Houndnothorse
Well-Known Member
Hi
I’d like to start by saying I’m not a dog person & by that I mean I like dogs but I’ve never wanted one & now I live with one I don’t see the appeal (sorry)! I do however appreciate that for many people they’re the best thing, family, best friends etc.
I moved in with my partner at the end of March and he has a Lab who’s now 12.5 years old. The dog has been fairly fecally incontinant for a year or so and it’s got worse to the point of 50% of the time he’s going to the toilet in the house & recently it’s become number 1s too. Although we’ve put measures in place to limit where he can roam it’s still awful & quite disgusting- it’s a huge strain on our relationship and the house often stinks. It also require daily hoovering, mopping etc and as my partner is still commuting for work this falls to me.
the dog can barely walk due to bad hind legs, has cushings, mild liver failure, isn’t eating much, is losing fur & has frequent UTI’s. My partner has him on about 4 different medications for pain etc. He does nothing except sleep all day but will still go for 2 short walks.
we’re supposed to be buying a house together, but have had to put this on hold because of the style of house we want wouldn’t work in this situation. My life is literally on hold because of a dog.
I think he needs to start thinking about letting him go but he’s in complete denial. We recently went away, minus dog & it was so lovely to wake up and walk around without worrying about stepping in anything, plus the apartment smelt lovely and fresh all the time. During this break he said he knew he needed to face up to the situation & how he acknowledged that this can’t continue, especially through the winter, but now we’re home he’s back to trying to find ways to prolong things. He’s seriously considering treating the cushings with long term drugs, asking the vet for continuous antibiotics to treat the UTI’s. And he’s ordered a kennel for the garden so in the winter he can be outside for some of the day! This dog hates being outside for longer than 15 minutes & will whine v loudly to be let in even on a lovely day. He’s also talking about next spring when we have another break booked, booking a dog sitter.
Im at the end of my rope. I can’t live like this indefinitely. As I said at the start I’m not a dog person and so have no experience but is this normal? Is this how it goes with everyone? You just put up with this for years??
I don’t know what to do!
I’d like to start by saying I’m not a dog person & by that I mean I like dogs but I’ve never wanted one & now I live with one I don’t see the appeal (sorry)! I do however appreciate that for many people they’re the best thing, family, best friends etc.
I moved in with my partner at the end of March and he has a Lab who’s now 12.5 years old. The dog has been fairly fecally incontinant for a year or so and it’s got worse to the point of 50% of the time he’s going to the toilet in the house & recently it’s become number 1s too. Although we’ve put measures in place to limit where he can roam it’s still awful & quite disgusting- it’s a huge strain on our relationship and the house often stinks. It also require daily hoovering, mopping etc and as my partner is still commuting for work this falls to me.
the dog can barely walk due to bad hind legs, has cushings, mild liver failure, isn’t eating much, is losing fur & has frequent UTI’s. My partner has him on about 4 different medications for pain etc. He does nothing except sleep all day but will still go for 2 short walks.
we’re supposed to be buying a house together, but have had to put this on hold because of the style of house we want wouldn’t work in this situation. My life is literally on hold because of a dog.
I think he needs to start thinking about letting him go but he’s in complete denial. We recently went away, minus dog & it was so lovely to wake up and walk around without worrying about stepping in anything, plus the apartment smelt lovely and fresh all the time. During this break he said he knew he needed to face up to the situation & how he acknowledged that this can’t continue, especially through the winter, but now we’re home he’s back to trying to find ways to prolong things. He’s seriously considering treating the cushings with long term drugs, asking the vet for continuous antibiotics to treat the UTI’s. And he’s ordered a kennel for the garden so in the winter he can be outside for some of the day! This dog hates being outside for longer than 15 minutes & will whine v loudly to be let in even on a lovely day. He’s also talking about next spring when we have another break booked, booking a dog sitter.
Im at the end of my rope. I can’t live like this indefinitely. As I said at the start I’m not a dog person and so have no experience but is this normal? Is this how it goes with everyone? You just put up with this for years??
I don’t know what to do!