Racheljazz
New User
I am in a dilemma... I am a competant novice but have lost lots of confidence over last 18 months or so. I wasn't going to buy another horse but took the plunge recently. When i tried the horse i had no doubts at all and was very excited, however when i took delivery of her, that all changed. The horse was very very strong, bolshy, rude and was bolting to and from the field, i, or others at the yard could not hold her, we had to lead in bridle everywhere. In short it was horrible and trashed any confidence i had. I didn't want to go and see her, let alone do anything with her, but i did as i generally don't give up easily and i am very aware it was a new yard for the horse and she needed to settle etc etc.
However, things didn't settle so have moved her to another yard where to be fair she has settled very quickly and can get to and from field no problems.
The new problem is that now i don't trust her and we have no signs of a relationship starting. I know it can take time to build new relationships and bonds, but with my last two horses, the bond was very quick and i couldn't wait to go and see them! I don't look forward to going to see her, have barely ridden her and don't get any 'fuzzy' feeling knowing i am going up to see her. This to me, is all wrong. I don't expect an overnight connection at all, but i can't ignore that i feel the disaster in the first week/10 days of having her has ruined any chance we have together. She was sold to me as a total schoomistress and i'm sure she is, but her behaviour initially was certainly not a schoolmistress and i have lost all confidence around her and any horse. Everyone at the first yard all asked was i sure she was a schoolmistress due to her behaviour.
I am seriously debating selling her and giving up horses altogether now.
Helpful opinions be appreciated.
However, things didn't settle so have moved her to another yard where to be fair she has settled very quickly and can get to and from field no problems.
The new problem is that now i don't trust her and we have no signs of a relationship starting. I know it can take time to build new relationships and bonds, but with my last two horses, the bond was very quick and i couldn't wait to go and see them! I don't look forward to going to see her, have barely ridden her and don't get any 'fuzzy' feeling knowing i am going up to see her. This to me, is all wrong. I don't expect an overnight connection at all, but i can't ignore that i feel the disaster in the first week/10 days of having her has ruined any chance we have together. She was sold to me as a total schoomistress and i'm sure she is, but her behaviour initially was certainly not a schoolmistress and i have lost all confidence around her and any horse. Everyone at the first yard all asked was i sure she was a schoolmistress due to her behaviour.
I am seriously debating selling her and giving up horses altogether now.
Helpful opinions be appreciated.