Please help - I am obsessed with my horse...

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So after being interested in horses my whole life but parents not being able to afford lessons etc, at the age of 22 I started taking riding lessons. I caught the bug immediately and spent every spare moment I had at the riding school, offering to muck out etc!

Nearly 3 years on, after loaning a horse for a short time, I bought my very own horse! I have had her for 14 weeks now and am loving every minute!

Problem is - I spend every spare minute with her! My flat is a mess, my boyfriend feels totally neglected and I have no motiviation at work as I just spend the day counting down the hours till I can see my horsey!

Is this normal?!?!? :eek:

Other people at the yard seem to lead relitively "normal" lives. They have nights out with friends, weekends away with boyfriends and take part in other hobbies.

I have no interest in anything anymore unless it is horsey. I dont like to go on nights out as it means I will be hungover and wont be able to get up early and spend the day with my horse! When I am not at the yard, I am on the internet researching horsey related topics or reading horsey magazines.

I honestly think that if my boyfriend dumped me right now, I wouldn't even notice (haha, just joking.... I think)

I am obsessed - please help :D
 
Well, I had my last horse on loan over winter. I was up at the yard at 5.30am every morning to turn her out, muck out stable, fill haynets. I then went to work feeling really cheery and awake! Then back up after work to take her in. I would spend hours in the stable with her grooming her and generally admiring her. Haha! Maybe I need to get a life!
 
Sounds like normal everyday life to me :confused:

But then i am only two months into owning my beautiful boy :D I have had to prioritise and I think you should do the same.

I do have a sharer tho and I'm on a private yard so not the same as DIY and my social life is too manic to start thinking I don't want to go out, lol

I actually know someone who chose horse over boyfriend, lol
 
I also used to follow a strict beauty regime. Had manicured nails, highlighted hair, nice make up etc. but recently I think my inner horse goddess has been released and for the first time in my life I have felt happy and confident with the way I look. No make up, Jodphurs and a t shirt is the way forward! Haven't been to the hair dresser since last year! Haha! I think I have been suppressing a completely different personality all these years!!
 
I've owned mine for 3 years and am still like that. Although this year I've got better about leaving him when I'm away with work and I've even been on holiday for a week without too much stress!
 
Try 10 years :D with same horse! I still love every day with her and she has her kiss and hug every night. She's also broken men's hearts when I couldn't like them as much as her haha
You're completely normal haha
 
We all go through this stage (it lasts a long time!) but you have to find a balance to have a happy, healthy life. All my friends are horsey but its important to make time for non-horsey friends otherwise you won't have anyone when you need them. I've had boyfriends jealous of how much i love my horse but i also understand that they don't want to hear me yabbering on about how amazing my horse is, I also wouldn't like it if my boyfriend spent every hour playing football and had no time for me. Sometimes you have to just think about other people's feelings, if you're not that bothered about not seeing your boyfriend then best of without perhaps x
 
I am giving myself a bit of a grace period to get to know my horse and build a bond. Eventually I will have to prioritise my horse/life balance. My boyfriend is very understanding and I am lucky to have him so should defo pay him some more attention :-D
 
Try 5 years and still as obsessive as I was the first day I brought her home. My boyfriend knew this was the end of life as he knew it and left me on the day I went to view her! I honestly haven't missed him at all, nor have I wanted to replace him as I don't have time. I'm happy in my little bubble.
 
Its completely normal. I came back to riding in my early 40s getting on for 10 years ago, fell madly in love with The Oryx 1, bought him, spent all my time when not working with him, spent all my disposable income on him, and still lurve him to pieces. My OH reckons he is the other man in our marriage lol. I have owned him 9 years, he is the son I never had and my little soul mate.

It does wear off a little, but not much. Enjoy it, normal life will creep in soon enough.
 
*Turns a worryingly bright shade of green with envy*. Someday, someday, I will own a horse! Just wish it was today:rolleyes:!

Tayto said:
I am giving myself a bit of a grace period to get to know my horse and build a bond. Eventually I will have to prioritise my horse/life balance. My boyfriend is very understanding and I am lucky to have him so should defo pay him some more attention :-D
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Take him to the yard with you! He'll be filling haynets and mucking out your stable for you in no time:D!
 
While I am exactly the same and wouldn't change it for the world. I am much older, have had my family etc
I am single (no surprise there!)
I would be careful you don't lose everything over your obsession !!!

Non horsey friends and family will soon get fed up with it
 
Not to take this thread off the light hearted tone that was intended but tbh - I didn't really have friends before I got into horses. My one close friend had a baby and went off the radar :( the horsey world has opened up loads of doors for me and I have met some fab people who I have really clicked with :D maybe I am just making up for all the years I longed for a horse!
 
Winter, Summer, Spring and Autumn,.......four years on I'm as obsessed as day one!!

Thank the Lord it doesn't wear off and enjoy every moment, it's a gift. :D
 
Tayto said:
Not to take this thread off the light hearted tone that was intended but tbh - I didn't really have friends before I got into horses. My one close friend had a baby and went off the radar :( the horsey world has opened up loads of doors for me and I have met some fab people who I have really clicked with :D maybe I am just making up for all the years I longed for a horse!
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Good for you, I've found that they're mostly nutters!
 
I'm the same, after 7 year my oh has gone from sitting in the car with his engine running to hurry me up while I muck out :rolleyes: to helping with our own place, doing them on his own, carting me about to shows (he wanted a motorbike, I bought a lorry :p) and even having a ride round the school on one of mine. I think I've brainwashed him!

I only have friends because we all have children at school together, but I don't really see them much :o
 
I've been horse mad my whole life, my world revolves around them! It's terrible as I have no time for anything else and people at work are always commenting on my lack of socialising but I'm so much happier spending time with the horses than with other people. Hopefully when horse makes a full recovery, I can join a riding club and combine the two ;)
 
Sounds normal. You will do nights out eventually though personally I like to just pop and check on min. As I get home. My oh is used to it but then he can be a bit fixated with them when I'm away! Oh but I have the 2 best horses in the world and the best, cheekiest oldie so I would be obsessed seeing as they're so awesome!
 
Even as a bloke I think you are completely normal - well, normal for Horseydom.

Folk on here know that I was totally besotted with my dear old mare and every day of the seventeen years I looked after her was a pleasure - many's the time I've dragged myself to her injured, sick or exhausted and felt instantly better for going. She was the first thing I though about in the morning and the last thing at night with all the usual "I hope her rug hasn't slipped" type worries in between - never had a relationship like it - without words ( well on her part - I talked to her all the time!) and without precondition.

It did put the odd strain on other relationships though - I still enjoyed .... erm.... normal marital arrangements shall we say - but this tends to be problematic if one is an evening person while your OH prefers the mornings eh? That led to more than one tetchy hissy fit though I was helped out by supermare really being Mrs Firstclass's horse - I only took over when she decided she couldn't cope.

I sat with my mare as she died - nothing has come close to that for me despite being prepared ( aged 33 or more it's on the cards eh?) - such an overwhelming emptiness, the death of each parent hardly bothered me but I could often weep buckets over my mare over twenty years later.

Welcome to HorseyWorld. Have you heard the one about the girl with horses and a human lover? Lover, feels neglected and tells her that he's fed up playing second fiddle and will leave if she doesn't rein in - "it's either me or them flippin' orses" he cries - she goes for a ride to think things over!
 
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