Happy birthday ? Ted. Are you getting a cake?
Happy birthday Ted!
He needs a pillow outside the door.
Aww, happy birthday Ted.
AA, I think you are very brave leaving him in a stable without a reinforced door - I'm sure he could remove that with one flick of his nose!
To me, your pride and love for your horses shines through in nicknames you have given them. They have all landed on their hooves with you.
As I have just bought a pretty much feral 3 year old, I am off back to the beginning of the thread.........
All you need is a sense of humour - warped
Patience - in spades
No fear - says she, who freely admits being scared SH1tless by Ted on many occasions
Money - tree preferably
Be prepared to be disappointed, frustrated and angry but never admit it the horse.
Bribery with food is not a totally bad idea depending on the temperament. But do give great thought to how you might use food in your training, it can backfire on you. Ted was incredibly nervous and shy so treats never worked with him as he could not let himself touch my hand. I used food to teach that his stable was a good safe place with nice things in it but always in a bucket/feeder. Thinking back, the only hand fed rewards used was loading and being trained to wait on the lorry and we did have a mounting issue well after the backing process, when he decided to swing away from the block. Because he is not a horse that could never be crushed or trapped between the block and a wall we used the 'stand still, have a pony nut route' to train him to be safely mounted. This has lasted throughout his life and now he will stand anywhere to let a rider scramble up a gate or fence to get on him (he is huge) and his rider always has a mint or nut in their pocket to reward him. He will even stand in a ditch if needs be.
On a more helpful note, a few things I learnt might help you. If your lad wants to leave your presence, let him. Don't ever think you can handle a truly frightened horse by force, no matter how big or small. The need to run will leave him over time. Sadly Ted has never completely lost the run reaction and we are always aware of this and adapt if needed.
Don't try to achieve something new with him unless you have endless time, never finish on a bad note. Accept something as simple as the horse wanting to come to you and being curious is a very big forwards step that you can then build on.
Keep revisiting things that the horse finds easy and comfortable, that builds trust and helps moving onto to new things.
Good luck.
Ok, you win.
Today has been a trying day for the twit. He is finally slim enough to be winched into a fly sheet and can even get his head down to graze (just) without going blue in the face. On the way from his paddock to his stable this morning a horse fly got inside the neck of the rug and sunk its fangs into the delicate little soul. He went ballistic and knocked his handler over, who of course hung on like grim death because Ted with a loose rope is extremely dangerous. The run button is always just bubbling away under the surface, it has never truly left him even though it is possible to reason with him as he has got older.
So after dragging the poor girl for a few yards he recomposed himself but wouldn't allow her to get the rug off or detach the neck and he is swinging his head like an irate giraffe trying to swat the fly himself. There is not a lot of sideways movement in his neck as he is built like a bull. I am out on exercise whilst all this is happening and arriving back i find my friend plus my husband looking dishevelled and very hot, the horse is soaked in sweat and trying to rub his neck raw on the stable door, another friend is trying to apply aloe vera which Ted, of course, considers to be highly suspicious and is having none of it !
Ted will be staying with me until one of us dies, if it is me first I have made sure he is is willed to my dearest friend who I know would either find the right home for him or do what is best to protect him.
It is a frustrating year with no competitions for him, he is going beautifully now and would easily go novice BD, Alice was due for her County career too. But we must all be grateful we are well and can look forward to next season. Many people have suffered badly in these awful times we are living through.