RANT - People not taking responsibility for their horses behaviour

[tabithakat64]

Why do people expect perfection from their horses and at the first sign of a problem want to get a new horse rather than making the effort to work through the problem?

My friends daughters horse has become nappy when show jumping probably as it is always hacked and mostly schooled with other horses whilst at home.
The daughter who is 13 is refusing to take the horse to shows as she does not want to be humilated and my friend feels at 13 her daughter shouldn't be expected to put in the work (hacking alone, regular gridwork lessons etc) needed to correct the bad habit her daughter has allowed the horse to get into. Neither of them are willing to accept any responsibility for the horses current behaviour or take any critcism from their instructor about the daughters riding and it's really getting on my nerves

especially as I helped them find this horse and it's not the first time they have behaved in this way, certainly wont be helping them look for a new horse which they want to rush into immediately.

 

[alicep]

hopefully the pony will end up with someone who IS willing to sort the problem and get the best out of it. but i agree it happens far too much nowadays

 

[Smash]

Is she in the pony club by and chance?

Sounds quite typical of the 'Mummy I want a new pony!' Brigade.

The mother isn't doing her any favours by pandering to the daughters behaviour, but what can you do? Especially if they won't even listen to their instructor.

Very sad for the poor horse.

 

[tabithakat64]

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Is she in the pony club by and chance?

[/ QUOTE ] LOL how did know

 

[mickey]

It's a demonstration of today's disposable soceity I am afraid, the first sign of a problem and people are all too happy to give up. Personally I believe that there is more to be gained in terms of learning and expereince, and indeed in possible reward by working through issues.....Unless of course the horse is totally dangerous/beyone help. But I agree with you these people need a good slap.

 

[Accy]

I just think its sad and seen all to often nowadays, I hope the pony goes to someone who will sort the problems and get it all working right

 

[oliviacharley]

SOunds really sad for the horse and a typical behaviour problem they are causing for the horse.
I used to love problem horses when I was younger and carefree about being injured....sounds like they are not trully dedicated to the horse and are just riders...
Prob better off for the horse to go to a home where it can be understood and respected.
Maybe a schoolmaster would be better for them..?

 

[Grumpy Herbert]

I agree that the horse would be better off with someone willing to put the time and effort into sorting out its problems. If it stays where it is, the chances are it'll become unmanageable and unsellable, with many "issues". The people who have him currently really need to think about why they want a horse ie is it just a status symbol for them. (sounds quite likely!) We've all met these types, I'm sure!

 

[Enfys]

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Is she in the pony club by and chance?

[/ QUOTE ] LOL how did know

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Spoilt child by the sound of it, although it is actually the fault of the parents, not the child.

Why does everyone say that?

The PC comment isn't really fair you know.
I know dozens of PC children who work incredibly hard to improve themselves and their ponies, from families from all walks of life and from many different PCs.

 

[Smash]

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Why does everyone say that?

The PC comment isn't really fair you know.
I know dozens of PC children who work incredibly hard to improve themselves and their ponies, from families from all walks of life and from many different PCs.

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yeah, I know - I was making a joke based on stereotypes, which of course do not speak for everyone.

In this case, I was right.

 

[aimeerose]

Sadly the horse in question was pretty much the perfect school master to begin with - has spent 6 month peforming perfectly. been jumping BN double clears and dressaging successfully at novice (prier to going to the new home)

sadly it a valuable lesson that you cant belt horses about like ponies, go galloping with friends, funrides etc, put in no schooling/disipline and expect to be able to wang them at showjump fences from all angles and expect them to jump!

maybe a firm word and new 'outlook' will do the trick, if not horse will be home pronto - have no doubt

 

[wizzi901]

problem therein lies in the wording "has become nappy", back to the rider!!

 

[jesterfaerie]

I really do hope that something will be done with this pony, it is very upsetting that people are like this. But I agree with Mickey saying that it's a demonstration of today's disposable soceity! It is horribe that riders/owners today to just be able to do anything and everything with their horses without having to put the effort into ensuring that they are correctly schooled and behaved.