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My lovely & irreplaceable Taz was PTS on Sunday, in the 4 short years I had owned him I helped him through Uveitis, Laminitis and finally a throat problem. I loved him with all my heart, he left a very big hole in my life. I was looking through horsemart on Monday when the 2nd horse I saw caught my eye. And he was local to me so I went to have a look. Well he is now with me on a weeks trial. So far he is perfect, very different from Taz but a nice gentle horse. I hoped that Taz would be with me for many years & probably be my last horse. Sadly that was not to be. I've had comments like " Had another already" and " It's too soon " And it's making me feel like I have done something wrong. I gave Taz the best I could give and will do the same for my new horse, he will never take the place of Taz but he will given the same love & care. Some will say I might have been hasty buying the first horse I look at but he is perfect for me in every way, which is too good an opportunity to miss. Do you think i'm being silly taking any notice of these people, or do you think they are right in what they are saying?
 
Just ignore them, loosing a horse is hard but you sound like a practical person and know what is best, when I lost my boy I found it so hard but got straight back in there with a new one (and that didnt work out, nor did the one after that and nor has the current one really but never mind thats another story!) and couldnt have coped without. If the right horse has come avaliable and you feel you are ready then go for it, as afterall you are the only one who will know :)
 
Pay no attention. You are lucky you found such a perfect horse so soon that's all, there's no need to trek up and down the country looking at loads of horses just to make it look acceptable. Enjoy your new boy :)
 
If the horse is right and you feel the time is right then the time is right. Everyone deals with these situations in their own way, some folk wait ages because they can't bear to 'replace' their departed horse; others can't bear the gap thta is left and fill it as soon as they can. This doesn't mean that you love Taz any the less, or that you wouold have sold Taz in favour of the new one.

It sound slike you gave Taz the best life you could, but sadly his time to go came a lot sooner than expected. If the new one is all that you want in a horse then go for it - if you miss the opportunity now, who knows how long you might have to wait for another?

Hope it all works out for you x.
 
having done the same thing myself it is too soon, i still cry bucket loads of my old fella. but that said im glad i have my new babies as they have helped me and i have developed a very strong bond very quickly.

only you can decide if its too soon or not.
 
no i dont think theyre right . this horse wont replace your last but may help .when my last horse died suddenly i was so grateful to have my daughters then 11.3 to look after. she kept me sane. a new horse doesnt replace the old but you do what is right for you . life is too short to worry about everybody else.
 
Really sorry to hear about Taz but if you want another horse then who the hell else's business is it? Ignore them, they'll forget about it as soon as there is something else to talk about.

Good luck to you and the new beast. You could show us a picture if it makes you feel better ;)
 
jesstickle said:
Really sorry to hear about Taz but if you want another horse then who the hell else's business is it? Ignore them, they'll forget about it as soon as there is something else to talk about.

Good luck to you and the new beast. You could show us a picture if it makes you feel better ;)
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I will when he's clean lol, he's hairy beast and has rolled in loads of mud x
 
losing a horse is awful, i couldnt imagine losing my boy, who's also called taz. i know that when i lost my pony the first thing me and mum done was go buy something else to take my mind of things, and that was buying taz, its got nothing to do with what other people think, if you feel its the right thing then it is, just keep thinking that taz wouldnt have wanted you to be upset after everything that you have done for him, a new horse will help you with the grieving process of losing him
 
So sorry about Taz, you must be heartbroken. Hope your new horse helps to get you through this time. He sounds lovely. People can be so thoughtless sometimes when they chat about the 'latest news' and you are probably more sensitive to what may seem a criticism. Don't take it to heart, those who matter to you will know how you feel. Being the best owner you can be to your new horse is the best memorial you can give to Taz. His legacy is everything he taught you.
 
horserider said:
So sorry about Taz, you must be heartbroken. Hope your new horse helps to get you through this time. He sounds lovely. People can be so thoughtless sometimes when they chat about the 'latest news' and you are probably more sensitive to what may seem a criticism. Don't take it to heart, those who matter to you will know how you feel. Being the best owner you can be to your new horse is the best memorial you can give to Taz. His legacy is everything he taught you.
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What a lovely thing to say, I'm blubbering again now. Your right sod em!!
 
I lost my lovely mare Holly to a broken leg in Dec 2005, Izzy came to me on 1st Jan 2006. I wasnt particuarly looking for a horse, just found myself browsing, went to see her and 5 yrs later shes still here. Everyone is different and the timing of it is entirely personal to you. Take no notice of anyone else, its your life, your loss and your future happiness. Hope it all goes well for you.
 
Dont worry people deal with it in different ways, im like that i get a new one straight away. Ive got an elderly dog, and already have another now as i know my days are limited with her (shes 15) and although i would never replace her i had her since i was as school, the thought of been without one altogether is horrid!!!
They are rude and unsympathetic, youd think theyd be helping you through this tough time rather than making snide comments!!!
Next time they say something say what good is wallowing at home going to do me.??
Hope you start feeling better soon, time is a great healer.:)
 
Spooky that JenTaz has the same name as you, Black_horse_white too!! Maybe Taz's find their way in to the lives on Jenny's! :g:

Knowing you personally, you're my dearest friend, I can honestly say that I don't think it's too soon for you.

Everyone handles/deals with grief differently. I strongly believe the void left in your life when Taz went was too much to bear. It doesn't mean you're fickle or flippant with your feelings towards Taz at all. Those who think that are just ignorant. It merely means that you cannot bear to live without a horse in your life....and I can fully appreciate that feeling.

Your new boy will never replace Taz. He will always command a special place in your heart. However, your heart is so big that you have more than enough room for the new fella to find a place in your heart reserved just for him.

Having him doesn't mean you're "over" Taz's loss at all, far from it, but he provides comfort for you while you're grieving.

It was fate. I truly believe you were destined to find him. Maybe Taz lined him up for you and therefore approves of him. Who knows?

After our lovely 2 1/2 hour hack today, you KNOW he's the right horse for you and I don't think you'd have found anything any "better" had you waited months and months. Enjoy him, you of all people deserve to have some fun xxx
 
I'm another who 'replaced' a horse almost immediately.
My horse was pts in an emergency on Easter Saturday a few years ago. We had other horses at home, so I had to keep on looking after them. I started looking at internet ads the same weekend, viewed one horse before I went back to my teaching job after Easter, although it wasn't suitable and had my new horse back at home before the MayDay bank holiday.
Only you know what is right for you, just ignore those people who feel the need to be unpleasant.
 
If it feels right, then it is right - only you know that - Taz was a great loss and anyone with any sense will know that your new one is not a Taz replacement, just a testament to how much Taz ment to you and in a way (some people will think this just plain stupid) but perhaps Taz sent this one to you to make up for him not being there.

Enjoy the new one, remember the good times with Taz and ignore those people who think they know better.

Good luck with your new horse.
 
Ignore them, they are not in your situation so not eligible to comment.
I am in a similar situation, in that I have taken the decision that my beloved mare would be less bored with my daughter in Southampton, so is going down there in Feb, hopefully to a better more active life, already I am looking forward to choosing her happy hacker replacment, your Taz will forever be in your thoughts, so enjoy your memories and your new boy, it is possible to do both
 
I replaced one Appy with another, before the old one had gone :eek: The Old Appy had retired, her friend of 20 years had died, we got the current Appy and they had two years of being together :) They were very good friends for the two years they were together. The time to get another horse is when you want to, or the right one turns up, not when interfeing idiots on a yard think it is right.
 
dont listen to any of them :) be glad you have found another you like so quickly, some people i know have been looking for months and are going crazy because they cant find anything :)
 
You know the best compliment you can give your last horse is to want to repeat the experience of owning with a 'new' horse.

One of my neighbours lost his dog a couple of years ago and has never replaced him with another, the sad thing is that he is absolutely miserable, but feels he is 'betraying' his old dog if he gets another. Such a shame when a dog is deprived of a loving home and the owner the chance of love and affection from a new companion.

I'm another who feels more complete when owning again straight away, you aren't replacing your last horse, just sharing your life with a new one!
 
I had Genie the day after I lost Mazzie. Ignore them and get to know your potential new horse. They will never replace your lovely Taz, but will forge a place of their own in your heart.
 
Black_Horse_White said:
My lovely & irreplaceable Taz was PTS on Sunday, in the 4 short years I had owned him I helped him through Uveitis, Laminitis and finally a throat problem. I loved him with all my heart, he left a very big hole in my life. I was looking through horsemart on Monday when the 2nd horse I saw caught my eye. And he was local to me so I went to have a look. Well he is now with me on a weeks trial. So far he is perfect, very different from Taz but a nice gentle horse. I hoped that Taz would be with me for many years & probably be my last horse. Sadly that was not to be. I've had comments like " Had another already" and " It's too soon " And it's making me feel like I have done something wrong. I gave Taz the best I could give and will do the same for my new horse, he will never take the place of Taz but he will given the same love & care. Some will say I might have been hasty buying the first horse I look at but he is perfect for me in every way, which is too good an opportunity to miss. Do you think i'm being silly taking any notice of these people, or do you think they are right in what they are saying?
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What horrible people! Everyone is different and you are not being disloyal to Taz by offering another horse a loving home. When my sister lost her horse a few years ago she collapsed with grief. We continue to scatter his ashes (there are a lot of them!) every year on the aniversary of his death. He is still the biggest thing she has lost in her life. She got a horse a few weeks after his death and I persuaded her to do so because she had such a big hole in her life. She loves this new horse to bits but in a different way to the one she lost. Take no notice of these thoughtless people.
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When my loan horse was cruely and suddenly taken back i honestly thought i wouldnt get another horse .. So my friend (dealer) offered for me to help her out to take my mind off him after he was gone and thats where i met Hon, i felt it was fate! She needed a loving home and some time to come round and i needed a horse to love :)
So she came home with me 5 days later. Im not saying taking on a 11yr old unhandled welsh d x after loosing a well behaved welsh a was easy but i wouldnt swap her for the world :D
 
really sorry you lost Taz. Noone has the right to tell you how to grieve, however i suspect they may just be looking out for you incase you jump into something to quickly if you are not thinking straight. If you feel hes the one go for it, i lost my mare in 2009 and it took me 7 months to find another and those were 7 long months, i feel the grief i experienced would have been made easier if i had another horse because i not ony missed HER but i missed my routine. You will never replace taz and i know you wouldnt even try, but he will be forever in your heart & im sure theres enough space in there for another x
 
I am so sorry you lost your boy!! I lost my boy at the end of september heartbreaking!! Still have a cry most of the time!!

I dont think its anyones business what you do tbf!! Just enjoy your new horse and deal with things in your own time, dont let anyone push you or tell you other wise!!

Enjoy its a new begining for you!!! :)
 
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