charlotte79
Well-Known Member
ok so i have my wonderful mare 5yrs and have trained her myself...we have had many highs and lows alot of which were due to injury and illness. this season we have finally been fit enough to start hunter trialling and ode....we have been having a great time and came second at our first be 80 ode. Then we had a lesson with a new trainer last week xc schooling and BOY did things go wrong. .so i said we have been doing 80 and would like to try a little higher....well she overfaced us from the start and my mare started stopping....then every fence after was the same....instead of stopping this i kept trying...only to scare me and my mare more....we came away stressed, angry and worried. i am kicking myself for letting it carry on as i know my mare and shouldn't have pushed her like this....but i have and now things aren't great. i've had two lessons with my regular trainer who is fantastic and we have been jumping grids but i can feel my mare doesn't trust me and i'm riding negatively although trying so hard not to...i really don't want to mess my mare up after all these yrs of trying to get to where we are but i am finding it really hard to let go of whats happened and move on....i was hoping someone might have some advice on being overfaced and losing confidence...we were doing so well and i just want that back!