Partner in denial re dog

Your OH wouldn't be able to keep this behind closed doors if it wasn't for you working from home and being there for the dog.

If you weren't there a dog walker would have to come in every day and face the diarrhea. They wouldn't have a personal relationship to consider, they would say something or say "I'm out of here". He would pretty soon run out of dog walkers.
 
Archangel said:
Your OH wouldn't be able to keep this behind closed doors if it wasn't for you working from home and being there for the dog.

If you weren't there a dog walker would have to come in every day and face the diarrhea. They wouldn't have a personal relationship to consider, they would say something or say "I'm out of here". He would pretty soon run out of dog walkers.
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Well funny you should say that because after next week I plan to go and work at my mums 2 days a week. Just to break the week up and stare at my computer in a different space! Plus, of course time with my mum. However, the main reason is we will both be out all day and he will then need to face the consequences of that. To be fair the worse time is first thing in the morning and he always deals with that before leaving for work, but then I have to disinfect and clean up any other messes from the day and I won’t be around to do so.
 
Houndnothorse said:
Well funny you should say that because after next week I plan to go and work at my mums 2 days a week. Just to break the week up and stare at my computer in a different space! Plus, of course time with my mum. However, the main reason is we will both be out all day and he will then need to face the consequences of that. To be fair the worse time is first thing in the morning and he always deals with that before leaving for work, but then I have to disinfect and clean up any other messes from the day and I won’t be around to do so.
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That sounds like the best way forward, in fact I'd be tempted to go to mum's on more days.
 
Houndnothorse said:
I did the quality of life test. The score was 32 ( if you could score lower than 5 but not 1 he would’ve had a lot of these but I had to go with 5 on lots where he’s definitely less than this but 1 yet).
32 isn’t great but it’s perhaps better than I thought and still some QOL? I guess the point is to not get to all 1s?
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Houndnothorse said:
I did the QOL test again, 29. At what point is it too low?
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I can't tell you what is too low, but to give you something to compare against, I took the test for my Cornish Rex cat Berta, about 14½, who is dying of cancer, and might go downhill tomorrow, or if we're extremely lucky, perhaps not until 2 weeks, or maybe longer than that from now.

Today she gets a score of 60.
 
Even if you use the test as a push to get the cushings treatment started as without clearly the dog is compromised that’s a start, and gives him something ‘solid’ to see if that improvement gets the quality of life back to an acceptable level. I wouldn’t be waiting until next weekend for the vet, I’d go in early this week with a decent conversation of how much do we need to improve by in what areas and in what time frame. The vet should be able to give him some idea as to if that is realistic then you can get a short term course if it’s decided as worth a go with a set time point to reassess. IMO that’d be the ideal outcome at this point, but you’re the one that’s got to work out how to get the urgency of the situation across to your OH if you want the relationship to stay intact!
 
I would seriously consider whether your mum could "need you to stay" for a week to help her out with something. I just think he maybe needs to be left alone with the dog. You being there is allowing him to bury his head in the sand. My only concern with that approach is the dog being left alone during the day and potentially going downhill with no-one around. ?

Oh it's just very sad.
 
Hi
Sorry couldn’t really update yesterday.
I wasn’t allowed to vets, only 1 person allowed which is fair enough.
not much to say really, vets are going to prescribe something for cushings and review in a month. If they mentioned end of life, he hasn’t said anything about it to me.
To be be fair in the last few days the dog has got a second wind and is eating properly. He’s still sleeping all day and obviously still going to the loo in the house but he’s definitely perkier...
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Any updates yet?
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