new here lookin forward to meeing you all! bit of a situation all advice welcomed!

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hi all hope everyone is having a slightly driyer morning! god that weather was awful yesterday and last night!

i am totally new on here have always been a reader but never posted anything so be gentel lol!

bascily i have had my boy up for share now a while and have a few people come and meet him, ride, had a chat but i just havnt felt a good connection with anyone unitl now......

a really lovly girl came the other day, she was so sweet and eager and my boy seemed to really like her. she is the perfect candidate she lives close, drives, seems to understand the whole process of a share and is nice ad confident with him on the ground.

the only probleme is im not sure she has the right level of abilty for him.
when she rode she was a little nervous, this i dont blame her for as i am also a cautios rider and get a little nervous riding a new horse, she did find it quite hard to get him going, he can be lazy but this is more to do with the rider than him.

she has been having weekly riding lessons at a local school and i sopose to follow on from the rs thread earlier she just doesnt seem to be where she should be concidering the time and money she is spending....

now i have two options but im not sure which one ....

option 1. to say i am very sorry but i dont think it will work out for x reasons and hope she doesnt get to upset.

option 2. i am moving to a new yard at the end of sept with amasing facillities as right now i just have fields so no where to really ride especially if the weather keeps this up!
so i was thinking to tell her to continuue having lessons and explain to her yard what she wants to do and hope they step her teaching up a notch!
and let her come up all the time with me and get used to him and help me out then when we move she can be invloved in the move and then start the share with me under supervision! having lessons on him and learing his routine!

i would love to do this option as i remember what is was like at the rs's i seemed to learn nothing not until i shared and thats when i really learnt the up and down of having a horse

so what does everyone think? dont hold back any advice/constrctive critisism welsome.

sorry for this being so long and well done if you have got throught it i rally apprecite it!

xxxx
 
It depends what you want the share for - if it's for a bit of extra cash and to take the strain off you, and she's only going to be hacking him out, then I wouldn't have thought that her riding ability would be of too much concern.

If the only thing "bad" about her riding was that she was a bit nervous and had a hard time getting him going then, to me, that doesn't sound like a deal breaker, so I'd just go with her.

If she's nice, willing, drives etc then she sounds good. Could you not have a couple of days a week where she comes and helps you for the first month or so to check she's as you want her to be and then leave her to get on with it the rest of the time?

Welcome to the forum btw :)
 
im very fussy who goes on my horse but if this girl seems right let her come down and ride him a few more times before u decide. I know how nervous people get riding infront of strangers especially when the strangers the owner. I work at a rs & when i went 4my 1st job i had 2ride infront of the owner & i couldnt even canter lol i was a wreck & she still gave me a shot,needless to say i relaxed once i got 2know her & could obviously canter on any of the horses thrown my way which she saw on my 2nd ride with her blasting throu the woods:D
give her time & im guessing she'l soon come on and may b an asset to u.x
 
Option #2 sounds like where your heart is - do it!

She will probably learn loads from you both... Plus riding in front of someone for the first time / on a new horse can be nervewracking.
 
When I went to try my horse - with years of riding experience and having backed horses etc etc - I could not even get my lad to canter...I ended up making a right fool of myself and resorting to un-gainly flapping of the legs...whilst the owner came into the school to give me some 'advice' on how to get him going....hilarious...OH was wetting himself laughing! Nerves are terrible...I would give her a try for a bit with the aim of her improving her riding and making sure she can ride your horse effectively after a period of time.
 
It sounds like she could be good for you-and she will only improve! You said she found it hard to get him going-when I first tried my loan i did too-the owner said to me "dont be afriad to give him a good kick and a tap to let him know you mean business" and off we went lol.

its quite hard as a sharer when you first try a horse especially comming straight from a riding school.
1.you're a bit nervous
2.Its probably a completly different horse to what you're used to-it does take a little while to get used to a new horse.
3.Its nice to have the owner say to you give them a good kick and tap(when they need it) just so you dont feel like you're doing something they wouldnt do -if that makes any sense?
if you did take her on I think you'd see her improve very quickly

if i think back to the first time i tried my loan a few months ago compared to now-i think we've improved alot :D

maybe have a trial period just to see how she gets along? good luck
 
I'd go for option two with trial period - the universe gives back, so your kindness and giving her a break will come and find you at some point - but just keep your options open in case it doesn't work.
 
Option 2! :D
I am always a tad nervous getting on a horse I don't know. I think it sounds like once she gets used to the horse, her riding will improve, and with a little help from you, if you can give it. I think if you like her, it can be a work in progress, if you have some time.
 
hi all nice to meet you!

yes i think you are all right she seems like such a nice girl and i think she will really put his needs first.

as for the riding issue it was a bit more than nerves sort of a bit well hmmm i dont how to put it i sopose a bit slumped not a great position with her hands/posture but i think all can be fixed.

it might be nice tht she hasnt picked up any terrible habits and maybe its a lovly new bond waiting to happen :)

thank you all
xx
 
I think option two.

Why don't you say something like ' If you're still interested in Sharing XXX after trying him, I think the best way forward is for you to pop down at the weekends or whenever you have time for the next month and get to know him better, have a few more rides and make sure we are all happy with the arrangement, after all it is a bit of an unknown territory for all of us! How does that sound?'

try and keep it light hearted. I would avoid mentioning the RS as she may / may not want to continue with it and that is up to her. If she's been there X years and hasn't go to grips with it, she won't achieve any more by staying there a few weeks longer but she could come on leaps and bounds by riding your boy. Give her a chance ;o)
 
I'm sure alot of her nerves were because you were watching! I don't expect to get on a strange horse and have it going perfectly simply because I don't know what aids that horse is used to and it takes time to find out and make a bit of a partnership with the horse. For example, my mare was always incredibly light to the leg (ie. didn't need any!) so I found riding more ploddy horses really hard going and didn't have the muscles in my legs to do it anyway. She was also very hard to stop if you got hold of the reins so I trained her to stop on command - but how many people getting on her would have know they just had to say "walk"? I think you should offer this girl a period of trial with your horse, monitor their progress and then sit down in say 2 months time and decide what you both want to do.
 
Lovely, enthusiastic, reliable sharers aren't easy to find. If you like her then I'd go for a trial month and see how she gets on.

Here's another thought - you could suggest that she shares your horse on the condition that she has weekly lessons on him with an instructor you approve of - at least to start with.

Welcome to the forum :)
 
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