Non horsey husbands...bless!

Awh you guys are making me jealous! My OH is not horsey at all, refuses to come with me to the yard, would never EVER dream about poo picking or mucking out :( :( :( he won't even buy me anything for Tom as a present for birthdays/xmas etc.

Saying that, he does say he would like to be able to ride, but he doesn't want to have to learn. He just wants to get straight on and jump a course lol. He did have a sit on my old loan horse, who was a huge, bombproof shire mare. But that's as far as it will ever go. He won't even come to watch me compete :(

You lucky lot, how do I convert him!?
 
personally i think no pressure is the best way to go, my boy friends ex was also horsey and apparently would shout at him and get mad if he didn't go the the yard with her every day and muck out or poo pick while she rode! but luckily it put him off her, but not the idea of horses as he wasn't worried that i have 2- which he knew from before the first date! (as personally i think they are like children, people should know you have them!)
he only really comes to the yard about once a fortnight, if not less. especially as he is setting up his own business at the moment so working a lot. but personally i am happy for him not to be up at the farm, as i just feel like rushing, so he doesn't get bored, but actually he doesn't care.
but most importantly, although he isn't very involved, but he doesn't complain about the time i spend with them. been together 1.5 years now and never grumbled. it took major hints to get him to drive me to a few sponsored rides before i got my licence, but when he got his van he fitted a tow bar for me.
a few weeks ago i had a bad sick bug, on a day i was also meant to do 2 other horses on another yard. he delayed work until 10am, so he could go with me to muck out other ladies horses and then mine. i did managed somehow to turn out the horses while he did the yard, as i was worried they would play him up!
my bf has said he will never ride as they have no brakes!
 
I would like to know the answer to that question as well! My other half isn't at all horsey and although he will occasionally watch me compete or ride he does find it all rather boring! I think it would be better for our relationship if he at least felt like he was as important as the horse ;)!!
 
My OH is not a fan of horses, once, while begrudgingly helping me to poo pick in the pouring rain he turned to me and said, "this is the worst hobby in the world. You're paying to clear up s£&t!"

Anyway, he is a nice man and on occasion will come and help at the yard. One of my horses is pretty tricky and unless you're firm and confident she will take the micky BIG time. My two big girls had just finished eating and my OT had taken my two littles back down to the field. Usually, when he helps, he'll lead my much sweeter, kinder mare and I take Miss Stroppy-pants. I had hold of kind mare and Miss Stroppy-pants was tied up by the stables. OH came up and grabbed Miss S-P which confused me as he usually gives her a wide berth. I asked him if he wanted to swap and he said no, quite adamantly. I asked if he was sure and he said he definitely was so off we set for the field. I could hear him behind me saying, "will you calm down" etc and when I turned to look back he was turning Miss S-P in tight circles and handling her well. I was very impressed. When we got to the field and managed to turn them out, OH turns to me and says, Kind Mare was being a bit of a handful today, wasn't she? It was only then I realise he's mixed the two big girls up and thought he was leading Kind Mare not Miss Stroppy-pants! My two look nothing alike, are different breeds and different heights. He went very pale when I told him he'd been leading Miss S-P...
 
My OH wasn't remotely interested in horses befor we met. Once he met my old mare he loved her... treated her more like a dog than a horse though.

He could bring her in, put her out, pick her feet and do her feeds!! He despooked her for me too. The yard was owned by a builder and I found them both with their head in a cement mixer one day!! She'd even walked past when it was spinning round after that.

She was a bit of a rearer when being led and she tried it with him, a good yank on the leadrope and her feet hit the floor and she never tried it again.

I honestly felt a bit rubbish sometimes because she definitely loved him more than me lol and I think she saw me as work and him as fun. He was watching me school one day and sitting on the fence, I was cantering past and she done an emergency stop as we got alongside him so she could rest her head against his shoulder.

We were both gutted when we had to sell her, that was nearly 15 years ago and he still talks about her all the time.

It's easier when the other person can show an interest because it sometimes hard for people to understand just how much time it takes to own horses.
 
pippixox said:
well that's just stupid of him as horses provide easy presents to buy and make us happy!
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Exactly!! But he sees it as not really a present for me, I can sort of see where he's coming from but if I've asked for it, it will be very greatfully received! Silly boy.

As for no pressure, I don't apply any. I sometimes ask if he wants to come with me when I'm going up for evening stables, but I get that 'are you kidding me!?' look lol. I think I will have to give up for now as it's cold, wet and muddy all the time. Will try again in the warmer months :)
 
Mine is not horsey at all, has only seen me ride once in 3 years, but still drove me to the yard every week for my lesson while I was learning to drive which was really kind as he had to sit in the car in the dark for an hour.

Now I can drive and have a share horse - he won't come to the yard with me as it's too cold, he isn't interested in helping to do any jobs to warm up though! But he has been a couple of times and does have a soft spot for my share horse now. He'll stroke him if there's a stable door between and blows him a kiss when we leave!

I'm hoping to work up to training him to muck out...
 
Tally-lah said:
My OH is not a fan of horses, once, while begrudgingly helping me to poo pick in the pouring rain he turned to me and said, "this is the worst hobby in the world. You're paying to clear up s£&t!"
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Mine can't get his head around the concept of sharing/part loaning which is what I do. He finds it insane that I pay £20 a week to shovel poo and stuff haynets two days a week without even riding sometimes... He thinks my labour should be the price I pay to share - I have tried to explain but it falls on deaf ears!
 
My none horsey husband has gone from not even being able to lead a horse to now being able to help me with covering even the awkward mares. When I was pregnant he sort of got thrown in at the deep end and had to halter the wild foals and pretty much do everything, he's really soft too so I think it was a bit of a shock to him at first especially handling the stallion on his naughty days lol but he does great. I went Xmas shopping the other week and he'd managed to look after both our children (12 month old and 5 year old) muck two out, do all the feeds, bring them in (inc stallion) and change rugs bless him.

He's great at foaling now and helps with the foal watch when he can even though he starts work at 5.30am and doesn't finish until 6.30pm but works over until 11am most nights (building my new horse box for me). When the foals are born he's always on hand and reckons he doesn't get excited but you can see he clearly does and is always in there ready to break the sack or help if help is needed.

When we lost our best bred foal a couple of years ago he came to the vets and said do anything we possibly can to save him and we would sell whatever we had to sell to pay the vet fees, he was gutted when we lost him :-(

He spent weeks stripping copper in the garage on a night to save up to pay for my WOW saddle to help my back. He's a good un!
 
My non-horsey other half and I at a trekking centre when we were on holiday - bless, I giggle ever time I see this shot but he seemed to enjoy it!!

 
Shysmum said:
Hubs is brilliant with my lad, even though he is non horsey and has to take anti histamines. He's even had a go at riding...which Shy thought was brilliant :D

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hehe love it!
 
Loving these stories!

My hubby is most definitely an "indoors man". He will come to the yard from time to time though usually it's only when the sun is out and it hasn't rained in weeks.
When he does come to the yard, he is more interested in the many yard cats.

Once he came to the yard when Rosie couldn't be turned out due to being wormed, I took her for a hand graze. Hubby then offered to take over whist I went and mucked out. I believe he was thinking that this would make our visit quicker! There was a method in his madness. Anyway, I slightly nervously left him to it and Rosie seemed quite happy.

No more than five minutes later, hubby and Rosie appeared at the stable door.
"I've brought her back as she won't stop eating!"
Erm that was the idea? He couldn't see it. Lol.
 
My OH isn't horsey although he spent years working on farms and is always telling me that I take too long up the yard. He came with me one night a few winters ago when I had to muck out the stables before bringing the two horses in. When I was nearly ready to go and get the horses from the field he offered to go and get them for me. Off he went with the headcollars and then the next thing I knew my cob came running into the barn all by himself. Apparently OH decided that one was enough to lead and he was sure the other knew where he was going so just opened the gate and let him out! Luckily my cob decided to come in instead of turning the other way out of the lane and taking himself off down the road! I've never let him bring the horses in since!
 
My other half is also not horsey, but is an absolute gem as far as caring for them goes. He's quite competent in the feeding, checking and poo picking, now. Can't get him on one, though. Yesterday evening he helped me move 8 field mats by pushing a wheelbarrow through a sludgy track. That's a keeper!
 
My husband isn't horsey but will look after them if he is working from home and I have to go in to the office, he also can't resist making a fuss of them every time he walks past the stables if they have their heads out. He will also take the little one for a walk or tether him somewhere to eat grass if I am riding the big horse. He will also groom the little one if he walks past whilst I'm grooming the big one. He still says he doesn't like horses though and won’t get on one :D
 
My OH was also non-horsey and spent the first 30 years of our marriage saying I couldn't have a horse on the grounds that we'd never have any money, he'd never see me, and if I learnt to drive he'd never see the car either. Then I got a horse by stealth (on full loan from best friend, told OH that it would only cost same as weekly lesson!!) Two years on I was dropping huge hints about Japer needing a new stable rug, and his best mate said "Thought you said she couldn't have a horse anyway". His reply was that if he had realised how much it meant to me, and what a difference it would make to my happiness I'd have had one thirty year ago. Jasper got his new rug - and anything else he needed. Sadly, I lost the OH in Dec 2010 (3 months after Jasper,2010 was not a good year!) but discovered that he mentioned in his will that I was to find myself another horse. which is partly why I now have an Eric!!
 
wonderful, admit that brought tears to my eyes.

Nessa4 said:
My OH was also non-horsey and spent the first 30 years of our marriage saying I couldn't have a horse on the grounds that we'd never have any money, he'd never see me, and if I learnt to drive he'd never see the car either. Then I got a horse by stealth (on full loan from best friend, told OH that it would only cost same as weekly lesson!!) Two years on I was dropping huge hints about Japer needing a new stable rug, and his best mate said "Thought you said she couldn't have a horse anyway". His reply was that if he had realised how much it meant to me, and what a difference it would make to my happiness I'd have had one thirty year ago. Jasper got his new rug - and anything else he needed. Sadly, I lost the OH in Dec 2010 (3 months after Jasper,2010 was not a good year!) but discovered that he mentioned in his will that I was to find myself another horse. which is partly why I now have an Eric!!
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As a family only me and my daughter were horsey - that was until we got my daughter her first pony. The very first night she was here OH decided about 10.00 it was turning cold so he offered to go down and put a rug on her after about 45 minutes he still wasn't back from the field and I was starting to worry. Eventually he turned up he had been trying to put the rug on in the middle of the field with only his torch for light and it had taken him a few go's to get the rug the right way up. The pony bless her had just stood there and let him mess about.

One of the funniest things was when my eldest son offered to go down and feed both ponies - they saw him coming with the buckets and started to run towards him - he thought they were going to attack him so he took off running across the field carrying the buckets , both ponies chased after him. We were yelling from the gate to drop the buckets but he couldn't hear us. Eventually the penny dropped and he threw the buckets away from him and both ponies stopped to eat.
To this day he swears that they were going to eat him.
 
I've managed to avoid the title of 'Husband' so far, but over the past 5 years, my other half has been indoctrinating me into this strange world with it's own language and customs. Where 'hacking' is a nice trip out rather than something you do with an axe, where you can't use 'tack' to pin a notice to a corkboard, where 'deep litter' is a good thing, where a 'chestnut' isn't something you'd want to roast, nor a 'cob' something to be sliced, buttered and dipped in your soup.

I've been taught to muck out stables, mix feed, fill haynets, identify colic, wield a shavings fork and had the additional permissions on my older licence put to use pulling trailers and driving lorries. I can now change rugs, tack up, lunge and even ride (with a reasonable record of not falling off).

I started off Non-Horsey....... but my conversion has been both subtle and insidious! To all my brothers out there in relationships with these horsewomen, they are a cunning and devious breed, be careful - they'll get you too!
 
My husband is non horsey..... Waste of money he calls them! But I feel very sorry for my husband.....he plays golf!

That said, if I'm ill or not working my usual shift he will check on madam for me. Granted its a 'she's got 4 legs, no sign of blood or illness, she can stand and walk fine' check. He will also throw feed and hay in!

At my old field he did all my maintenance for me and he will, on A summers evening, help me poo pick! He supports me at shows, doesn't mind about the amount of hours I'm there (a half decent hack takes about the same time as a round of golf)
 
Super proud of my deeply unhorsey husband, who led my friend's pony in on New Year's Day, having once stroked a horse. He also mucked out mine (took out the poo, love him, he could do no more!) and I taught him to tie up a haynet :rolleyes3: In all my time riding, he has never been interested and has filmed or taken a pic under duress only! :biggrin3:
 
DropbearUK said:
I started off Non-Horsey....... but my conversion has been both subtle and insidious! To all my brothers out there in relationships with these horsewomen, they are a cunning and devious breed, be careful - they'll get you too!
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One of the truest statements I have ever read.

Damn them.
 
What a sweet thing to do

Nessa4 said:
My OH was also non-horsey and spent the first 30 years of our marriage saying I couldn't have a horse on the grounds that we'd never have any money, he'd never see me, and if I learnt to drive he'd never see the car either. Then I got a horse by stealth (on full loan from best friend, told OH that it would only cost same as weekly lesson!!) Two years on I was dropping huge hints about Japer needing a new stable rug, and his best mate said "Thought you said she couldn't have a horse anyway". His reply was that if he had realised how much it meant to me, and what a difference it would make to my happiness I'd have had one thirty year ago. Jasper got his new rug - and anything else he needed. Sadly, I lost the OH in Dec 2010 (3 months after Jasper,2010 was not a good year!) but discovered that he mentioned in his will that I was to find myself another horse. which is partly why I now have an Eric!!
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Ooh made me cry

Nessa4 said:
My OH was also non-horsey and spent the first 30 years of our marriage saying I couldn't have a horse on the grounds that we'd never have any money, he'd never see me, and if I learnt to drive he'd never see the car either. Then I got a horse by stealth (on full loan from best friend, told OH that it would only cost same as weekly lesson!!) Two years on I was dropping huge hints about Japer needing a new stable rug, and his best mate said "Thought you said she couldn't have a horse anyway". His reply was that if he had realised how much it meant to me, and what a difference it would make to my happiness I'd have had one thirty year ago. Jasper got his new rug - and anything else he needed. Sadly, I lost the OH in Dec 2010 (3 months after Jasper,2010 was not a good year!) but discovered that he mentioned in his will that I was to find myself another horse. which is partly why I now have an Eric!!
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DropbearUK said:
I've managed to avoid the title of 'Husband' so far, but over the past 5 years, my other half has been indoctrinating me into this strange world with it's own language and customs. Where 'hacking' is a nice trip out rather than something you do with an axe, where you can't use 'tack' to pin a notice to a corkboard, where 'deep litter' is a good thing, where a 'chestnut' isn't something you'd want to roast, nor a 'cob' something to be sliced, buttered and dipped in your soup.

I've been taught to muck out stables, mix feed, fill haynets, identify colic, wield a shavings fork and had the additional permissions on my older licence put to use pulling trailers and driving lorries. I can now change rugs, tack up, lunge and even ride (with a reasonable record of not falling off).

I started off Non-Horsey....... but my conversion has been both subtle and insidious! To all my brothers out there in relationships with these horsewomen, they are a cunning and devious breed, be careful - they'll get you too!
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My husband says you've been mugged off, as he rubs his legs from the 8 wheel barrows of poo he collected today, after he had put the pony in the stable to stop it from annoying him........ I don't think he's ready to admit quite yet.
 
Nessa4 said:
My OH was also non-horsey and spent the first 30 years of our marriage saying I couldn't have a horse on the grounds that we'd never have any money, he'd never see me, and if I learnt to drive he'd never see the car either. Then I got a horse by stealth (on full loan from best friend, told OH that it would only cost same as weekly lesson!!) Two years on I was dropping huge hints about Japer needing a new stable rug, and his best mate said "Thought you said she couldn't have a horse anyway". His reply was that if he had realised how much it meant to me, and what a difference it would make to my happiness I'd have had one thirty year ago. Jasper got his new rug - and anything else he needed. Sadly, I lost the OH in Dec 2010 (3 months after Jasper,2010 was not a good year!) but discovered that he mentioned in his will that I was to find myself another horse. which is partly why I now have an Eric!!
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That is so lovely, I'm not usually the teary type but that really touched me.
 
Haha these posts had me chuckling away like a right nutter!
My hubs isn't horsey at all but says he could ride as a child (think rural African village, skinny kid on skinny horse, bareback with a piece of rope somehow attached to its head!) :D
He is preparing to buy me my first very own horse though - he knows it's been my dream since I was a girl and wants to make it come true bless him!
I'm so excited - must remember not to forget about said hubby when horsey arrives though lol!!
 
The day my OH first met my children and my horses we were going to hunter trials and he said he would come and watch. I had my 17.3 warmblood and the girls 10 and 14 at the time had their 13.3 arab and 15.2 trakener with us and the lorry. we picked him up in the lorry and from that moment on I was in horse owner/ rider mode so I didn't give it much thought. I had him holding horses brushing tails filling waters and nets skipping out etc..... He didn't complain once but he hasnt come to a comp in the 6 years since.... He has admitted he was trying to impress me and the girls but was absolutely petrified mostly of the little arab x who was convince he would have food so nipped his pockets and ripped his coat. Now he will fix things at the yard and help out occasionally with yard work but wont hold the horses/ ponies at all. He just cant understand my fascination at all. He says that I must be mad. I don't care i know my priorities are a bit strange to him but they need me more. He just accepts that we have different views and hobbies. NEVER EVER would he sit on one but when weather was really bad the other night he did suggest that we go down and get them in, they were of course already in I knew tyhe weather was gonna be bad.....
 
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