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Hi, I am feeling really bad about this at the moment, I’m not sure why exactly but I feel like I shouldn’t be on here. I am only 13 but I haven’t posted anything that has caused retaliation and I know what I’m doing so the advice isn’t worthless. Sorry about this but what are everybody’s views? Thanks
 
MrsMozart said:
I don't know what the issue is.

Maybe some more detail or a bit more explanation?
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Sorry, I’m it 100% sure but just thinking maybe that I am to young to be allowed to give advice to people who started on this website before I was born, are 4x my age. It just didn’t feel quite right.
 
CaitlinGB said:
Sorry, I’m it 100% sure but just thinking maybe that I am to young to be allowed to give advice to people who started on this website before I was born, are 4x my age. It just didn’t feel quite right.
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i don't think that in itself is too much of an issue. But you do need to make sure that you are staying safe online.
 
CaitlinGB said:
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Im sorry, I just want to know if anybody has in issue with it.
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The beauty of a forum is you can be anonymous. Nobody needs to know who you are or how old you are (but you’ve now told us anyway ?). If you feel qualified to offer advice then you should be able to do so and likewise if you need advice then ask away. There are people 3 x your age that probably shouldn’t be on a forum because they think they know it all and actually know very little!
 
CaitlinGB said:
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Im sorry, I just want to know if anybody has in issue with it.
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With what, exactly?

The biggest issue with your age is safeguarding, as MP says. You should probably think about asking admin to change your name, if that's your real name. You should probably also avoid identifying yourself by naming your horse / posting about your locations.

Your advice is likely to be judged on its merits. If it's good advice, it'll be well received. If it's not, you'll probably be told it's not. Don't take it personally - you never know who you're talking to online.
 
meleeka said:
The beauty of a forum is you can be anonymous. Nobody needs to know who you are or how old you are (but you’ve now told us anyway ?). If you feel qualified to offer advice then you should be able to do so and likewise if you need advice then ask away. There are people 3 x your age that probably shouldn’t be on a forum because they think they know it all and actually know very little!
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?ok thanks! I’m feeling a but better now
 
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JFTDWS said:
With what, exactly?

The biggest issue with your age is safeguarding, as MP says. You should probably think about asking admin to change your name, if that's your real name. You should probably also avoid identifying yourself by naming your horse / posting about your locations.

Your advice is likely to be judged on its merits. If it's good advice, it'll be well received. If it's not, you'll probably be told it's not. Don't take it personally - you never know who you're talking to online.
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Thanks?
 
You have just as much to offer as everyone else on here. It's not a forum for experts, it's forum for horse lovers, so you qualify :).
Each poster is unique. We have energetic teenagers, arthritic grannies, complete beginners and time served professionals on here. Some posters ride for a living, some only hack and never break into a trot.
This is what makes the forum work so well as a community. Please feel comfortable and keep reading and posting threads.
 
Younger users are allowed on here, but it is part of the forum‘s terms and rules that they should get prior approval from a parent or guardian for everything they post. See Terms are Rules at the bottom of the page.

4.9If under the age of 18 a User will need to obtain a parent or guardian's permission before posting anything onto the Forum. You should never reveal personal information about yourself, such as your name, age, address, telephone number and school

Folk are mostly pretty helpful on here, but identifying yourself as a 13yo could attract unwelcome responses, especially if you can readily be identified IRL.
 
Echo that. Keep your real name (or anything like your real name), your age and where you are secret. And bear in mind that folk will not know you are a child so they might be more caustic with you than they would if they realised. Don't take it to heart.

But if it upsets you come off the forum - and any other social media you want to. Above all protect yourself and your mental health. If you are uncomfortable with someone someone says to you online - not just here, anywhere - talk to your parents or a trusted adult. There are also online orignisations you can turn to if you want support - I would particualrly reccommend "Shout" an text based real life support service text 85258 https://www.giveusashout.org/

And we all have things to learn from eah other - age has nothing to do with it!
 
I just think that people sometimes mistake advice with 'experiences' - you can have had an experience with a horse which the outcome or journey might be useful to someone to know, over your lifetime experiences like this might help you form ideas which can help you advise people on something you then feel you have more knowledge about.

Share your experiences, they can be really helpful to people who might be going through the same thing, doesnt matter if you are 13 or 93 - everyone has difference experiences, and they be helpful for people to know that other people went through the same thing. Where people can get upset is they think you are offering advice & claiming to be more knowledgable! No one knows everything about everything, but some people do have more experiences which can mean they can give advice based on repeated experience!

I fall firmly in the if my experiences are useful to someone, I will happily share them ;):D
 
JFTDWS said:
With what, exactly?

The biggest issue with your age is safeguarding, as MP says. You should probably think about asking admin to change your name, if that's your real name. You should probably also avoid identifying yourself by naming your horse / posting about your locations.

Your advice is likely to be judged on its merits. If it's good advice, it'll be well received. If it's not, you'll probably be told it's not. Don't take it personally - you never know who you're talking to online.
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Full agreement with not sharing too much detail that could allow somebody to figure out the real-life identity of the Original Poster. But my advice in this would be to ask Admins to destroy the account (or simply abandon the account) and then come back and open a new one... it might be possible to find a user's new name after it has been changed.


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On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog, unless you open an account under the name of Fido and start threads discussing whether Minced Morsels tastes better than Winalot.
 
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ycbm said:
And not even then, given the thread we recently had about tasting your horse's food ?
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When I was a kid, if I was stuck at the yard and I’d run out of food I used to eat pony nuts, soaked sugar beet and regularly steal the horses’s carrots. I also ate a bonio as a dare/joke when I was about 12, actually it was tasty and super crunchy and I liked it. Did it do me any harm? Neigh ?
 
Similar conversation not long ago ended up with a real life human flexion test....!
Let the leg down, took one step and immediately fell flat on my face.
Apparently I’m crocked ??
 
I'm another saying get your username changed and come back annoumously. Whilst this forum is one of the loveliest I'm on you need to ensure you stay safe. ?
 
P.forpony said:
Similar conversation not long ago ended up with a real life human flexion test....!
Let the leg down, took one step and immediately fell flat on my face.
Apparently I’m crocked ??
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Sorry Caitlin clearly I’m old enough to be senile and post a reply on the wrong thread!

You’re very welcome here it’s a wonderful place to learn and ask questions.
Just make sure you’re safety is the top priority ?
 
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