Sexism when buying/ training a horse

I have to agree Lev
Not just what had been posted on the other post, but also.. 13 and on hho on xmas day at that time of the morning?
 
jingle troll..... what 13 year old can spell 'pessimism', 'negativity' but not the word 'clever'? I've also never met a 13 year old that says 'aside from' at any time in conversations. kids these days say 'apart from' on the whole
 
paddi22 said:
jingle troll..... what 13 year old can spell 'pessimism', 'negativity' but not the word 'clever'? I've also never met a 13 year old that says 'aside from' at any time in conversations. kids these days say 'apart from' on the whole
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Jingle troll ..I really like that
 
I read this and my immediate thought was "this was not written by a 13yo" so there is that. The other thing was that they glamorize this horse like one would see in a typical "horse" movie.

Re the mans/womans horse thing, its harping back to the 1800 when a horse was to be perfectly behaved and controllable for a lady and a mans horse had to be a little bit spicy cause it made them feel more manly to be able to stay on/ride it (aka usually a younger horse or new horse) Its 2017 and things have not changed much other than the fact we no longer need a womans horse to be a meek little darling. We can bloody well sit on that wild beast too.
 
Lévrier;13694078 said:
Sorry no, read the other thread the troll has kicked off this morning - I am being grossly unfair and of course the OP is legit 13 according to the HHO massive, so of course it must be true :p :D
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No need for that. I commented on that thread, so assume you include me in the snarky "HHO massive" comment.

I'd rather be duped by 1000 trolls, and help one person personally. The constant troll calling on here is really unpleasant to read, whether or not it's justified.
 
Absolutely Agree A. I too would far rather risk feeding a troll than fail to help someone in need. Especially a child.
 
equi said:
Re the mans/womans horse thing, its harping back to the 1800 when a horse was to be perfectly behaved and controllable for a lady and a mans horse had to be a little bit spicy cause it made them feel more manly to be able to stay on/ride it (aka usually a younger horse or new horse) Its 2017 and things have not changed much other than the fact we no longer need a womans horse to be a meek little darling. We can bloody well sit on that wild beast too.
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We dont ride sidesaddle like they used to then!! :D A ladies sidesaddle hunter had to be polite, mannerly and comfortable
 
stormox said:
This thread, and others like it, makes me rather concerned that unhorsey parents are going out and buying unsuitable animals, possibly from slightly unscrupulous dealers who would say anything to sell a horse, for their children rather than spend the money on lessons and getting the child experience with horses with pony camps etc.
Is this part of the 'I want I want ok you get' culture that is prevalant now?
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agree
 
This is a rather sad thread. I, for one, don't find the tone of some of the responses helpful, regardless of the merits of their contents. Sorry, that's my opinion.
 
Emily T said:
Like, what?! No lady’s horse? I’m sorry gentlemen, but why dont you ride him?
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I most probably could but then some of those sexist girl riders do keep telling me a don't ride like a man so probably would be able to handle him. That said, for a cupcake with iced unicorn I would give it a go.
 
Eh, I used to write like that at her age. It smacks of showing off and wanting to appear more grown-up, now, which I figure was exactly my problem :D I was also the insufferable sort who was secretly glad when my horse started napping dramatically on a busy residential street, because then surely lots of people would see what a good rider I was ;) So yeah - this all sounds genuine enough to me..!
 
Completely understand where you’re coming from!! I’m 5ft 24 years old but look very very young.. people often speak down to me like I don’t no Anything It’s very frustrating!!if your happy with your horse and feel like your managing well with him then ignore every one else!! There always people that want to put others down! Showing worry or concern is one thing but when they start putting you down then that when it’s best for there comments to go in one ear and out the other! :) just remember most of these people are probably just worried about your well being and coming from a good place so try not to get too upset

Good luck!! :)
 
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paddi22 said:
jingle troll..... what 13 year old can spell 'pessimism', 'negativity' but not the word 'clever'? I've also never met a 13 year old that says 'aside from' at any time in conversations. kids these days say 'apart from' on the whole
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I cant even spell those words without google 🙈🙊
 
This could have been me at 13. My pony was an absolute goat at times, including running off with me regularly, I used to think he was bolting, as I've got older I realise I just couldn't stop. I remember one day he ran under a tree, and knocked me off when he had tanked off, I was knocked out and it was a pretty unpleasant few days, as I could hardly stand up, yet I rode home first!
The problem is these days people will sue there instructor if they are injured, or rather your parents might, which will make them very wary about teaching you. I'm very gung ho, including with my teaching, but there are things I wouldn't let kids do that I used to because of health and safety.
As to sexism, I worked in racing for over 15 years, and saw a lot of it. There would be lads rides (big strapping colts ) and girls rides (mental fillys that might flip over) and that was how it was. I worked for a trainer who would rarely put a girl on a colt when I went there, although that has changed a lot!
 
I kept him and he’s actually changed so much thanks to professionals which have helped me. He’s way better now and I’m even more in love than I was at the start
 
Not so much as buying a second horse but more of a trade in. We actually ended up keeping him and he’s changed so much he’s a new horse.
 
I didn’t want praise I just wanted so see if others had gone through thd same thing. And i actually knew I needed help and I didn’t want him tamed. I wanted him to cooperate with me! And looks like I did beat the odds as he’s actually a lovely ride these days
 
I know you don't want praise but forgive me for saying well done for sticking with him and working through the challenges.
 
Im confused, is OP the same girl who said her horse bolted and was also a real handful only a few days ago? But is now saying hes a "new horse" and is "lovely to ride these days"?

With regard to the post - Ive never come across sexism with horses. I do think some horses suit women or men for whatever reason but at the end of the day it doesnt sound like they're being sexist as much as just worrying about you due to your age and inexperience and what sounds like a difficult horse. The fact he bit the farrier is pretty horrific IMO!
 
MagicMelon said:
Im confused, is OP the same girl who said her horse bolted and was also a real handful only a few days ago? But is now saying hes a "new horse" and is "lovely to ride these days"?

With regard to the post - Ive never come across sexism with horses. I do think some horses suit women or men for whatever reason but at the end of the day it doesnt sound like they're being sexist as much as just worrying about you due to your age and inexperience and what sounds like a difficult horse. The fact he bit the farrier is pretty horrific IMO!
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No different people. This OP is 13yo with 15hh strong cob that they could not control.
 
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