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Pointless post I guess, but I lost my boy 2 years ago, 6 year old has her own pony, but I do not see it as my own, even though I love him to bits, and obviously the main carer :)

I feel like I would like another, so that we can ride out together .!!!!!

So here it is, I hada nasty accident on my old boy, which turned me from the worlds most brave rider into, I want a 100 per cent plod, with gears when I need them, plus a horse I can lead from!!!


Is £2000 asking too little money, I have not started looking yet, but I am soo nervous of starting the initial start, I have friends posting TBs which are like my old boy, but again nervous I will compare, even though to most he was a nightmare!!!

I know I am rambling, but can I find a sensible boy for this money ?
 
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Pointless post I guess, but I lost my boy 2 years ago, 6 year old has her own pony, but I do not see it as my own, even though I love him to bits, and obviously the main carer :)

I feel like I would like another, so that we can ride out together .!!!!!

So here it is, I hada nasty accident on my old boy, which turned me from the worlds most brave rider into, I want a 100 per cent plod, with gears when I need them, plus a horse I can lead from!!!


Is £2000 asking too little money, I have not started looking yet, but I am soo nervous of starting the initial start, I have friends posting TBs which are like my old boy, but again nervous I will compare, even though to most he was a nightmare!!!

I know I am rambling, but can I find a sensible boy for this money ?
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I dont know if £2,000 pound will cover it, but I've pm'd you so as not to mention any names :)
 
Not a pointless post at all! It is indeed very scary looking for a new horse and if you have lost your confidence then it is even harder.

There is no reason why you couldn't find the right horse for £2k if you are patient and can take your time. Maybe when you start your search then you could take a friend along who may be more confident to try the horse for you? I did this for a friend and it really helped her. She was happy to get on once the owner and myself had tried the horse.

If your confidence is low could you start by getting back into lessons? can you borrow a friends horse for this? It will all help, also the more contacts you can make then the more likely you can find a horse via word of mouth.

It is hard to replace a horse...I have just done it as my girl is retired. Everything is strange, I worried when handling him, leading him and I will be backing him (with assistance) and all I want to do is run back to my old girl and make her better! but I have to say that as time goes on I am starting to trust my new boy and I really hope you can find that trust again in another horse....no reason why you couldn't.
 
Yes I belive you could find a sensible hack for that budget. However it depends on what else you would like to do with it. If you want it to take you round a XC course still being a safe sensible ride then you may have to up your budget. But for a safe hacking Horse, you should be able to find one :)
 
Not pointless, it is a big deal to start looking for another horse, but you have made the first move by thinking that you would like to see what is out there. Most of us have cofidence issues at some time me more than most lol, but you are looking no one is going to make you buy the horse unless you feel that the time and the horse is right for you. , Not sure if I have got this right but seem to think that you are not that far away from me, if you would like and when Ebony is better you would be more than welcome to come over and have a go on her, she is a gentle giant and if she can look after peg leg I know she would take care of you, just a thought to get you back on something different not just saying this I really mean it let me know :)
 
Thanks guys, it is soo hard, daughter wants to know why I don't ride any more, so that is a hard question right away !!! As dont want to tell her why :(

She can't remember what happened!!!

It just makes me sick to my stomach, so want to find my best friend , which I know I am deluded, I am soo scared looking like a numpty infront of daughter I guess :o.

The best way I can describe it, is that I miss riding sooo much, but have far more enjoyment , ATM, watching her progress and become more confident, but the voice inside my head says ' get on with it and enjoy it together'


All I did was smash my hand and break ribs, have done worse, but that accident really shook me up for some reason :(

Thanks again

Wine and choccies for all that replied xx
 
Ow thanks guys , ebony we are quite far apart, I am in lincs and I think you are in Kent, yu live near my aunt :)

And you are not a peg leg but make me feel silly :) xxx

I think I need a slap across the face ad tell me to man up, I can openly admit I can talk the talk , but cant walk the walk :(
 
Hey...dont feel bad, as a mum you become more cautious anyway! I do not have the nerve I used to have. I am finding that it is building up over time.

Sounds like you are ready..how exciting! Your 6yo will probably show you up with her confidence...its inevitable! kids have no fear so I wouldn't worry about looking a little afraid in front of her! :)
 
have you ridden anything since your accident? and as for it knocking your confidence even though it's not the worst you have suffered i'll bet it's the worst since having your daughter;) having my kids made me realise i had more than just myself to worry about, it's not so much my confidence went but the awareness of my vulnerabilty increased!
have you friends whose horses you could ride a couple of times to get you back in the swing of things?
 
I have ridden since , and TBH enjoyed it until they were cantering on the spot etc ... :(

I find it hard to relax if I have to take a ride into consideration, if I can just let them expell their enegy then I am fine, if that makes sense !!!

I am odd I guess, and perhaps should call it a day :(
 
Did not explain rhat well, ... I get nervous with a horse that is being held up, which is what happens on rides, and us what happened when I had my accident, even though I was on my own.

Stupid stupid thing in my head that I can't get rid of.

I feel better TBH getting this off my chest, but still feel silly :(
 
Not at all....If I have understood...you need a ride that you can trust so that you can concentrate on your daughter?

Sounds like you have more confidence than you realise...its always a bit daunting hacking out on a friends horse... it takes a bit of time to be able to tell what tricks they might pull...its isn't easy to relax and any new horse is an unknown quantity.

it wouldn't take long for you to get to know a new one...and with your own horse you could get to know it in a schooling area or field first perhaps?
 
everybody, at some point has a dip in confidence. Don't beat yourself up about it!

You had a scary accident and it'll take time to get over, but you can do it. Don't push yourself too hard, and just take your time, there's no pressure.

Might not be the ideal situation, but maybe you could try having a riding lesson or two before you horse hunt? Just to have a couple of hours where you feel sfe and can build up your confidence some more?

You most certainly do not sound odd, and the only reason you should give up is if you want to, which I get the impression you don't really ;)

Good luck with it all :) x
 
not silly at all, i have a 17hh girl who can make you feel like an insignificant pea when she gets herself wound up and ready to go, she has given me some oh poop moments:o but then the next time out i'll be asking her for canter and then push her up a gear and because it's my choice i feel great and even laugh at her when she fights me to pull up! nobody likes feeling out of control so don't feel silly, and the fact that you are thinking about looking for another horse shows you're not ready to hang up your boots yet;)
 
Déjà vu! I know completely how you feel. My daughters older 12 now and buzzing with confidence but after 3 accidents this year I'm not so! I'm lucky I was given a horse from work who I knew like the back of my hand but the looking involved 2 wrong horses (due to erm helpful friends being pushy ) I've now told my daughter and i think she understands to the point that a super confident kid can do. I would just say go with gut instinct and don't ever rule out that older horse or the horse that requires a easier life. They can be priceless yet often cheaper! Good luck xx
 
I fully understand, I had a bad accident that stopped me riding for a good while and I sat by and watched my daughter enjoy her pony and progress, but I felt something was missing and almost dreamed of us riding together one day.
When I started horse shopping I found it so stressful, I was scared I'd get the wrong one.
I did as it happens but it ended well as my daughter stole him and they grew together and i did eventually get riding on him as he's now fab, but my god it was one of the hardest things I've ever done.

I spent 3k for the sort you describe, and got what turned out to be a newly backed rising 4 year old from a dodgy dealer :( he's now 6 and worth every penny and more :)

Just take your time, take a good friend along, and really know what you want.

Have you ridden since your accident? Lessons first on a variety of horses really helps. I found getting on an unknown quantity the worst part, it set panic into me.
I am still this way, but fine on a horse I know and trust.

Good luck, the horse bug just never leaves you !! :D
 
Yes I got my boy for less than 2k and he sounds like just what you would be after. He is a good hack, I would say perfect but he can be looky nothing to get you off and completly controllable, nothing that you would really notice unless you are novice or very very nervous, the occasional jump or side step. He babysits my friend on her exracer and we had her first canter in company together since she had a bad accident, now we take her daughter out and she had her first ever canter in company with us because her mums horse wasnt suitable. He is a donkey for flat work and has a great jump but you have to ride him properly.

This is him with the child mentioned above getting her confidence back after being bucked off her own pony.
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and jumping with me the other week
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He was a green 6 year old when I brought him that had been out of work for some time and although we have had some ups and downs if you can laugh at him its never become a problem. The only thing is that he has a dirty stop in him jumping but as he is getting more experiance he is doing it less and less.
 
Have you thought of trying "western"? I know at least three people who have been down the same road as you - horrifying accidents but loved horses too much to give it up - and have found the peace they need by changing to western riding. It's not just the security of a big saddle (but that helps!) but the western way is altogether more relaxed and, contrary to popular belief, we're not a bunch of wannabe cowboys. Have a look on www.theversatilehorse.com and see what you think...
 
I got mine for under £1k complete plod when u want him to be, also great gear changes only when wanted and fantastic with complete novices. he's an all round saint...and he's a tb! I know i was very lucky to find him.. but Keep looking there will be something out there.
 
Just to add to what others have said...I can totally relate as for the moment, I keep my horsey activities with daughter and my own horsey activities separate...I find the split of trying to concentrate on her, her pony, and me and my own an utter nightmare that just ruins the whole thing with my stress...I know this is because I haven't fully got my confidence going with my own lads, and need to work with them on my own/without her so I can just give them my undivided. It won't last forever - like you, I really want to ride with my daughter at some point...but only when I'm feeling fully confident to take the responsibility to take charge of it all...so for now, I just take the pressure of us all..one thing that we did last summer to get around this situation was to go to a nearby trekking centre, as a summer hols treat - yes, it was all very tame and ploddy but for the first time, I, daughter and even OH could ride together, with a really great member of staff leading daughter, which completely took the pressure off me - it also gave me a vision of how it would be lovely to ride together one day when its all in place...being aware of your limitations is a strength, not a weakness...break the whole process into manageable chunks and take small steps towards the big picture...good luck x ;)
 
Just as I different idea what about buying a 13-14h second pony type? If its a green younger one you could find a nice one for your money, still be safe & forwards & still get satisfaction from bringing it on. And when your daughter needs to move up you'll have a good pony you both trust already & you should have your confidence back enough to get whatever horse appeals. If I didn't still have my 14.2 its what I would have done, even though i'm still confident it just wouldn't be practical to have the type of horse I'd go for & hack out with my daughter unless I spent a fortune.
Also worth asking local pony club Mums, if I was nearby I'd gladly let you borrow mine. Could be wrong but i'm sure I saw you're smallish on another thread, so you might get offered safe but naughty kids ponies to ride too.
 
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