Bernster
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Ooh floofball he’s gorgeous. And scrubs up well!
View attachment 79926Well we are officially on a diet. She was scored an 8 ? and at 14.1 weighed more than the other connie who is at least 15hh. But she’s out 24/7 on good grass and not being ridden. Until now…
Had a fab lesson stripping right back to basics. Forward and straight. I somehow managed 50 mins of trot. Have also joined the yard quest team!
Annagain I’m sorry your feeling like this. It must be so hard. What age is Charlie now? You’ve said you’ve had him a year? so you’ve given yourself plenty of time to get to know him. It could be that as he ages he becomes the horse your looking for. So hard when you just want your old horse back but you may get there with Charlie yet.
Mentioning 3 weeks made me think. Just checked my diary and I think both fun rides might have coincided with peri-menopausal pmt. Sorry all, as you were.
I just wonder if you could find a way to "separate you from the horse" - which may sound mad but might clarify the issues. Would it be possible to do a fun ride/fast hack on another horse which is not so forward going but would show you how you felt these days about meeting the sorts of things which made you feel uncomfortable on Charlie? In other words, is it the way Charlie behaves or is it just your reaction to it? I think they are two different things.He’s 7. 90% of the time he’s great but we’ve had 2 bad (well less than ideal) fun rides in 3 weeks so I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself. I’ll get over it. This was the first time I felt out of control on him and I’m a bit of a control freak when it comes to speed. I was the same with skiing!
He’s 7. 90% of the time he’s great but we’ve had 2 bad (well less than ideal) fun rides in 3 weeks so I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself. I’ll get over it. This was the first time I felt out of control on him and I’m a bit of a control freak when it comes to speed. I was the same with skiing!
I just wonder if you could find a way to "separate you from the horse" - which may sound mad but might clarify the issues. Would it be possible to do a fun ride/fast hack on another horse which is not so forward going but would show you how you felt these days about meeting the sorts of things which made you feel uncomfortable on Charlie? In other words, is it the way Charlie behaves or is it just your reaction to it? I think they are two different things.
If you feel after that that Charlie is too much for you then you have your answer. If you just need to re-group and have some better experiences with a good instructor to re-gain your confidence then you can start to re-build from there.
Annagain, it seems simple to me, just leave out the fun rides and stick with the things that both of you enjoy . Personally I don't think there is any fun in "fun rides"! Just go out quietly with your friends and build up some confidence in your horse in situations that don't bring back bad memories. In other words: set your self up for success!!
On the galloping thing, firstly I’m not keen on downhill and much prefer uphill with something at the end to stop us. But hunting was brilliant for me in that I’m always trying to hold the horse and control the pace whereas when I just let finnegan go, it’s awesome. He’s sure footed, straight, and comes to a stop when needed. I just needed to get used to not holding him the whole time and enjoy it. Fun rides are much more fun now when I give him a bit of free rein.
I just wanted to check in with a little update on Baby Ace, having read that others have had wobbles it has made me feel better about mine! I'm going to admit that I didn't want to canter him because he was bucking when we did. He didn't seem to enjoy the school and found it blooming hard so I have done an incredible stint of over 3 months and only been in the arena twice. And I only went in the arena those 2 times because I'd entered a dressage test to "get him out and about" and I wasn't sure if we could do a 20m circle in trot, let alone two half 10m circles before i entered. He was brilliant at dressage and just took it all in his stride but I probably rode for 20 minutes tops and he just thought we were having a little trundle round 2 different arenas.
After our break this morning I took him back in the school. It was only supposed to be a warm up before I took him for a quiet walk on the XC field (where we first discovered his bucking because of the tractor of terror). He was in a lovely mood. The best rider (but least judgemental rider) on the yard was schooling in the other arena and her owner was watching her so I felt if I came off they'd be able to help. I put my leg on and asked for a canter. Just a long side. It is still a bit wobbly. But I couldn't care less! He cantered on both reins; he didn't buck to get his balance sorted, he didn't try and slam the handbrake on, he tried to stay on a straight line. I feel giving him the break to get used to his body and me has worked well for us.
And now I feel ready to face winter with a smile on my face. I can only hack on a weekend so we will have no choice but to use the school and now I feel we can do a bit without boring the pants off both of us or it becoming a trauma to either of us.
With the last shire I was already going out to affiliated prelim dressage after 5 months so I am nowhere near doing that with this baby. But I have bought him with a view to forever so I am in no rush!View attachment 80646
Picture from the dressage because I never need an excuse to post a clydesdale picture on here!