PTS tomorrow - help?!

Thank you all so so much. I really never anticipated such a heart warming response and people to share their experiences despite being upset and finding them hard to talk about. I've also had lovely, supportive PM's which I'm overwhelmed by.

I do find it hard to talk about it all but being on here with people who understand is making it easier and helping me to accept. I feel much better and reassured now that the desicion is the right one and he'll be in a better place.

I know it'll be an emotional day but I feel more confident about handling tomorrow and giving him a send off he so deserves.

Thank you once again - I'm extremely grateful for your support x
 
Really hope tomorrow goes as well as it can in these circumstances, will be thinking about you, I'm facing a similar decision and its so very, very hard when they are bright but constantly up and down with lameness. My little lad is lame again after hooleying around the field on Sunday, if he's lame enough to warrent box rest each time he has a good hooley, something isn't right and its massively upsetting to have to contemplate life without him :(

If its any help at all, it sounds like you are making the best decision. It truly sounds like you've given him every chance and as many have said better one day to early than one to late.
 
I browsed your thread and couldnt leave without saying something. I suspect your heart knows the answer. And it is the hardest decision i ever made. I know it is the hardest decision you will.

But it is also the most honourable one. And you are being very brave.
 
Thinking of you. You are doing the right thing for him. I had mine pts last month - felt awful, guilty - very mixed emotions about being the right time. And now a month on I know was the right thing to do. Take Care. x
 
Sorry to hear this. I lost my lovely Rebel last October. His arthritis had got dramatically worse. He could barely turn round, stood in the field at the gate whereas he used to nearly tow me to the field and was generally unhappy. I knew a couple of weeks before I lost him that he wasn't going to make it through another winter. He was hurting. I couldn't book it in advance - it's just not how I could personally have dealt with it. So one Friday night I brought him in and I just knew that I couldn't see him in pain anymore. I got one of the other liveries to phone my vet on her mobile so I knew that it would be her that would come out, and even before she got there I knew what the outcome would be. 15 minutes after the vet arrived, Rebel was PTS. But d'you know what? He walked up the yard better than he had walked in months. He marched to the grass area at the top of the yard and just stood there. He knew. I was devastated and I am sobbing as I write this, but it was the best thing I could have done for him. It hurts like hell, but send him on his way quietly and my boy will be there waiting for him. xx
 
My boy's going tomorrow too, i'm trying so hard to be brave for him, and you need to do the same, which i'm sure we both will manage. Once it's done, their pain will be gone. It's a horrible part of being a responsible horse owner. Best wishes, and hugs xx
 
Montysmum1 - I hope it goes smoothly and your ok. My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain. I'll be thinking of you.

I spent some time with him tonight, he had a nice special feed, I took some photos and sat watching him quietly. The rain has returned here but it's humid and I could see he was agitated, kicking out with his bad legs and been slightly grumpy (he's a sweet natured boy)... It reassured me that it's time and made me feel less guilty.

He then wandered off munching on the grass. I couldn't help but smile for him.

A nice early start to go and enjoy our last morning before sending him to horsey heaven is planned.

Thank you all so so much for your brave, honest opinions. I don't think I could of got my head around it all without your help xxx
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your horse. I'm sure whatever you decide to do will be the right thing and for the right reasons. Having had one of our horse's PTS a couple of years ago, I know how you feel - if you want to talk feel free to PM me. :)
 
The waiting is the worst part.
I know what you must be going through, it's awful, you'll be in my thoughts tomorrow *hugs* good luck and quoting war horse "Be brave...be brave" xx
 
Oh sweetheart, i was in the same situation 3 years ago. Poor horse was ******ed, it just broke my heart. I wanted him to live forever, but it wasn't to be. Like your horse, he would have died a slow and painful death, so decided to put him to sleep. (not supposed to bury horsses any more but...) The day he was put down, i had to move him to my parents house, and do you think he would load.... i was crying, when he did load, he turned his headand held my gaze. I was so upset. I still miss my boy, and always will. But I will always know it was best fir him, he would have died a slow and painful death otherwise. xx
 
Thoughts to montysmum and milesjess from me too, hope all goes well and you can take comfort from knowing it is the last most precious thing you can do for them. xx
 
Thank you all x

He had a lovely morning with a big special breakfast. A nice brush and massage then munched on the nice, long grass with his best friend.

The vet and collector from the crematorium where lovely and very supportive.

It wasnt nice to watch but I stayed with him through it until he was gone.

It's the hardest thing I've ever done and so heartbreaking that words cannot explain.

Took some time off work to grieve and come to terms with it.

Thank you everyone. I couldn't have done it without support and understanding. My heart goes out to anyone else who's lost their beloved animal or in the same situation xxx
 
When my old lurcher died (PTS) I said it was hard to be too sad, she'd had a good life and a fine death eating chicken from my fingers till her tongue just rested!

That's what that end decision gives, a good death, I want a good death and I want it for as many animals I own or care for as possible. It's not a dirty word, it's an inevitable part of life, just one not talked about.

I hope my being so blunt isn't upsetting - I think you have done a fine thing and you deserve for that to ease some of the grief.
 
RIP I am glad he had a lovely morning x It is so hard and so sad but it gets better with time - 3 times now and every time hurts as much:( But I know in time the happy memories will surface above the sadness and it will happen for you too. (((hugs)))
 
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