paddi22
Well-Known Member
Just spinning this off from the other thread were the yo was offended her liveries didn't ask her out hacking. This isn't about her case but just in general to have a theoretical discussion on it (not about that case in particular)
Reasons I would not ask my old YOs out on hacks would be
- Its my time off and i'd prefer to go with a close friend and have a personal chat about marriage issues, personal issues etc
- I'd be wary of making too close friends with the YO and possibly falling out down the line and messing up livery arrangements or causing at atmosphere
- i am paying for a service and don't want to blur lines. As someone said, you don't invite the hotel manager to lunch
- I mightn't like the yo, or just not have much in common
- i'd be wary of other liveries thinking i was favourited in some ways, and imaging there was preferential treatment going on
- i would assume she has enough of her own horses to ride and wouldn't be bothered
- i never realised she wanted to
-i'd be terrified it would turn into a regular thing and i'd be tied into it and feel like i couldn't say no with offending her
Saying that the last yard I was at i'd consider myself good friends with the yo, but i find it much easier since i moved the horses home to grow our friendship
But i can understand 1200 reasons why someone wouldn't ask their yo to hack
Reasons I would not ask my old YOs out on hacks would be
- Its my time off and i'd prefer to go with a close friend and have a personal chat about marriage issues, personal issues etc
- I'd be wary of making too close friends with the YO and possibly falling out down the line and messing up livery arrangements or causing at atmosphere
- i am paying for a service and don't want to blur lines. As someone said, you don't invite the hotel manager to lunch
- I mightn't like the yo, or just not have much in common
- i'd be wary of other liveries thinking i was favourited in some ways, and imaging there was preferential treatment going on
- i would assume she has enough of her own horses to ride and wouldn't be bothered
- i never realised she wanted to
-i'd be terrified it would turn into a regular thing and i'd be tied into it and feel like i couldn't say no with offending her
Saying that the last yard I was at i'd consider myself good friends with the yo, but i find it much easier since i moved the horses home to grow our friendship
But i can understand 1200 reasons why someone wouldn't ask their yo to hack