OH said ' no ' to getting another dog , methods of getting my own way please

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Got 4 lovely dogs which are well behaved and a calm pack to live with , i compete at obedience and agility with them and have tonnes of rossette's , been after a border collie from the same lines as my boy for a while and the breeder who has a waiting list has a litter due next week , bearing in mind it will be a good 2 years before a new dog will be ready to compete i don't want to wait untill on of my present dogs has passed on to rainbow bridge , which is what my hubby said when i asked for a puppy , my eldest dog at present is 7 so could be a while [ thankfully ]
Need some methods suggesting to get my own way , [ beer goggles have so far got me 3 dogs and a pony ]
No way am i taking no as the final answer , my dogs are my life , it has been suggested by friends to just go and get the puppy anyway then deal with the aftermath , hubby works away monday to friday so i can't see why another dog is a problem , am i been selfish ? your views please . thanks
 
katielou said:
If my husband set flat out no to me about anything that should be a discussion, something i am paying for or caring for he would not be my husband anymore :o
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^^^ that

however, when I wanted a pup I did have to listen to hubby and wouldnt have just gone against him as I have a busy life and there are times when i have to ask him to let all the dogs out and feed them etc if im not home; therefore my argument of 'oh but it would be mine and you wouldnt even notice 1 more' fell flat:o

i just persisted and got my own way in the end:D sadly, my pup died at 18months, just when we were about to start competing, her first running order had come through the post that week:(:(:( So that was us back down to 4. It took a good 6 months but then i was ready for another and I think hubby was expecting it, so now have 8 month old Star:D

I do find it a lot of work though, its easier now my other 3 are all in the same grade , so only one course to walk haha, and the 4th is retired and is hubbys dog anyway;) but much though i enjoy training a pup there are times when having to do everything seperately with her again makes me realise how easy things were before as as you said, they all work as pack like clockwork in a routine.
 
If your OH works away surely working and looking after 5 dogs will take up a lot of your time? Presumably they will also take up a lot of time over the weekends by the time you have taken into consideration walking, feeding, training, competing etc?
Personally I am with your OH.
 
lexiedhb said:
Get it, sneak it in and see how long you can keep it hidden before he notices- bet its at least a month.....
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LOL I did that with a rat I brought it home on the bus, sneaked it into my bedroom, set up the cage, had it a couple of days before I fessed up to the olds!:) Recon it could have stayed secret longer, but was feel too guilty to stay quiet any longer!!
 
It doesn't sound as though he is being unreasonable really. It sounds as though you have discussed it and he has agreed to getting another when one of the current dogs dies, so the comments saying he's not discussing it and get rid of him are a bit harsh! Your "I'm not taking no for an answer" comments do sound a tad selfish to me. Its not as though he has said no to dogs full stop, just that he thinks four is enough.
 
maisiemoo said:
Got 4 lovely dogs which are well behaved and a calm pack to live with , i compete at obedience and agility with them and have tonnes of rossette's , been after a border collie from the same lines as my boy for a while and the breeder who has a waiting list has a litter due next week , bearing in mind it will be a good 2 years before a new dog will be ready to compete i don't want to wait untill on of my present dogs has passed on to rainbow bridge , which is what my hubby said when i asked for a puppy , my eldest dog at present is 7 so could be a while [ thankfully ]
Need some methods suggesting to get my own way , [ beer goggles have so far got me 3 dogs and a pony ]
No way am i taking no as the final answer , my dogs are my life , it has been suggested by friends to just go and get the puppy anyway then deal with the aftermath , hubby works away monday to friday so i can't see why another dog is a problem , am i been selfish ? your views please . thanks
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Get it,bring it home. What's he going to do - divorce you? I think not. :cool:
 
My OH and I had this discussion ( mind you I only wanted to increase from 1 dog to 2). He said no he didn't want another puppy especially as dog 1 was only 6 months old. I didn't deliberately go out to buy another one but when I was helping transport 2 horses rescued by a friend and there was the last in a litter of JRTs needing a home I just couldn't help myself. Went home with the pup that evening and thought I would just deal with the fallout. It lasted about 30 minutes and then he was smitten. Milo and Mitch are now known as 'double trouble' and they are often to be found curled up on his lap in the evening.
 
I thought your title meant you had one dog, and wanted to go up to two, and I was all prepared to say that two was the best number of dogs, you can leave them to their own devices and don't have to get too involved (can you tell I'm the horse person in the family, and OH is the dog person!). Personally, five dogs would be three too many for me, but we have four now.
 
Just take 1 home, I've done it twice now, I did it nearly 13 years ago with my 2nd dog, I phoned other half when in the car with puppy on my way home, he said no, but by the time I got home with him he couldn't resist the cute puppy. Then I did it agian with my 4th dog, I had phoned up about her when she was a day old (she was a blue/white BC from agility lines that I'd wanted for years), I went to see her at 6 days old and told him when I got home, he said we'll show me the pics then. I was up to 5 dogs last year ( I bred a litter & kept the lilac girl), but lost my oldest (nearly 16) at Easter. I'm planning on my next pup in about 2 years time. Like you I compete at agility and ideally like to have 2 dogs competing, although I've only had 1 competing for the last 2 years, hopefully have my youngster out next year.
 
Oenoke said:
Just take 1 home, I've done it twice now, I did it nearly 13 years ago with my 2nd dog, I phoned other half when in the car with puppy on my way home, he said no, but by the time I got home with him he couldn't resist the cute puppy. Then I did it agian with my 4th dog, I had phoned up about her when she was a day old (she was a blue/white BC from agility lines that I'd wanted for years), I went to see her at 6 days old and told him when I got home, he said we'll show me the pics then. I was up to 5 dogs last year ( I bred a litter & kept the lilac girl), but lost my oldest (nearly 16) at Easter. I'm planning on my next pup in about 2 years time. Like you I compete at agility and ideally like to have 2 dogs competing, although I've only had 1 competing for the last 2 years, hopefully have my youngster out next year.
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i know how you feel, it feels odd only having 1 dog competing, when my pup comes out next year Il have 4 competing, eeek! I did think my older dog who is 9 would be retiring this season but she darned near won a combined 6/7 agility a couple of weeks ago! She was leading right to the end then got pipped at the post and came 2nd, dont think she is ready to retire yet:D
 
You say beer works which could be the starting point...!! :D

Having had a similar situation recently (but only wanting to increase from 1 to 2) I would say ask him what worries him the most about adding another (puppy). Our current dog was my OH's when we moved in, I had lost my old dog by this point and didnt want another immediately. Now I do want my 'own' dog, all of them are just part of the family, but his dog goes off to work with him every day and I have to schedule time in to potter off for a walk. In terms of fuss and loyalty she is very much our dog now and I adore her, but I couldnt see any reason why not to have another. She is 8 now and I think a good time to bring a puppy in, while she is still very playful and healthy.

After a LOT of discussion (and a tiny but of foot stamping) it came to light that he is worried that our current dog's "quirky" behaviour will be passed on to new dog and we will live out the rest of our lives with passed on habits and quirks that we love, but can be challenging and sometimes tiresome. Having found this out I was able to suggest different breeds and crosses of dogs that would potentially fit in very well with our household, but not copy the JRTxPatterdale! My parents lab's and friend's collies and spaniels etc all play with her and socialise very well, but take no notice of her funny little ways. His mum's JRT picked them up straight away...

So I guess finding out why he thinks no is the way to go, and see if you can resolve it... if his reason for saying no is unfounded then you have your answer! :D Good luck, it sounds like our house suffers from more chaos with just the one dog in it!!
 
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