"Put your life before your horses" DH quote.....

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Is this a joke......? I'd have hought that after 4+ years he'd have realised horses ARE my life. Duh! Anyone else with non-horsey husbands/partners feel like banging their head on a brick wall? Or am I being silly and got priorities wrong? When we began dating and for first couple of years he always came 2 stables and helped n now he just sulks moans and winges....... Dont know what to do/how to handle it cause I just wanna throttle him for trying to change my priorities now.
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lol i have a similar problem with my OH he works so hard that the time we have together is precious, he is good though and doesn't whinge, although I have taken on a share of a horse at my yard so that he can ride with me when he can.

the best one was at work when I kept on getting in trouble with my boss for being late and covered in mud, he told me to reasses my priorities. I did and handed in my notice the same day!

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I'm 25 years into a relationship and he still fights against the fact horses are what I live for! This in spite of the fact two of our kids ride daily, we are out most weekends doing horsey stuff, we (well, HE) converted every last inch of this property to accomodate horses safely and my initials are GG (his fault)
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Totally sympathise, I have been with my OH for 14years at the outset he came to shows, held horses and even came to watch and help at the yard. I think he has admitted some degree o defeat as we now have 2 stables at home, so i am just at the top of the garden, but I still get the begrudged sulking if they get in the way of his plans.
We have reached a compromise on shows etc, I go to shows on saturdys when he is at work so it does not interfere too much with 'our' time and tbh it suits me on saturdays so I can have aday of rest before being back to work on Monday.
I think you have to weigh up the pros and cons and use your womanly charm, they have to understand that horses are a permanent fixture.
PS also got my OH a shotgun (for winter hobby) and a boat and some golf clubs (for summer entertainment).
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Mine went through a wingeing stage. However I don't think the problem was the horses it was just the sheer amount of time I was spending down the yard yapping and drinking coffee!!
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Now we are on our own land. I have my horses, he has his chooks and his cow and we are both happy with that set up. He actually loves the horses and keeps going on that Gerry (avatar) is his horse!! Hmmmm!! I don't fink soooo!!

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lol Bonza the yapping and coffe are my social life
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Binkybex, think I'd do the same if my boss said that! lol

Just think Stu and I want totally diff things, like he wants his games gonsoles a homely wife (haha!) and 2.4 kids in a nice detatched and I want a farm surrounded by horses and selfish as it may be it's always been my intention as I've made clear to him from the start and although I'll compromise I'm not prepared to be moaned at constantly and sometimes feel like telling him to take a hike if he cant zip it.
 
I just dont get the whole grown man on a computer game?
I think its different on a livery yard, when mine where on ayard I was always in arush to get things done, where as now I can do bits and bobs when ever it fits in. I think that you need to assess whether it is just a passing stage (due to the warmer weather=spending longer at the yard) or it is more serious issue!
If you want a bitchy moan about men please feel free to PM me!
 
Sounds like he needs a hobby of his own.
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I am lucky in that the horses pay for our livelihood so no whinges on my front. Actually my husband really does like the horses, particularly he enjoys watching them when we sit outside with a glass of wine in the evening.
 
I am quite lucky in that I took up riding as a hobby as I was bored of sitting watching OH play computer games and decided instead of moaning about it I would get a hobby of my own.
Last year was a bit though as I was out all weekend with the horses and I think it was wearing thin but this year I have managed to find a groove, esp. now it is summer and can be up the yard, ride, natter do my jobs and still be home just as he is waking up LOL He doesn't even notice my absence...... and the house is starting to get a bit tidier now too.
 
I got an OH with his own hobby - Rugby - every weekend and 2 nights a week he disappears - in the summer I encourage cricket, and then I keep buying him new computer games to play so I have no hassle at all. You just got to know how to manage them.
 
I think I am lucky. My OH has his own hobby but does lots for me any my ponies (fencing, holding, building etc) and lets me spend lots of money on them.
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My Ex used to winge constantly and tell me that if I loved him I would give up the horses for him - hence he is my EX!!!! New OH is a football fanatic so helpfully he is either watching or playing most of the time, leaving me to spend hours and hours with my neddies
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Match made in heaven!!!
 
Mine is doing a degree in his spare time and likes me to be out of the house for a few hours every day, very convenient. He has finally realised that whatever time I say I will be home from the yard, add half an hour to an hour and that's much nearer the truth.
 
ive had the'its me or the horse' several times and always chose the horse. present OH does grumble but knows the score, he does wish i did the house work to the same standard i keep my stables though
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wish he'd take up golf!
he did moan when he rang me to see why i wasnt home and i told him i was giving one of the horses a massage with peppermint liniment, because OH had a sore leg and i hadnt offered him a massage - i offered to bring the liniment home with me but he declined
 
My H is a bit like this - he works abroad a lot and is a golfer at the weekend so gets a bit peeved if he is at home and I am out "horsing". He does not get that just because he is at home early one night I should not have to be as well. I kind of see his point, I ride every night after work so don't get in until gone 9pm but thats just how it works!
 
mine complains about 'real' time and 'jessica time' too, ie i'm just plaiting this mane, i'll be 5 minutes
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Been with my hubbie since I was 16 and he knows horses are my life and they are what makes me happy , he does have the odd grumble every now and again but he will do anything for me ...go to shows, feed,clean out, even lead at balmoral lol .

He knows exactly where horses stand in my life and he knows I will never change .

Im pretty sure hes given up most of his hobbies to accomadate mine
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but now that Im driving the past year hes just started going back to fishing and shooting .
 
Having only just got my horsey I am trying very hard to keep OH happy, in the end my OH is the most important (just!) He has been down the yard once to take pics, and he even helped to muck out! Just trying to juggle things so we still see each other and he doesn't start moaning!
 
My OH told me that he was jealous of the time and attention I lavished on my first horse so I pointed out that it could be worse i.e. I could have been having an affair - lol! He seemed to take this on board and he has now got a lot more horsey himself. We have just bought another horse and OH is reading all the horse books he can get his hands on as well as going to the yard every day which is great because we are still spending time together and I am still spending time with my horses.
 
The thing that makes me laugh is that if we were sat at home moaning about them going out with their mates or playing sport and saying 'oh please come home and spend some quality time with meeee' they would hate it! Its ok for us to be sat at home while they are out but they don't like it vice versa!!!
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My OH has always know I love horses but Amber is the first horse we got together. He hated the time I spent at the yard, moaned about the bills etc- even though I had stressed all of this a million times before we started looking!
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My way to win him over? I brought him a shetland. Did it work? Yes
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That and the fact I completly ignore him when he winges
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