargy behaviour - unless nipped in the bud now - could very easily escalate and before you know it your horse has done this to someone else (you even) - with disastrous consequences. You then have a serious situation to contend with, possibly involving injury - and your poor horse is then labelled "dangerous" for all time. It happens, sadly.

Please take this seriously! You may have to seriously fall out with mum because of it! - and you are going to have the run the risk that you do, yes. But you cannot have this situation continue. Everyone has been lucky to avoid injury so far, but you now have to call the shots and cut it dead. End of.

Personally I would not let her go near your horse again, period. Yes I'm hearing what people on here are saying when they say well let her get injured basically, her fault. Yes it would be; but for her stupidity an innocent horse could easily get a bullet put in its head because it is labelled "dangerous".

OP started this thread 8 years ago, it's a zombie.

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

OP started this thread 8 years ago, it's a zombie.

^^^^ What.............. ???

FFS some people.

Ah yep I see the date is 2013 now I've looked.